Will I get married? ?

elklady

You are what my grandmother called "unfound treasure". Some one will find you one day.

You are very young yet but you are making some great decisions for your life such as getting a good education to assure a living for yourself, waiting for the "right person etc.

The right person will come along and will be worth the wait. And from what you have said about yourself, I think he is going to be a very lucky young man.

Stay focused on your studies, your church, your relationships with friends and family and one day probably when you least expect it, there he will be.

Nicole J

First of all stop watching Tyra......

Amanda A

dont worry ur still young ull find sm1 and dont listen 2 tyra lol

~Secretrose~

relax, you have plenty of time..............you are only 20!

Cat

i know plenty of married black people, thats just a statistic, you are an individual!

â™ª# 1 south park fanâ˜º

the dudes at ur skool must be into party hard smoking drinking chicks, but God does have someone for u. just stay strong and find a guy who digs that kinda thing. its better to be laid back and smart than drunk chicks hop i helped!! : )

BAM

of course just have some self confidence in yourself

April W

You'll be fine if you're in a university, have a good attitude, and believe in finding the right guy before jumping into bed with them.

I think that statistic includes all the women who USED to be married but then got divorced or are with a guy but just never got married to him. Unfortunately, I've seen that many times with white and black women these days.

You're only 20 years old yet so don't worry about being an Old Maid quite yet. If a nice, educated, guy asks you out on a date, take him up on it and you'll be just fine. Or. . . if you see a nice, educated man that you are interested in--ask HIM out on a date. Typically, the best places to look are at the university, at church, or at some kind of club that you're interested in (such as a Drama Club, University Newspaper, etc.)

I had just given up on finding the right guy for me when I bumped into this really nice guy at the University Newspaper and now we've been married for eleven years.

El Mexicano

If you wait in Lord, not only you will get married, but you you will married the right man!

I got married when I was 26 and beleive me, it was worth to wait, my wife is the most amazing woman and above everything she loves the Lord.

Sometimes I used to feel like I was wasting my time and my youth just like you, but now when I look back and I see my life and other people lifes that choose other ways, I have to praise and thanks God for helping me to wait because he gave me much more than I ever dream!

Jada S

First off, I applaud you for not sacraficing your morals for a man. Secondly, I would like you to know that God has a plan for everyone and true love is almost certainly in his plan. You cannot, however, wait for God to do all the work. Instead, you must step out of your small group of friends and introduce yourself to other people. You cannot expect different results for the same procedure. Surround yourself with good people who share the same values and morels as you and you will be sure to find the man of your dreams.

God Bless and good luck.

mikeshere

Since you are a fellow christain, let me just say that it WILL happen, but in God's time, not ours. Be patient and obedient and God will bless you. God Bless.

dead can dance

*bangs head against desk*

Amanda D

I have the same problem. My cousin did too and she actually found a nice guy that had the same beliefs as her. So, you do have hope to get married. She did

Inked Girl

That statistic is a bunch of bull crap. It doesn't matter what race you are, you can get married. You can't always believe what tyra says, she's in her own crazy world.

Reena

Oh where to find a good man...

First of all congratulations. You have high standards and don't fall into the stereo type. What you need is to look a little bit closer at the
college crowd. You have already seen the obvious: The party animal and jock... and you are not impressed. Good.

The man you are looking for isn't found at a party. You will most likely find him at the library or study hall. Because he has a goal: To get his education and have a career. He is most likely not interested in short term relationships and seeks a woman that is also goal orientated and not a party girl.

I would take a closer look at the math majors and business majors that actually have high grades and study and therefore aren't interested in wasting their time. Befriend them and hang around them.
The rest should come on it's own. But get ready to make the first move because these gentlemen are usually shy... but well worth
your pursuit.

If this doesn't work then join a church and seek your future husband from those circles. Once again you will have a better chance in finding somebody that fits your own profile and standards.

eldots53

Meh. Statistics don't mean that much. Even if 70% don't get something, that doesn't mean you have to be part of the 70%. You sound as though you have your head on straight, and have some real goals. You will fulfill whatever God's plan is for you - you just need to open yourself to accept whatever that plan may be.

Julie

Everything you just listed about the person you are would be a dream woman for any man. In college sadly, most men aren't looking for that stable relationship. Dating with the intentions of marriage are not what they are after. I stay to strong true to yourself and your beliefs and before you know you'll be head over heels in love and won't be looking back at the times you felt lonely. It'll happen, just you wait and see.

Joanna

Wow, youre only 20! You have your whole life to find Mr Right. I got married at 23 and sometimes wish i hadnt married so young. You are only young once. Enjoy your youth. Get out and start meeting people,join aclub or dance class do the online dating thing. Put yourself out there. Being Christian doesnt mean Ã½ou should just sit back and wait for a sign from god. Get out there and look for what you want. Good luck!!

mediddly

Maybe you're not putting yourself out there enough. College is about trying new things and seizing opportunities. That doesn't have to mean participating in the typical college debauchery but get and join as much as you can. Join a youth group if you aren't part of one already and become a part of a few school organizations that interest you. You'll meet people with the same interests and values as you and you're more likely to meet a date-worthy man.

But don't only date a man you'll think you'll marry. You're young and have plenty of time to find the perfect man, but that's a lot of pressure to put on a guy, so look for someone you can be happy with now and if doesn't lead anywhere then move on.

And if you want to play to statistics, asian men are in the category with black women as the most single. Just think, you'd have the most beautiful babies.

one who wonders

you know, i know how you feel. if you feel like meeting a friend let me know. you seem like a nice person that i would love to date.

Mayzie

Sometimes what you've been looking for all along shows up in front of you as soon as you stop looking! You're still young, and it will happen for you! Don't spend all these great years worrying about the future. If you feel like you're having trouble meeting someone, maybe ask some friends to set you up with one of thier friends or try a trusted matching site like match.com or eharmony.com. Good luck :)

Just Rowan.

Love doesn't focus on color.
You'll find it.
Possibly try being more outgoing. Sit with a guy you think is good looking. Get to know some more people.
You'd be surprised at the results.

deannaBEARR

GIRL I FELT THE SAME WAY BEFORE I MET MY CURRENT BF!!

ok, so i never got a bf until high school. then it has been nonstop bfs. never really loved any of them. i thought i did, but i didnt. i cared for them, possibly infatuated and got over it. you know? then i met this guy, unbelievable. kind of daring, really sweet, and for some reason i felt like he was worth a shot. we went out... and the rest is history.

now im preg, we plan on marrying soon. im also going to move in with him soon. its perfect.

im 20 y/o too. im not overweight as well, i dont think im terrifyingly hideous all the time. haha, what can i say? i am my own worst critic. you just stay you. honestly, god has a plan for all of us. he does, and mine has came into play. just wait for yours. you seem sweet, just give it time. maybe you arent supposed to find someone in college, maybe it is after college, or when you start your career.

relax and let it ride girl. honestly, it will be worth it.

Paradise

Be patient! You sound like one hell of a catch: Intelligent, sweet, honest, beautiful, etc. Finish college first, then dedicate your time into finding your knight and shining armor. :)

Education first, love second.

Karen

You sound like you have so much to offer... but not just to a man. Live for you and for you only. Don't focus on what you don't have and think about all of the fantastic things you do have... you are a smart, respectable woman. Continue to keep your values and do not let anyone ever compromise this!!!! GL to you!!!

FaZizzle

You say that you believe God has someone for you. Then why worry?!

Just have fun and live your life. Enjoy what God has given you, and before you know it, you're going to find yourself on the gateway to marriage.

That being said, I need to point out a few things:
- Don't go searching for love: it never works. You get those darn blinders put on and you can't see the person for who he really is
- Don't assume a relationship will end in marriage: Just have some fun! See where God is leading you. Take it slow; there's no need to rush!

It sounds like you're the type of women who doesn't stray from what she believes. Heck, I believe that in the real world you and I would have been friends (I am the exact same, only 4 years older, married and white).

I should note that marriage isn't going to make you happy. If you aren't happy now, marriage isn't going to flip that magic switch and make things better. Love yourself and your situation NOW.

It's like winning the lottery - if you aren't happy with your financal situation now, there's no amount of money that will really make you happy.

Hello Dolly

You can't figure out what will happen to you from a tv show. And those statics are usually wrong. You need to relax and wait for the right moment. It will happen if you want it. It has nothing to do with your age, race, or anything else. There are people who are in their 70s and getting married and you know that any race can be married. There are no limitations anymore. Don't let a tv show rattle you.

alseldom

You'll get married some day just relax. I found the love of my life when i gave up on looking for love. You sound like a wonderful and beautiful person and when you do get married your husband will be a very very lucky man

JaneL

there is someone out there for EVERYONE. you will find someone i promise. i admire that you are sticking to your ideals and arent going to change just so you can find a guy. just keep on staying true to yourself and living life and eventually the perfect guy will come along. i wish you luck in your search and hope this brings you hope and encourages you not to give up!

EBOBO

If you mean elementary education, by getting a teaching degree...or something, then maybe when you finish college and find a school to teach at, maybe there's another lonely man. :)

And why should your race affect the statistics of marriage? People don't believe in interracial babiez.

Irene M.

Even though I'm a lot younger than you are, I get what you're thinking because sometimes I think about it too. I don't think you should rely on the statistics on the Tyra Banks show. I believe that everyone will experience love sometime during their lives. You said you have a small group of friends. I think expanding your social circle would help a lot. I also think you should just hang around get get to know guys first. You need to establish a loving relationship first before you think about marriage.

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