Wife at Pool with Neighbors?

Brandilou

You are not overreacting. One need only know the name Mary Kay Letourneau to know your wife is playing with fire.

Racer

No, you're not overreacting. Unless they are all gay, of course they are going to look at her... they're teenage boys !!!!!

Ò‰â™¥Zainabs Muma & Due SepÒ‰â™¥

Hell no!! shes YOUR wife and its your right to protect her...I bet they are all having a right laugh and giggle about your wife...I would tell her to either cover up or stop allowing them into your pool.... Why does she wanna hang out with young guys anyway?? sounds like she likes the attention....My husband would NOT stand for that... I'm for HIS eyes only...

PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN!!

ndnqt1966

No you aren't overreacting...Your wife knows EXACTLY what she is doing and loving every minute of it....You have every right to be concerned....and I think the best thing is to for you to tell the teenage boys that it would better for them not to come over....Being that your wife can't grow up and act like a responsible married woman....

Lisa G

No, it sounds like she wants the attention.

She is not dumb. She knows what the
teenagers are thinking and saying.

I would tell her that she has to stay out there
with them to watch them (fully dressed), but
she can not swim with them unless she is
wearing a one-piece.

Best wishes

sanzo_21

no ur not

she should not invite teenage boys into ur pool in the first place.

Tryna-Hyde

not at all. your wife knows the teenage boys like what they see. she may even like that they like it too!

i'd tell her how i felt, and then give her some insight as to how the young boys' parents might feel about it. i'd suggest to her that she take back the offer to share the pool - if she's not going to cover up a little more.

good luck with that one!

*edit* i changed my mind. i agree with the person above who said "your wife shouldn't be inviting teenaged boys to the pool with her anyway"....yeah - what' s up with that?

nicolita

Sounds like your wife likes getting attention from younger boys.

be carefullllll

hagertygal

Talk to her about wearing appropriate clothing. You do not want to end up with the boys' parents causing trouble about this. As a parent of a teen-aged boy myself, I would feel uncomfortable with my son over there if she was dressed inappropriately.

Sean C

I don't think you're over reacting. I think in that situation, I'd feel the same way. Maybe she likes the attention she gets from them, makes her feel good to be looked at. But still if it makes you uncomfortable you should at least tell her.

I actually had to tell my wife this. She would go swimming at the neighbors pool. Now she on the other hand, knew that shw shouldn't wear her bikinis and just a one piece, but it stil made me a bit uncomfortable. I told her how I felt, she understood, and she didn't do it again. Unless i was also with her.

I know my wife is a good looking woman. And I can look at her and lust over her all the time, but there is something creepy about another dude thinking innapropriate things about your wife, esspecially when she's in swim gear.

it's a guy thing I guess..

Uncle Beavis

If it makes her uncomfortable, you were right to share it with her. If she ignores your feelings, something hinky may be up.

Bella

i completely agree with hagerty... first off, if i were those boys mother, i would not want them over at the neighbors house when the woman is dressed that way, much less alone... secondly, if i were your wife, i would cover up more, possibly not even wear a bathing suit when the boys were over and you were not home - you can never be too careful these days... i would think that this might cause some problems with your neighbors (the parents of the boys) eventually and i would have a real talk with her about this - either cover up, or dont allow the boys over when you are not home...

add - or have the boys mothers come over at the same time...

d-(^_^)-b

I don't think so. It's a tough situation though. You're wife is probably getting her confidence stroked by the boys. Which will make her more confident around you as well, which could allow you to reap a few benefits. But, on the other hand, you are probably right about those boys being total dogs towards her. Not that anything would ever happend between them, because I'm pretty sure your wife has a brain! lol
I think it would probably be easier to talk to the boys instead of your wife, being a woman myself, I know we can be pretty stubborn...
But as long as everything is staying innocent out there, I don't think there is an issue. But if you are uncomfortable with it, your wife should respect that. Ask her how she would feel if you were outside in the pool with a bunch of teenaged girls?

Twinkle

you'r not over reacting at all. as far as im concerned, she's your wife and if you have insecurities about the issue she should respect that.

godiva

No I don't thinkl you are over reacting. I think your wife is looking for attention in the wrong places. She should be looking towards you for that type of attention not teenage boys. and yes they are talking about her probably alot and already have gotten their friends in on it too. they come over to check her out and no telling what they are saying about her to each other but I'm sure you have an idea. Tell your wife to cut it out. that is not the type of attention she should be looking for. I put the fault on your wife. she's just asking for it.

Hold em Rox.

No your not overreacting.

And in this day and age she's playing with fire. There are so many ramifications/ consequences.

Ok first of all teen boys definitely lie about things that don't happen, what happens if they are over exaggerating what's going on and some parents here the lies?? Next thing you know the cops are showing up at your door to talk to the wife. (maybe worse)

What's the harm with her covering up when they are there? It does sound like she likes the attention.

Everyone knows full well how the teen boy brain works and what is on their minds 90% of the time. And yes eventually one of them will try to make a move.

Adults have to have boundaries when it comes to kids especially teenagers. Your wife isn't respecting those invisible lines. You don't flaunt your body around some neighborhood teenage kids. Well not if your an adult....

The Facilitator

you're not overreacting. that's your wife! as a man, you don't want anybody looking at your wife, regardless of their age. teenage boys always think about attractive older women, especially if there's one right in their backyard. them bringing friends over is a sign of that. and if she's that starved for attention, what's to say they won't make her an offer on day and she accepts. keep your guard up.

No More

She should show a little restraint and realize that she is only 30, so the age gap is not that great between her and those teenagers. You are going to end up with a bunch of kids that lust after your wife... and you had better keep an eye on her too!

If you really want to let them use the pool it should be at times when you are both there and it should not be so often that these kids feel entitled to use the pool. I know I am an old stick in the mud, but you have to realize the liability of a neighbor's kid getting hurt in your pool. You could really be open to a civil suit.

Try to get your wife to change it up around kids or she is going to get a rep in the neighborhood... Too much Desperate Housewives drama for me. Good Luck. Teenagers are horn-dogs... and men never really change.

Pinolera

Nope. Teenagers are quite hormonal and she is dressing quite inappropriately around them. She should either stay out of the pool or just go in it when you are there.

Tiel123

HELL NO!! are you over-reacting...a boy is a boy..you know how attractive your wife is...just tell her from a guys point of view.

I don't even know them but even i'm sure they're looking and talking about her.

Man Yogurt!

dude.

you = married a 30 year old attention junkie cougar who is going to be banging all the neighbor kids before you know it.

Does Stiffler know about this MILF?

And so on.

WHO ME

Of course they are talking about her. That's what teenage boys do.

You wife knows that and likes the attention. However if all they to is talk there is not a problem.

Brian A

No you are not overreacting. I bet the neighborhood gossip mill is talking about her as well. I am all for being neighborly, but I don't think this is appropriate.

Sam

You know those young horny studs are walking around sporting big, hard, boners. That has to get your wife all worked up.

Your wife seems very happy. I'm sure the neighbor guys are happy. The only person who isn't happy about this situation is you.

Classy chick

Not at all! She is loving this, those young boys staring at her and imagining what they may be able to do to her.
Call a Cement company when the wife is out and have them fill that Pool in. This will end badly either way.

conscience

Hmmmmmm. This sounds like a situation that needs to be studied up close. At which address did you say this whole thing took place?
once a teengae boy.....
: )

â™¥snow bunnyâ™¥

i think your wife knows exaxtly what she is doing. she isnt going to cheat on you most likely but she does like the attention from the younger guys.

Mary

My husband's mother is like this. When he was a teenager his friends wanted to come over ALL the time and it got to a point where it became just downright embarassing for him and he eventually stopped having them come over. We believe it's simply done by her because she works so hard trying to maintain her image and like everyone else has already said...she totally digs the attention she's getting from it. Makes her appreciate what she's done to get that way and helps confirm she's a hottie. I think truly, for some crazy reason or another, my MIL has a poor self-image and feels the need to seek attention from others with regards to her appearance.

How does my FIL handle it? While he suggests from time to time for her cover up, he knows she won't because like yours, she doesn't want certain tan-lines. They've been married for almost 30 years now and I think from time to time he does try to keep a close eye on her and get annoyed with her behavior but for the most part he just lets it slide because he knows it's a losing battle and he knows she's coming home to him an no one else.

Personally, I don't think you're overreacting. I think a woman should respect boundaries and limitations on certain dress in front of certain people. But that's my own personal opinion. I would/could never wear a string (thong) bikini in front of my children nonetheless in front of his friends like my MIL did/still does...it's completely inappropriate and kinda trashy in my opinion!

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