Wife threatens suicide after her affair came to light?

jude

i would speak to an attorney in my country if i were u. u actually gave this woman a break, and she repaid u like this. but u can't have a person in your life who every time u have any kind of disagreement she threatens suicide. she sounds as if she has a personality disorder, but its not your problem, u did not break this woman and u can't fix whats wrong with her. hopefully u will be able to divorce her depends on the laws in your country. good luck

senora zamora

Selfish people have affairs, selfish people commit and/or threaten to commit suicide. This woman is obviously very selfish. You need to divorce her and find a woman that deserves your patience and kindness, keep your family away from her, they don't need to be involved in the drama.

singh_namrataa

i think she is under severe depression.

take her to a pshychiatrist.

but is she is having an extramarital affair than you should head for divorce.

its diffuclt to stay with an unfaith full partner.

Le_Roche

If she wanted to commit suicide, she would. She's the one who had the affair and brought shame upon herself. She has no genuine interest in you, your marriage or your family. She's what we refer to in the states as a "Drama Queen." Talk to a lawyer to discuss your options. If you want to continue in the marriage, insist that she get professional help. If she doesn't, then end the marriage. This is no one's fault but her own.

Rajiv

Continue with your search for a lawyer. I don't think she is sorry from her heart for her mistake. And that cannot be called a mistake. That is a well-planned thing to do. She has found out a way to gain your confidence in every matter, so she is using that "threaten-to-suicide" technique for every small trifle (as you mentioned). She is blackmailing you, emotionally. But divorce is not the right solution to any conjugal problem, so try to convince her and make her understand your situation and feelings by giving her a brain wash. Still if the condition remains the same, then I will suggest you to opt for legal settlements than to suffer from mental agony and imbalance.

Arranged Love= Archering in Dark

ARRANGE MARRIAGES DO NOT WORK!!!!!! WAKE UP!!!!

What should I refer to you as a boy or a man, who could not even find a girl to love huh

Well anyway, it is obvious that she was too forced in to this marriage and I am STRONGLY sure that she had that affair even before marriage.

SOLUTION. There is ONLY one solution to the arrange marriages, specially when they are not working is to GET DIVORCE FOR GOD SAKE.

LEAVE HER, SHE DOES NOT WANT YOU. SHE WAS MADE TO LIKE YOU AND FAKE LOVE YOU.. SIMPLE IS THAT.

And next time make sure YOU find a girl for your self NOT your parents because that way you will know the person before you get married. That is some simple logic that we SO SMART INDIANS DO NOT UNDERSTAND.

Look what happen now, your heart is broken and so was her's.

Kindly spread the message to your friends as well and encourage them to NOT do arrange marriages. OK!!!

Go get your self a divorce. Tell your lawyer that your wife has affair and she is threatening to kill her self.

THE CASE IS TOTALLY IN YOUR FAVOUR. AND REMEMBER MARRIAGE IS NOT SOME RELIGIOUS OR CHARITY WORK.

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Take care.
Vinit

ITTI

Get out of the wrangle as early as possible. Your life left over need to be protected. No need to have mercy or scared abiut her suicide. That is only emotional blackmailing. Make things public to her relatives and police. Let her suicicde if she wanted. Get out fast.

Bookgirl

This is why India is outdated as in 2009 its unrealistic to arrange marriages.
Just get a divorce, there is nothing between you, you both sound trapped to me.

zephyr s

this is a serious issues brother. don't trust her. she is a weak women ( sorry to say that a ***** ). u need to be smart here. first use hidden camera contact a lawyer. try to prove it she has cheated u & trying to commit suicide.ur in a big danger.

teenie

My question is why would she marry you when she clearly liked someone else enough to be sleeping with them. She had a problem long before you agreed to marry her and why would you agree to marry a girl you don't even know. Parents have no business what so ever picking out a woman that you are going to be with for life this is 2009 not 1909. You married a complete stranger and look what you got she is a basket case you need to divorce her ASAP. Threatening suicide is just another way of manipulating you if your smart you should know that. You said out of pity not love you would give the marriage another try. I thought finding out she wasn't a virgin that another man had her before you would be reason enough to divorce her. She doesn't love you and she is making your life mersible why put yourself and your family through this. You have grounds for divorce and she certainly isn't the woman you thought you were marrying she fooled you and everyone else involved.

Victor

My sincere advise for you is first of all treat her just as a patient irrespective of anything. Take her tp psychiatrist first let her counselling by psychiatrist. I am sure by that time either she will be able to identify her problem then probably solution as well. I am sure in that case you will be more comfortable in deciding about her whether go for divorce or continue with her if she realised enough & forget about the past. Then probably you need lawyer as well for divorce.
Wish you all the best.
With regards

Buzzzbe

Take her to a counselling center and give her proper treatment mentally before your hair turns grey.
Take quick decision or you will be responsible for her suicide.
You cannot explain your story to all passersby .So you may be blamed.
Do not think another lady is better than her. Easy to measure the depth of an ocean than the mind of a lady. Take care.

smilie-girl

The woman my husband (we're now divorced) had an affair with tried to commit suicide several times after the affair came out. I strongly urge you to talk to a counselor for yourself. This is to help you from falling into a serious codependent trap or any feeling of guilt over what she does. You are not responsible for her issues or what she does with her life. I encourage you to protect yourself and talk to a counselor about how you are feeling about it. I'm sorry she's brought this drama into your life. You have the ability to keep it from being any more traumatic than it needs to be by how you take control of it. See a counselor... it is the best thing you can do for yourself. All my best.

Kyle D

I think you should definately do marriage counsleing figure out the root of the problem, probably have her do personal counseling.....

Suicide is definately a desperate act for either attention or crisis..depression in her life.

This is definately a serious issue. She may have some serious issues you didnt realize.

tichni

if you don't have kids divorce her, my wife threatens to divorcee but for kids only i don't, this relationship was based on lies and your wife should have at least told you about it and after marriage it's shame. let her go.

frndly12

HI,
That is sad.
U may msg me in YM if u wish to chat more
my id is frndlyvel@yahoo.in
bye

killinshel

Ok, first of all, your wife needs some mental help. She has some real issues. And if she has tried to kill herself before she will do it again, and this time she might actually die, So get her into a hospital asap. And once she is there get some help for yourself and see if you can not actually work on your marriage once she is stable and on meds. I do not think Divorce is the answer... In fact I think it is a cop out. She did something wrong. But she seems to be unstable in her thinking and actions.. Help her don't throw her away.

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