Will i ever date again?

Stephen K

You might be surprised, but you will never know until yoo get out there

Brainiac

You will date again, but really - don't rush into it. You need time to figure out your new role as a single mom. Sorry to hear you news and good luck.

abc

dating again is the least of your problems at this time in your life......get straightened out, take care of those kids! Take care of yourself, regain your life .... then you will find men will be asking you out on dates and you haven't wasted a bunch of time worrying about it.

La Guacha Bautista

Why are you so worried about who would want you??? You need to be worried about your kids.. Give time to heal and then ask, who would be lucky to want you and your three kids... I swear some women!!

Angel

You need some time for you and the kids to heal first. But yes you will date again. I was the divorced mom of 3 myself. I always was very up front with a guy when he asked me out, letting him know that I had kids. It does limit your dating some doing that but you know right off if he's worth spending your time with. If a man can't handle you having children then he's not someone you want to be with. I've since remarried to a wonderful man and have 2 more children from this marriage.

Beth T

Lots of men. If you want to date you will.

pacou8122

I was married for 7 years when my wife walked out on me.
It took a while a long while. but eventually I had to move on anf so will you. it will seem tough at times but that is what family and friends are for.
and the issue with kids if a man doesn't except you nd your kids then he needs to go away.
My current wife has 3 kids from other men. but that doesn't matter to me. in my eyes they are my children.
be strong you can get through all of this.

â™£Hey judeâ™£

You would be surprised. Never under estimate your self.
The Internet has opened the world to you. I can't tell you how many people have met & re-married after meeting folks on on-line dating sites.
My husband left. I met a great guy & no I live 5 mins as opposed to 30 mins from my job & mother. I'm in a far better town. My life is so much better.

Jason & Milly T

You worry about raising your beautiful kids and make sure that dog pays child support. Let God worry about that right (real) man for you.

Keep your head up ma and be strong for the kids. Make sure you talk to them about the situation dont hold things back from them. They need to know the truth so they can not worry too and live their lives.

Tell God all about it girl.
I'll give you 15 seconds...............good job. He heard you.

Take care. I'll say a prayer for you.

wally

it is too soon for you to think about dating again. But hopefully one day you will want to date again. Dont see why kids should stop you, but it may be awkward for a while. but if your kids are mature they should realise your happiness is important. And adopt to this. good luck to you.

Lydia

Of course you will, and someone will be lucky to have you - but not now. Now you must focus on your children and you can start dating when the last one turns 18. Good luck and have fun with your kids!

live, love, laugh often!

Yes, you just have to pick up yourself, your confidence. The right one will you and your children. Good luck and take care.

Yarina L

I know a mother who haves 5 childrens.5!5 CHILDRENS!and the mother had a hosband,the real father but now she is married whit someone....cool...but how do you know that he's happy??fine,but you can make your rainbow colorfull again...trust me.You have the childrens and truste me that you will have a new father too.You just have to be you and all the people will forget that you have 3 childrens.Good luck!

aihaines

This is serious and sad -- crying is good, panic is not.

Right now you need friends, and your children need you -- stay connected.

Nine years and three children is a lot of history together. You don't know that he's happy or that he will stay that way.

It's not your job to bring him back, or to find someone new. Let them come to you. Say 'no' until you feel it's right. You will know. Be gentle, calm and clear, take your time.

We all have needs, it's fine, it brings us together. Don't deny your needs but don't demand they be met.

<long hug>

aaliyah h

yes girl you should jest believe in yourself to date again

regerugged

Your story reminds me of my high school prom date. She married another guy, had three kids, then unfortunately became a widow.
The prom date is on the reunion committee. So she contacts me every five years and tries to get connected. I admit I have stayed away because of the kids.

Just a friend.

There are plenty of good guys out there that would love a women like you. Don't for a minute think there is anything wrong with you or your situation. You will be competing with women in your same situation, just make sure you pick a good guy.

Just curious..

I would date such a woman, but of course, she would have to be level headed and give me the chance to prove myself to her!
That's really the major issue when dealing with single parents.

Common Sense

You will find a man who will take you and your kids but
it is going to be much more difficult...
Dating will not be much of a problem as he is looking forward
to going to bed with you, it is the marriage that will be tough.

Jazz

With divorce rates growing and second and third marriages becoming more popular, there are a number of men and women that have multiple children and are looking for a mate.
After heartbreak and being with someone so long, it is easy to not be completely rational and to be more negative than realistic. But you must try to stay strong for your children and make sure that you let anybody in your life know that your children are of the utmost importance to you. They can only respect you for that.

Good luck and take care of yourself, so that you feel good getting back out there and sharing your wonderful life with someone else.

Sunset

wow The three kids part makes it hard but not impossible. Also don't forget kids grow up. They are not little and depend on us forever. As a person who is in a bad marriage, all I can say is that the child will be an adult this summer. I see it as a chance that if things don't improve I can start over. So speaking not as a woman who's husband has left but as one who has stayed for the sake of the kids if you will. I'm also sure your case will improve. It's only been a short while since he left. With time you'll see it was for the best. Look at it this way. Would you rather he stayed and did his own thing...on the side... All the time you fully knowing what's going on?

2Tired

Of course you will. You just need to boost your confidence up a bit. Once you are ready you should start going out with some friends and dating a bit. Trust me, there is a lot of men that would date a woman who had kids.

Private P

Lots of guys!! A friend of ours just proposed to his girlfriend, who has three kids, he has two kids (he has custody), now they are going to be like the Brady Bunch. Never give up, when one door closes, another one opens. Focus on your kids, they are more worried than you are, their world just got really scary too. Mr Right will come to you in good time, don't be desperate, needy, that is very unattractive.

That_ blue_ eyed_ Irish_ lass

Sweetie I know it looks bleak right now, but trust me, as I have been in your shoes. It gets better and Yes you will find lots of great guys to date!

I joined a singles club ( a few different ones) and found my present husband there ( when I wasn't lookin) We just celebrated our 3rd anniversary March 13th.

Right now take time and concentrate on yourself and your children. Find out who you are because so many times as wives and mom's we put ourselves on the back burner, so to speak.

Start by taking care of yourself. Physically and emotionally . Go do those things you have been longing to do---get a new hair style, clothes, enroll in college courses, join mixed single groups, go take that vacation you have always wanted to take .

Plan activities with the kids but don't revolve your entire world around them nor give them everything ( because of guilt feelings) a very common mistake of single parents.
Good luck and happy dating.
You'll make it!

ericka1031

Let me tell you, he did you a favor first of all. If someone wants to leave you, Let Them Go! They have served whatever purpose God intended for them to have in your life. Three kids do not make you less desirable. In fact, you will probably attract more of the right kind of men because of your children. Men will be drawn to how you care for your children, the family values you display and your commitment to them.

Don't worry, it will get better and you will not be alone forever. Life your life and love yourself above all!

troble # one?

Yes you will

Someone

A man with three kids!

"It's a story, of a lovely lady, who was bringing up three very lovely girls."
"All of them had blonde hair, like their mother, the youngest one in curls"

Brady bunch in the making here!

eViE

Well ask your kids about it. If you start dating again and your kids don't like the new guy. There could be a problem but It also depeneds on what age you are and if you want to date or if you want to be a simgle mom. I hope this helped:)
Good lucky
From ME!!!:)

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