Women only...?

flyingbumblebee

If you love her, her weight won't matter to you, if it is just about looks. But if it is for health issues and your genuinely concerned for her get special foods and exercise with her.

Mindee

Sometimes people gain weight when they are overeating to cover something that is bothering them. Before moving to the physical right away, talk to her to see if she is happy. Is everything okay in her life and in your relationship? Is she depressed about something? What has changed?

If nothing is wrong with her emotionally, you should be frank with her and tell her that she has gained weight and you're concerned about her health. Assure her that you love her, but be honest. Every now and then, we may need someone to catch us from losing ourselves.

Support her and change the way you both eat. Buy healthy foods and cook smart. Take walks together and talk. Do more active activities together that will help with her weight but also bring another dimension into your marriage that is positive.

Good luck.

RIVER

You don't! Encourage a healthy lifestyle but never tell her that you think she needs to lose weight. Look at yourself in the mirror. Are you perfect?

me m

coming from someone who has put on a few pounds lately, trust me- she knows that she needs to loose weight. the only way you could kind of make the process go a little faster is changing with her. work out together, eat healthier together, stuff like that. the worst thing you can do is make her feel bad about it though.

Just tell her that if she continues to gaing weight she might affect her health.

Courtney T

Well tell her nicely that you're worried about her health.
Obesity can cause heart problems, depression and a variety of other health problems.
Then, suggest that you join a gym together. Make a point to always work out with her.
Take her out to dinner at healthy restaraunts. Make her healthy meals at home.
Just don't hurt her feelings and say something rude because it will make her upset and probably cause her to gain more weight.

wrig9323

Why should it matter if you love her?

bobby-bob

TELL HER U WANT HER TO WEAR THE SAME OR A SIMAILER DRESS SHE WORE WHEN U FIRST MET, IF SHE DOESN'T GET THE HINT W/ THAT, ???????????
IF U HAVE KIDS, TELL THE KIDS TO POKE HER IN THE STOMACH, OR LET'S FIND MOMMIES BELLY BUTTON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

half insane

motivate her, slowly but surely!@, be very genle on how you feel about it, maybe there is something bothering her taht she is eating away!

get her a membership to a gym and you join and work out with her!

C I

just tell her its gonna hurt her but at the same time it will motivate her because she knows you are bothered by it.

pojo

It has to be her choice. She can't do it for you. When she is ready, she will do it on her own. If you interfere with her own process and emotional battle with this, it will only make it more difficult for her to do it for herself. If she does it for you, she will likely resent you on some level. The more you support her and reassure her that you love her and that she is beautiful, the sooner she will be able to sort out her own feelings about it and come to a place where she is ready to let go of the weight.

Many women subconsciously put on weight because they feel the need to emotionally protect themselves and create distance from those who they feel have hurt them. If you have said or done something that hurt her (intentionally or otherwise) she may be holding on to it because she needs to know that your love and attraction to her is not dependent on her physical appearance. She needs reassurance that your love is deeper than that. Are you up for the task?

yolfgd

get a her a membership to the gym??? lol

butterfly

JUST TELL HER IT'S FOR HER HEALTH!!

GC_RiotGrl_879

get a gym membership, and tell her u two should go togther, to do something together, thats also good for u
just dont tell her u think shes... overweight

misydoll

That's a hard question. You need to subtle and not hurt her feelings. Suggest eating better foods or do the grocery shopping for her.

honey2bears

This is touchy subject you don't want to upset her. Tell her very delicately for you may open a whole new can of worms you aren't ready for. Besides there maybe other reasons for the gain emotionally. First tell her you are concerned with OUR health. Maybe we should start eating more healthy and excercise together. Maybe pick up cycling, tennis, something together. Even if you don't need to work out it will make her feel good. Plus you spend time together. BUT if that don't fly just tell her LOOK I love you and want to be with you always I am just concerned TALK to me and we will do whatever together.

msthinkpositive

She's not going to take it in stride, but if you decide to work on your health for a better body, maybe she'll be up to working out with you.

Doll

Perhaps you could make this into a fun competition. Both of you go on diets, work out together and at the end of a pre-set time whomever has lost the most gets to pick a "gift" or prize from the other. Be sure you let her know that you are concerned for her health and you love her no matter what...... You do don't you??

sweetcherry4u

well talk to her calm

like tell her u love her and work out with her

penda

do u love the body or ur wife?

CRYSTAL S

don't do it because you think shes fat if you do it ..do it because you r worried for her health...and don't just jump in & say hey your fat you need to lose weight maybe you should try getting the both of you gym memberships and tell her you want both of you to be around for many years to come and in order to do so you would like for her to go on a healthy diet and exercise program with you...this approach would be 20 times better than "u need to lose weight"...if you say that you may get hit with a fist or divorce papers!!

buttseyeluv43

suggest that you exercise together. Go to the gym or bike and walk. Don't make it seem like you want her to lose weight, just spending more time together.

â™¥Deziree's Mommyâ™¥

Well...this is a tough one. But maybe you should approach her by telling her that you BOTH should start eating healthier and exercise more. Maybe you can both go walking after dinner every night. Cook healthier meals and eat in. If you say that you want to do it for the both of you it probably would not be so bad. Don't tell her that she needs to loose weight... I am sure she has noticed the weight too. Just be there for her and let her know if she is willing to start working on her weight issue you will be there right by her side. Good luck.

mightymight

Maybe you should consider being active together, like go for a walk or a bike ride, or both starting eating better together.

MeerKatje

There is no right way to ask anyone to loose weight, unless you have a discussion about your concern about their health. Even if this is the topic, it is still a sensitive and private matter. First, look at your reasons for wanting to ask her to loose weight. Why is this so important? Are you overweight yourself? I would really just have a open heart to heart with her when you know what the reasons are. Tell her why yo really would like her to loose wait. For instance, tell her you would like for her to loose weight because it affects the way you respond to her, your relationship is getting strained - in clear language without hinting or jokes.

Z-Cat

I've been married 20 years, I became FAT 3 years ago & I hated it, my hubby supported me in whatever I wanted to do... We started walking in the evenings, I went to the Y 3 days per week, made friends with a couple of gals, that made it easier to go. I quit buying Junk food , my 2 boys didn't mind either. The weight came off I am happy again. My hubby then bought me new cloths & we had a nice night out. He loved me as I was but this "new me" is a time, I like myself again. Support her & do things as a family, like walks. I wish Y'all lotsa luck !!!!

brenda4ever

Tell her that you think that you both should start eating healthier and exercising together...

someonecanbme

anyway you look at it- you are out of luck...

Lisa

Does she tell you she hates being fat? Is she a stay at home mom? Well tell her you would like to help her by supporting her. Do things such as exercising, walks, go shopping with her and help her make better food choices, as her if she would like to get in some kind of club, go golfing, hiking, keep telling her she is beautiful, renew your wedding vows - that may make her want to loose the weight to look good in a dress. Get a dog - that may get her out of the house more. Drinking lots of water and no pop or alcohol helps. Stop watching the TV. I could go on but the main thing is that you love her for who she is. Good luck.

Give subtle hints like say
Honey Im going jogging this morning/evening would you like to come along? Or Im going to the gym today would you like to go? Or better yet say that you want to get in better shape and that you guys should do that together.

lisaj1031

there isnt anyway that you can tell her that .. she punch you in hte face are you crazy???? you should love her no matter what , what if she told you negative things about yourself that need improved:) need I say more ???

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