Why would a husband keep contesting a divorce? He already has a girlfriend.?

H.O.T. Dog

Contesting a divorce is different that counter-sueing. It means to me that he is not ready to cut you loose... better married to you than "have" to marry that girl friend he has.

A contested divorce is seldom granted as even if it is awarded the person contesting can now appeal that Judges decision and over-turn the decision... Most Judges won't put their reputations on the line to have a "divorce" decision overturned on them... Just the breaks hon.

When my divorce was contested... simular situation - girlfriend and all - I still believe he contested the divorce just to prove "his control" of even that situation...

Good Luck Hon... And I mean it too.

Hot Dog

BillyBob

Its about the money.

renosgirl2006

He doesn't want to give you HIS money if HE has ANY. ; 0

Terrence B

He's trying to screw with your head. Don't let him.

rdnekwomn73120

my exhusband did the same thing. The reasoning behind his idiocy was because even though he was with someonelse, he could tell the woman that he was still married and that their relationship could not go any farther. Unfortunately for him, I showed up at their door with the divorce papers... hehehe good luck.

Momma

Hire a Private investigator,

and then you'll have proof that he is contesting Due to MONETARY reasons,

Meg

Lottie W

Alcohol is making his decisions for him. It doesn't have to make sense. Alcohol just wants to have attention, cause you pain, and relishes drama.
In a lucid moment, he might not want to so his new girlfriend won't pester him to get married.
Proceed! It is the best present you ever gave yourself.
And don't remarry. Learn to love being single.

justme

His lawyer and probably yours are making money by the hour so the longer it takes the more they make. Don't you have grounds such as irreconcilable differences in your state or no fault?

Cutie Pie

the old saying, "its cheaper to keep her" he wouldnt be paying you alimony if he dont divorce you. plus he probably dont want to pay all those fees that come along with getting a actual divorce

forjj

spite, anger, etc. would be one issue. second, the longer he puts it off, the longer he gets to keep the money, and spend the money. if you don't do something to speed things along, he may have spent a lot of money that you were hoping to get. worse, he could be spending/giving it to his new G/F

tangerine

That's a good question. Even though he has a girlfriend, he may still have feelings for you. You also mentioned that there is substantial money involved, so that may have something to do with it. It's also possible that he wants to keep the ball in his court and have all the power, so he refuses to give you what you want out of spite.

p00756

Probably the money and to be spiteful.

Sasha R

Spite, revenge, and money!

okiemuskvet

its all about the money and in his eyes, not paying you. In his lawyers eyes string it out as long as possible to get as much money as he can from him too.

Youve got him bent over with the abuse thing and also with his girlfriend. You are still married, right? That is adultry.... He is going to pay, he knows it and is just trying to put it off. Little does he know that the longer he puts it off, the more his Lawyer is getting from him. So in reality he is paying the both of you more and more as time goes on, but due to his MALE EGO AND PRIDE, he is only screwing himself.

jay k

Looks like the lawyers are going to have to duke it out. The question is the grounds you gave for divorce is in question.

rootbeeriiz

It's the money - he's going to have to pay you alimony/spousal support as long as you don't remarry and he's probably not liking that. Also, maybe the idea of the divorce is a sign of failure in his eyes and he just can't face it - the finality of it all. My boyfriend went through it with his ex-wife. He just couldn't get divorced, even though we were together and very happy, it was very hard for him to "get divorced" and have his marriage end. He was the 1st one in his Italian Catholic family to ever get divorced and he felt like a failure. Could this possibly be your husband? Just not wanting to have the title of "ex-husband" on him? I hope it works out for you. I'm divorced also and it's never easy, but it does get easier.

jenniferk5683

You have every right to get a divorce and dont let anyone tell you its not right. Let the court system handle everything. They will decide who gets what and the money situation. Its too bad he doesnt want to pay you that is how things go and he is going to just have to face the facts be a man and get on with his life. I would get things going as soon as possible so that he doesnt wait until you do start dating and try to blame everything on you. It doesnt matter anyway he is going to have to pay regardless

Seehaze J

Of course its about the money.. Its clear that its his money and you want it and he doesn't want to give it to you. the longer he delays it the less he will have to pay and since its so obvious that all you want is the money, I have to agree with him.

Get a job and support yourself.

â™¥â™¥Princess Abbyâ™¥â™¥

wow..i think he has a girl.

Reyloe

This is what's happening to my dad. My stepmom is seeing someone else and won't divorce him (not that he's going for it strong enough). She is doing it out of spite for him. She doesn't want him to be happy if she can't have him, perhaps your husband is doing the same?

Dood

He's trying to discourage you from taking his money.

Ash

He is just trying to confuse you

LittleMissKnowItAll

No grounds for divorce? This guy is a complete moron! You can cite as little as irreconcilable differences and be granted the divorce. This is absolutely about the money. Seems like they may be stalling for some reason. Hiding money maybe? Awaiting some sort of law change? Or just making you wait longer for your share out of spite?

T_C_FLY

LOL! It's always money. I know of a contested will (with substancial money too) that has taken years to iron out. During this time 3 of the 12 people have passed away.
Someone always has some sort of objection. Even on the day of a court trial, he might check to see if everyone is there. If someone is out sick, (a character witness for him) it would have to be posponed. Believe me, it could even be if they were trying for a particular judge as to if they will appear that day in court and all will go as planned.
I would say get on with your own life and let the lawyer do what he is paid to do.

crossstitchkelly

It sounds like he doesn't want to have to give up 1/2 of that "substantial money." A divorce settlement will generally split assets and debts down the middle, plus he would have to pay child support if there are kids involved. Did you file for divorce in a no-fault state? If you did, what he's probably contesting is what the divorce settlement might be. When I divorced, my ex-husband was caught in a bald-faced lie about our assets while he was on the stand, and I was splitting everything down the middle, so the judge took my settlement proposal and the divorce was final in a month. On the other hand, when my husband divorced his first wife, she just wanted him to take his pickup truck and be gone, while she kept the house, other car, furnishings, etc., and they fought over the settlement for over a year.

wizjp

Just not happy with the terms

my middle name is danger

he might be tring to move his money around so he won't have to pay you what you desrve .if your lawyer is any good he'll figure out whats going on and the best way to combat it

vallendoll

could be that its a case of he doesnt want you, but does not want anyone else to have you. A very simple way to find out his motive is. have your lawyer, say "what will make him sign and stop contesting?"

i really cant believe your lawyer has not asked that yet. irreconcilable difference is grounds enough. and if you are still legally married and he has a girlfriend that is adultery. depending on your state that could be bad for him, California i believe though is a no fault state. Good luck!

squishy

Many times a man will not sign divorse papers cause there is alamony involved. If they dont sign, they are still married to you and not responsible for alimony payments. Plus, I know one girl who's husband wouldn't sign the papers and he gets to charge his wife for all his medical expenses that he doesn't pay. if he's still married, his wife is equally liabale for her husbands bills.

Katie F

He probably doesn't understand how bad it's been for you, and his side of the story will differ greatly as a consequence.

If your lawyer thinks you have a case, push ahead with it. Don't let him push you around any longer- he's been doing that for long enough.

Good on you for leaving, and I wish you all the best

alexandriaferrari1

Some men feel their ex wives are chattel..He is being selfish, maybe to make his girlfriend jealous, maybe he is confused,
or maybe he has feelings. It could be alot of stuff but about the money he is bitter and just trying to make it as difficult as he can..becasue he can. Stand Firm. Good Luck!

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