Will the kids ever accept this ?

BEAUTY QUEEN

I walked from a verbally abusive unhappy marriage. All I can say is good on you. They may miss you - your kids, they may also find it hard to accept that their mum and dad have split (I presume you had kids together) and that you have a new partner so quickly after splitting.

It sounds like they are struggling to get their heads round it.

Time is a great healer.

rb1957

As a mother of 6 I would say that in time they would come around.
Do they know you suffered? Its time for you to be happy now. They
should be happy for you. Good luck

x2000

I would say make on attempt to explain that you could no longer live with the abuse, then let them make their decisions. They should know a little of what you put up with, unless you both were extremely good at hiding it. Just jog their memory on what it was like for you.

DJ MiddleMan

I'll bet if they're aware of any of the abuse (and, I'm sure they are), they'll come around, understand and be happy for you. You're Mom.

Orla C

That's really tough. Did they not witness the abuse you had from your husband?

It's still early days. They could come around .... and now they have to deal with your former husband. Now that they have to deal with him directly, they might get some inkling of what you have been dealing with for 30 years. Bide your time and sit tight.

jaybe

probably not, it doesn't matter how old the kids are they always will feel bad that you and their dad aren't together. My advice to you is get them together and tell them you are still their mother and if they can't be civil to , then you have no time for their immaturity. I know that seems harsh, but they don't seem to understand what you have been through with their father. good luck, I feel bad for you.

R&C

well hi sue i think that the fact you left their father and then moved thousands of miles away might be the problem with them ,they probably feel abandoned but you know what you did the right thing and at the end of the day they are all adults and you stayed in a bad marriage to keep them all from suffering a divorce? so this is your time now keep in touch phone them ,write to them , invite them on holiday ,always keep in touch, never lose contact and i bet they come around in a while , but dont feel guilty ,you did nothing wrong .goodluck xxxx

NYC'ya

that's really not enough information but..
if they love you, they'll get over it...people usually do.
are they resentful of you moving? so what..they're grown.
they'll get over it..i got over it in a similar situation.
is it they don't understand the divorce? or the abuse?
even if they don't, you don't have to justifiy every reason as to why you ended your marriage or who you are with now.
a parents life is not to always make their children happy.
you raised them time for you to be happy.
if there are little things they don't understand that you could help them with..so be it try if they are willing to listen with an open mind and heart and unbiased ear.
if not..time heals wounds..if they love their mother of family member they will come around..especially at the ages they are now, if they are not married they soon will be..and see.
this is different but.....
i am thirty and went through something with my mom..i was mad she moved to fl, i was happy in ny..i moved here to be with her instead of living my own life..and resented her because of it and became very attitudish and nasty but it was her decision to make herself happy and i eventually got it.

you are the only one you need to make happy at this time in your life.

P1 Rubber Ducky

who's to say they will or will not you have to give them time to adjust.

i know when that happened to my husband it did take a few years before he was able to adjust to his fathers new life style. he was 17 when it happened and he did come around until he was around 20-21 he's now 32. now he has a wonderful (as do i) relationship with his father and his father's partner.

but no matter what you will always be thier mother and there is nothing anyone can do to change that!!

Babs R

am i to assume your partner is another woman ? and if so what you choose to do is totally up to you and if anyone and i mean anyone really cares about you , being happy and accepting you as you are may take some time. although im not into woman i can totally understand how some woman do turn to being with other woman for a relationship from abuse as i too have suffered years and years of it from numerous men. it makes you think about, which i have, and wonder if it would be better to be with someone that is more on your level as far as emotions and commitment and plain old love.
i would just let your family know as much as possible that you love them and let come around to you. its your life and you deserve to be happy so do what makes you happy and let the rest come in due time. good luck.

leapfrog44

Give it time and thank God you are out of a very bad marriage. You did the best you knew how to do at the time. You kids are still young and they need time to heal as well as you do. Depends on what he could have done to your kids. Do not worry about it now, you made it this far and if you believe in prayer,, then do so. Take care of yourself and rejoice you are out of that mess.

Mrs. Robinson

Im not clear - partner as in man or women? are the terrible comments about being gay or that you lie about the abuse?

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