Wife wants to act on fantasy?

mi1kandserial

i think it might eventually place too much stress on your marriage. I know it would on mine. But if you feel it wouldn't, and you think that both of you can handle it.....then sit down and talk seriously about it. Its said that swingers have happier marriages, so i'm in no place to judge your happiness level. It all depends on you guys.

letterstoheather

maybe she's more interested in women?

i don't know what people are thinking but i feel that bringing a stranger into your marital bed is a set up for a big disaster.

good luck

Fireball226

dont agree to it...you dont want to ruin the marriage...tell her shes enough for you

Marie Catherine

ewww.

Gun Dream

A couple is a two person deal. I think sometimes we regard ourselves as more open minded than we really are, and when facing the consecuences, then we learn we are not. Bringing in a third party regardless of the gender can become quite messy.

chaskfrazier

Don't fall for that, I did and it backfired on me big time. She accused me of having secret feelings for the other woman...and it was her idea to bring her into the situation. Some women are evil like that. DON'T DO IT!!!

ideally_rational

Well...it's harmless woman with woman, but what next after that?
Will you want to join in, therefore touching this woman and enjoying her body in some ways? Because that might upset your wife.
So this would be something that just she would enjoy, not you, except to watch or touch your wife only.
And if you let her do this, are you going to ask for a fantasy too? What if you have an interest in another guy? (thereoretically) Would she let you do that?
Most men fantasize about touching two women at once. Would she agree to that? Maybe, but maybe not!
I'm not for bringing other people into the bedroom simply because I think that at some point, somebody's feelings get hurt. I think fantasies should stay just that...fantasies forever. The risk is perhaps too great. The reason I think that is, once that fantasy is played out, how are the two of you going to top it? I think there's this escalation of fulfilling fantasies...always wanting to top what was done last. Now what..swinging? See...that's where the danger warnings come in.

ndnqt1966

Speaking from personal experience bringing another person into your marital bed is not a good idea. I was married for over 10 years before we opened our marriage. In doing so it led to the demise of our marriage. You may have the best marriage and believe that your marriage is strong but there is no way to predict how things will turn out for you by allowing another to join you and your wife. Please be aware of all the cons before deciding to do this. Looking back I wished my ex and I didn't do it. Best of luck.

jimmiejet

it will be the beginning of the end

lifetime rocker

be careful with this thing you could lose her to another woman.

Willie M

what man in his right mind would object to this. i say yes, start conversing with women on line and see where it goes from there. good luck and have fun.

Drew's Mom

If you're REALLY ok with it than why not? . .could turn out to be a great experience for the both of you. Just make sure that she understands your ok with TRYING it once . . with no guarentee of ever doing it again

jimmy.parker06

Be prepared to become like Ross, the character played by david schwimmer in Friends....lol Serioulsy dude be prepared to be dumped for a woman.

MommaBear

Do you really want your "wife" to be getting pleasure from someone else, other than "you"?

goldeeloxxz

u r playin with fire, I have seen this happen with a couple that I was close with, they acted upon HER fantasy & were divorced within 2 years, someone always gets hurt or jealous or both... I'm sure u r tempted but it is a fast way to ruin a marriage, some things are better left as a FANTASY that why we call them that....most of the guys are gonna say go for it but you should pay more attention to what the girls have to say on this one because we have a point of view that guys don't understand & for the guy who said "cut it off if someone is falling in love"...this FANTASY has nothing to do with LOVE showing his lack of knowledge on the subject......

amayseng

once you go black you dont come back......get it.....things will never be the same...then when you have kids how are you gonna look at her

cynical

She is communicating her fantasy with you, be supportive and you will be rewarded. Remember communication is the key to trust and your wife is communicating with you as well as including you. thank your lucky stars.

Mastershake

If you are okay with it then there should be no problem. However, I've always thought that fantasies were just that. When you make them a reality, will there be consequences? Both of you be safe. Have fun, but please be safe.

turnkey44

Dude that's awesome!!!! You are a lucky, lucky man.

Atlanta29

Go for it, if you have a lot of trust in each other. You will never forget it. Too much I could say...
It really takes the right people, I can not say if you and your wife can handle it.

TB28

You just totally made up that story to occupy your bored mind. Your wife does not want to hook up with another woman. You're laughing right now because I'm right.

**[[DAtt SLidER 09]]**

It really doesnt matter wat others think if your ok wit it then watever

Samantha

The open communication is great, makes things better in the relationship. As for the fantasy, its all on you. If she wants to take it to the acting it out level, and you are OK with it, then go ahead. It'll make her really happy and make you happy. If you are in to the whole girl on girl, ask her if you can participate...not physically involved (unless shes OK with it), just to be there and watch. It'll spice up the bedroom. Sometime women need to just get it out of their system.

Good luck!

qwertatious

Well, it's not any different than her sleeping with another man, except this act of undoing any monogamous promises you may have made turns you on instead of making you jealous. She's playing you unless you don't mind swinging.

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