Will you marry a boy who is ready to give you all emotional,mental and physical security?

Raviisher

If it was an arranged marriage, then yes, I think every girl and her family would want her husband to be able to provide financial security. However, when someone is in true love, it's blind, I have seen my friend truly, madly and deeply in love, he was a waiter and she had a strong family background, they are now happily married. So it depends, arranged marriage or love.

Aliahmad

No, I can't do so because I am a male.

Jen

Depends, do you have your own money?

BAN arranged marriage

Yes I would. I don't believe in being "supported" financially by a man, I prefer to remain independent and earn my own money. So in my relationships, money really means nothing at all. It's all about the important stuff, like love, compatibility and honesty....
Don;t you think the days of being "supported by a man" are kind of on their way out? Women have wanted independence for some time now, and now that they are started to get it, they cannot expect that men should still be playing that role...

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the question seems to be aimed at girls. though i am a man i wish to record the following in general.

For a marriage emotional, mental and physical security are the primary requirements. The financial security is totally temporary and not in our control. Even these days highly paid executives of multinational companies lost their job resulting financial melt down in the family front. In such cases when other securities are there they can lead the life still happily by foregoing certain comforts temporarily till they stabilize.

So in my opinion financial security is not a must but only an added qualification.

Sol

wow, well i guess it depends on personal experience.I have turned down two marriage proposals from decent emotionally available guys in my short lifetime... but then I lived with a man who did not give me financial security and he hit me and broke me down emotionally... so If i ever find a man like you are describing, i would jump for joy and marry him as soon as possible... as for financial security, well, i guess if we both work then it would be fine... as long as we have a place to live and food in out belly's... i have learned my lesson.

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sure, I can take care of financial problems.. but I would love it if he also helps me.

Kiran M

these three are very necessary 4 a successful marriage life.it makes ur relation so strong but without financial security its not possible in todays world to live. in each and every step of ur life u need money.so without this security its foolishness to marry. this is my own experience

destiny

My dear Banjaran...

Ohhhhh ma Banjaran....what an "IDEAL" way of thinking...- If everyone would have done (as you proclaimed : "all 4 as the best reasons for marriage"....-ha-ha-ha- then there would NEVER be a reason for a : DIVORCE, honey !

Think about it...if all would be fulfilled...(physical, mental, emotional, spiritual levels) then would there EVER be a "purpose"/reason for a separation/divorce ???? HELL Nooooooooo !

And since life (marriage) is hardly EVER satisfying ALL 4 elements....then one has to settle for the "lack of at least ONE factor" -smile- and sure....I have married for such a described reason as your initial Q. has stated ! And I don't wish to b e "arrogant" to say, that about 75% of all married folks are NOT able to "enjoy" the combination of the IDEAL form as you've mentioned in the "small print" !

In any "ordinary/normal" relationship....there's usually "one factor" missing, since it is very seldom that one finds the IDEAL condition all in just "ONE person" ! Reality has taught me....that the only way such a person may exist is in your "dreams" , but NEVER in REAL LIFE !!!

At least in all my years I've NEVER met such a "boy/man" who has all "4 COMPONENTS" in ONE ...-ha-ha-ha-ha- We have a (funny) saying here in Germany for the person you've described as "the best reason for marriage" : "Such a man has to be baked first" (as you bake a cake with the right ingredience)-smile- My "cakes" have either missed "sugar"...-or- "spice"...-or whatever other substance- ha-ha-ha- and I have settled for MUCH LESS than the "3 components" you've mentioned ! ha-ha-ha-ha-ha- Send you all my love and care...Annette***

Friend 4 ever

its our luck bebs

craig b

But you miss the point of the "man" / "boy" declaration.
With any title - "he" is still male.
It is in your classification of "boy" that tells where YOU are in understanding the true role and responsibility of this person. If there is no financial security, why would you even THINK about getting involved with someone to this deep and intimate level?
Marriage is not about love. It is about forgiveness and compassion. As Dr. Laura Schlesenger says - "even the birds build a nest before they lay an egg!" (They establish the home and security!)
And you will start out this relationship without even the slightest amount of security. The birds are better off than you!
You're idea of security is all messed up.
Good luck with that!

Just me

i will marry a man

chacha

I would never marry a "boy". Grow up

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