World of Warcraft...My husband is addicted. What do I do?

We have a 14 month old son who absolutely adores his father, but for the past 4 weeks my husband has been completely obsessed with this efin game!!! He ignores our son and his needs. As soon as he gets home from work he goes to get the lap top and plays it all night!! At first I just thought it was a phase. It's new game and he's just really interested in it....NO!! I was wrong. He even says he's obsessed. I told him recently that it's going to be me or the game. It's getting to that point. He does NOTHING around the house to at least help. His work clothes wing up on the floor where he sits. I don't mind doing my housewife duties, but I'm starting to feel like I have two children instead of one. I would rather be alone than feel as alone as I do with him here playing that efin game. Besides....I can come home and the house would be like I left it...CLEAN!! So, ladies what do I do?!? Should I leave a game addicted 27 year old or do I stick it out and hope that one day he'll grow up???
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For those of you who wonder why we women marry such childish men.....they didn't start out that way!!! Why answer if your goal is to be a d**khead? Do you just answer for the little bit of points you can get or do you possibly not have an educated answer to give?
Also, "Queen of Beer" if you are tired of seeing the same questions then why answer and post it? Seriously, do you think I want to waste to my time typing this long info just to spite you? You don't like it move on to another. It'a that simple!
I wouls, however, like to say thank you for those who did answer with the respect of myself and my son!!! It's good to know that there are empathetic people who actually respond with a real answer. Thank you "Pet". You get my best answer vote!!!

Ms. GTO

Cut off the internet access for a while, that may light a fire under his a*s.

Kevin

Sounds like you do have two children. You need to tell your husband that he has a family now and its time to grow up and be a man.

joe_fleeman

Tell him it is time for a talk, if it does no good, leave and leave him a note saying when he grows up and can get off the video games for a while to give you a call and you'll talk about it.
Or have a yard sale.

Kimmy

hide his game

Z Z

Good lord girl my husband is too!!!! I hate the creators of that game with a passion!

We have 2 daughters ages 4 and 5 and he works full-time and plays that game like it's another full time job. He ignores us all. He has a headset with a mic and talks all night to them. I am soooo fed up with it. I have asked him to stop playing it and he looked me dead in the eye and said "no". I plan on leaving him soon after I get a job outside of the house that I can support me and my kids on.

You can't make him quit! He has to want to do it. And sometimes they quit--for awhile and then fall back in to it.

I would leave him while your child is still young and relatively unaffected by his neglectful behavior.

Best of luck to you!

email me if you want

anon

Here is what you do. Pretend like you want to try the game out. Log into his account and log into his character.

in the chat window, ask his guild or guild leader to tell him to stay off wow and pay attention to his wife and kids for a while.

to do this, type in the chat window

/guild
or
/g

example

/guild hi, this is this character's wife. Could you please tell him to spend more time with me and his son when he next logs in.

takes some effort, but his friend on the game will most likely help you. It's hard to play a game when the game itself is telling you to stop playing.

Ali

hide it.
get divored.

get help.

John R

Well, it seems to me that games (like a lot of other things) get more addictive to me when I feel like other things in my life are getting out of hand. In a game, things go the way I want, or at least I have a good deal of control over them. Sounds like you two need to have a sit-down, but (speaking as an experienced husband) I'd bet that it's not all one-sided here. You're certainly over-stretched and under-appreciated, but it's good odds that he is, too. Babies can do this to you. He does need to cut the game way back, or drop it entirely if he can't keep it to a reasonable limit (which both of you have to agree on, by the way, but try to cut him some slack), but you guys have to figure out some way to try to get a little fun back in the old marriage there. The first baby is a tough one, and he'll push you both pretty hard, but this is good practice; if you can work out ways to cope with this, you should be able to keep the marriage going even when the kid gets older.
As for the other thing - if you're willing to throw in the towel over something as silly as this, I don't hold out much hope for your marriage. Growing up is hard work, but you're not training a dog here; think of it more as carefully and gradually taming a very reluctant gorilla to becoming a husband and father. And don't be blind to your own flaws and your contribution to the problems, either - you're no saint, as your own parents will no doubt be happy to attest.... Finding a good family counselor can be a huge help in this sort of thing, or a good priest.

BitchinKristin

Well Mel, HIDE THE DAMN COMPUTER! tell him to grow the hell up or get out.

Sorca S

My God how many more of these World of War (or wateva its called) questions are gonna be posted on ere. His priority should be you and his baby. Before he knows it his 14 month old son will be grown into a man and he will have no memory of it. It's immature. It's a game for kiddies. Tell him to pack it in or pack his stuff. Seriously, do it NOW!!

unsung hero

You married him for better or worse, not just for better so don't make empty threats to him about leaving over a video game.

WoW is very addictive yes, I was hooked on that for a while, but its novelty faded, same as with my husband. So you need not worry. It does sound like he takes it to a bigger extreme than me n hubby did.

Marriage is all about compromise. So how about you talk to him about how upset a dirty house is making you, and strike up a bargain. He can have 3 hours a day to play AFTER chores are done. Then time together afterwards?

Don't jump to divorice that's too harsh, it's only been 1 month.

Kayel Loves It!

get him some help. seriously

Just Surfin

Stop paying the monthly WoW subscription fee.

If necessary, cut the internet connection to your house altogether until he gets his sh*t together.

TAKE IT AWAY AND GIVE IT TO ME

YEAH WHAT UNSUNG HERO SAID!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Queen of Beer

Why oh why do girls marry guys who are addicted to video games!?! Did you think he would grow up once he was married? He is a boy, not a man. Leave him and find a real man.

Rhymie Rhymes

i so know a little bit of how you feel. i'm in a very committed relationship. i've been in it for almost a year (not that long, i know) but its not hard because we are in LOVE with each other.
well..my boyfriend is a video game FREAK. i love video games too, but not like him. he uses terms like this, "I'm in love with that game" or "that game is the most amazing thing ever" and things like that when he talks about video games..and i'm thinking...well you say the same things about me! so what does that say about how you feel about me vs. video games. LOL
but sorry i'm rambling. your doing the right thing by putting your foot down, and if you told him to choose between you or WWC, then stick to your ultimatum and kick HIM the heck out after you feel you've warned him enough. hiding his game is a good idea, but you need to leave him with a choice, so that if you do have to leave him he'll have to sit by himself and live with it later on. show him NO mercy.

gloria jean perez

Leave him, has an addictive personality. Hes trying to escape reality. I know I have a son that is addicted to that game. Its been 2l/2 years. He is 27, when e was young it was one toy or another, obsessed. Now it you take him away from the game will get very angry. I man that will pick a game over wift and child will never step up to the plate and be a real man. Be careful of the next man you pick, that he is a real man and will love youir child like you do.

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