Will u wait till the holidays is over to confront your cheating (again) husband?

hairdvs

Rather confronting him at home where things could get ugly or ignored, why don't you wait until the two of you are sitting with your marriage counselor? Since Christmas is only days away I doubt you will gain anything by doing it now anyway. Allow your children their holiday. You said your divorce proceeding was suspended until the end of January. Another option would be to just document every incident or bit of evidence that you have against him and go through with the divorce in Jan. It's up to you to decide if you want to stay in a marriage with a cheater or not. I suppose if it were me, I would just sit on the info until my first visit with the counserlor after the holidays. I doubt I would say anything to him at all. When the counselor asked me how things were going or if we had done some of the exercises we'd been assigned I'd tell what I knew to the counselor and watch him squirm. He'll probably deny it all but he won't be fooling anyone if he really is still cheating. Good luck to you.

confront now, ruin his holiday

gabby

get it over with now--he's more attentive because she is not around as much

once a cheater always a cheater

Waterdragon

it will eat you up over the holiday --- he is not prepared to really change im sorry tell him to go and find a new life for yourself

Larry

Does it really make any difference. Your not going to enjoy it anyway. I guess you can hold off for the kids, but it all seems so pointless. I'm sorry..

show your hand now, the Holidays won't be too happy with you knowing what you know

Follow through with your divorce. Tell him that you are done. As far as enjoying the last holiday as a family, do it for the kids sake if at all. He broke up the family so you are not much of a family right now.

SunValleyLife

For the KDIS sake... cause they are the ONLY ones important... I would let it ride and just use this week to kinda prepare yourself. Meaning stash some cash, get prepared.

let the kids enjoy this last holiday with you both together. Just fake it till the 26th.. Dont stay .. he wont stop after the first time, he wasn't truly sorry.

Get out after Christmas.

D S

It depends if you can deal with it emotionally. Your kids are going to suspect something is wrong. Do you stay together, leaving the kids sensing something is wrong, or seperate? This is something I can't answer....its up to you and what you can handle.

OleMarbleEyes

Gee....I would suggest learning to spell....then I would suggest you get the proceedings started again and to hell with the holidays.

Let his cheating butt explain it to the family.

joyce.gilday@sbcglobal.net

Hell no I wouldn't wait are you sure this baby isn't his?? Would you enjoy the holiday knowing what you already know??

Rakel

For the kids sake if u can handled wait until x-mas is over....
and kick him to the curb after that.
I have heard the excuses for a long time myself...including "please forgive me, i will never do it again,and think about the kids"
Believe me he will be a saint for a while and then he will go back to his old ways.

thirsty mind

I only wanted to say I am sorry you are having to go through this,just now. I had to deal with the same thing . My husband left on Christmas day to move in with his secretary. I had 2 children. I choose to wait. I never wanted to have my girls equait Christmas with the day that dad left. It was tuff!! I have no regrets.

Alicia S

Girlfriend wait for then end of the holidays? WHat does a holiday or love have to do with it? Did he wait for the holidays to be over to cheat? If anything tell him he has until the holidays are over to get rid of his spare tire or get out!

I'd file now.

Emma

I would enjoy every moment possible with the whole family, and you want your kids to enjoy it to, having they're parents divorce/ hate each other over christmas wouldn't be too fun.

J. R

Basically, since Christmas is in five days, and only if your children and you are not in danger, I would wait until after Christmas.

Baby

stop now!! something doesn't seem right before you get hurt or the kids enjoy the holidays with your kids and family members not your hubby...good luck

Randy L

wait til the Holidays are over for the kids but after that you need to get out of that, it isn't heathly and it will affect you in everything you do including raising your children it iwll be hard at first but better off in the end

az_nichols

JUST END IT NOW. depending on your kids age you could talk about it to them and explain why, but if they are too young do not do that. You will not 'enjoy' your christmas with that thought in your mind. End it and enjoy a real christmas with your kids and your family will be the BEST thing to do.

atiana

I'm so sorry for what this man has put you through, but putting it off won't help anything. it's better for you and your children to get out of there now or put him out now. all this will do is drag you down. from what I gather here, you've done your very best to make this marriage work. and you're not to blame for any of this, he is. it's time for you and the children to start having a better life. you deserve that. and the sooner the better.
I wish you and your children the very best.

Mystee_Rain

If I were in this situation and there were kids involved, I'd try to keep things ok till after the holiday

Mr. KH

go for now...y go through lies nd stuff during holidays...
tho..you maybe might feel bad during the holidays..soo...

~broken~

awwwww sweetie i feel so bad for you! i would end it now, why should you suffer because of what he's doin'? i don't think thats fair to you at all.. i would be like "honey, i'm not gonna sit here and fight for something that isn't there... i don't care what you have to say, but my eyes don't lie to me and i know that your still not being totally honest and i don't deserve that, so if you need to stay here until christmas is over thats fine, but as soon as those papers come in i want them signed so i can get on with my life, just like you are"... dont' let him speak to you, you talk and let him know that you are not gonna sit around and be second best to anyone, you have a kid that needs love and all this crap thats going on is just making me upset and i know that the kid feels it.. walk away and feel good about it cause your a bigger person by not putting up with this crap.. and theres no reason that you should have to sit aside and let him be happy while your not.. go have a life and be happy and love your kid.. good luck and best wishes! hope you have a merry christmas and a happy new year!

CK1

I would say something but that is the kind of person I am. You could still play things cool....just let him know you know......send youself some flowers and see how he feels.....Sorry about your situation.....Merry Christmas anyway and better days ahead to you in the New Year!!!!!

leaves_of_autumn171311

show the hand now hun. get it over with.

texas_angel_wattitude

I wouldn't ruin it for the kids. However the fact that you said cheating again amazes me as to why you even took him back. Confront him let him know but do not let the kids know then call the womans husband and tell him screw up both their lives

berry

It's really up to you. Enjoy it if you want, then drop the bomb.

Wait for your kids sake. Good luck!

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