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JAS
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If he's not there for you anyway, you might as well just leave. According to you, he probably wouldn't even notice you were gone. There's no reason you should stay in a relationship where you feel neglected. It certainly doesn't help the kids to see their mother being treated badly, and it doesn't send the right message for you to stick around. It says you don't deserve any better than this, girls! Have you tried limiting his video game time? Try to make an agreement that you'll get off his back if he agrees to play a few hours a day or just on the weekends. I don't think there's anything wrong with men playing video games if they want to, but when it cuts into family time it becomes a problem. Tell him you understand how fun it is to play, but that he's not a teenager anymore so he really can't play as intensely as he used to. No more! You gotta draw the line somewhere. |
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Jason E
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kill him. that simple |
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Casey T
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Break the video game console..... I would tell him that there is evidence that video games can be addictive and that you would like him to get help. If he will not agree, just ask him if he is willing to go see a counselor with you to determine if he has a problem. If he will not do that, ask him what is the point of being together if he neglects his entire family. |
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patrickng9
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PLAY THE GAME WITH HIM :D |
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ALFimzadi
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I had this problem (we didn't have kids yet) but it finally came down to I told him he had a time limit. That I needed more attention then that stupid game did, and if he felt otherwise then we needed to seperate. Well, he followed the time limits, (we set 3 hours a day), and once we had kids we had to modify that again, becuase I do understand that is how he unwinds, and I like to play the game with him now, so we unwind together. But if he doesn't want to set limits, or doesn't understand that it really does affect you and his kids, then you need to get him to a counselor, and if that doesn't work or he refuses to go, then yes, you should seperate to see if that changes his attitude. |
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munjie
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Well, i think the fact isn't that it's the video game, it's that he is more interested in it than you and your kids. You should talk with him and tell him your feelings. If that doesn't work, sign up for marrige counceling. |
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dirttrackgirl_77
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Tell him how you feel. You dont deserve being called names. He is neglecting his family for a video game. It doesnt get much more immature and irresponsible than that. Leave him. Maybe he needs a wake up call. |
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getta_gotta_good
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My husband did this for a while. It sounds like he is almost suffering from depression. I would show him this letter and tell him that you are really worried about him. IF he doesn't respond, you may need to give him a reality wake-up call. Most people who spend an abundant amount of time on the net really need to remember they have a family. Using video games to escape reality usually symbolizes depression. |
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Castorius
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What does he play? WoW? If so call him a loser and tell him he's wasting his life, it already ate up 2 years of mine, and I finally quit, luckily, to keep focused on school. |
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Zero_Hero
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It's the game WOW isnt it?
WOW is very addicting
get help for him =[
professional of course |
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kevin_harms
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Unfortuately I hear this story too often. Seems that a lot of guys get caught up with the adventure of video games and forget the real part of life and the relationship with their spouse and children. Have you tried disconnecting your internet for a bit? Make sure you have someone there with you before you tell him, just to help a bit cuz he'll probably be pretty mad. Also let your internet company know not to reconnect it without your approval. Check to see if you have an addictions organization in your area for him to work with to see if you can beat this and safe your marriage. Good luck... |
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bakfanlin
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Awww...now wouldn't be just awful if something terrible happed to that game player?
And his reaction to that should provide you the answer to your question.
What is more important to him? His family or a video game?
Let him make that choice. |
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jellyfishwich
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Who controls the bills? I suspect it is you. Have your internet connection cut off or suspended. Then have that little talk. |
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LA73
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Leaving is a pretty drastic first move. My guess is that its not really about the video game? (for him either) Just a shot in the dark. I would guess that he is filling a void and escaping to the video game...and ultimately he is extremely disrespectful of you, based on the few things you have written. Rather than asking such a life-changing question to all of us over-opinionated dopes out here...maybe you should seek professional counseling for yourself. It doesn't sound like there is a chance in h*ll that your husband would even consider joining you, at this point. However, perhaps you may be offered some possible solutions for saving your marriage--if that is what you want to do. Leaving, asking him to leave, threatening it--are all pretty extreme ways of getting him to listen/talk to you. My guess is THAT is what you really want. But again...I'm not a professional. So what the heck do I know?
Good luck! |
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braindancing52
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You have a husband with a job and who is home every night.
Most married women would say you are lucky.
He is a guy - leave him alone - let him play his game.
He could be out drinking, gambling, and chasing other women.
He could be out spending his whole paycheck on golf clubs and green fees or fishing lures and bass boats.
Be the best person you can be for your self and your children. Remind your self why you fell in love with this man (enough in love to choose him to be the father of your children).
Be kind, loving, cheerful, and compliment him on the things he does right. You will set a good example for your daughters and soon his eyes will reopen to the reasons he fell in love with you. |
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little rose
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i just saw this in the news. u might want to look it up. |
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Aden Sickle
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Your husband has a major problem. Don't think of it as a video game, think of it as an addiction like drinking or drugs. There is more than meats the eye. He may be having a type of mid life crisis. Video games create a kind of gradature about life that is doesn't exsist in the real world. It can be depressing and potintial dangerous. Tell him something has to change, and if he can't learn to play appropriately, then you need to leave for a time. Stay with your mother or something. Without anyone to take care of him he will put the controler down. If you are really concerned, you may need to see a counseller.
Your daughters deserve better than a father that values a video game more than them. You should tell him that. |
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E.K.
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If nobody is happy in this relationship except the husband than there is a problem. If he really is playing nine hours then that in itself is unhealthy. You should really just confront him about it, give him an ultimatum, then when he doesn't follow through, you divorce him. And if he's cussing at you then you should smack him upside the head a couple times because that's in no way a positive environment for you or your daughters. |
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belle_rufus
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What a sad situation. I had a similliar situation but with the computer in general. You need to sit down and talk about what is the most important thing in both of your lives...if his first is not his kids or you.....i would leave!! My husband and family always come first no matter what. He needs to be reminded of what he has. it's the game or his family? to me, that's an easy answer. |
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THE MAN!!
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if its WOW i think you need to leave him |
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jodartha
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Do you even have a husband?
Sounds like a border to me. Your man is an addict. Treat him like an addict. No other solution really. |
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hott_beauty_queen
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ok....I think he little out of line...I would shut off his games and say we need to talk or our marriage is over. |
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eArLyWiNtEr♥
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Wow. This is too much. He needs to grow up; he has a family now, he can't just shrug it all off to go play a virtual game. You need to seriously talk to him. if he isnt going to change his was, you should definitely consider leaving him for you and the children's own good. |
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WitchTwo
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Absolutely, he would leave you if you did such things. At least divorced the girls will see ONE normal parent! |
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Edna Mae
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I can so relate to your question. Over a year ago, this could have been me. My husband and I really still can't talk about his time spent playing WOW without ending up in an argument. We rarely argue otherwise. We have decided to agree to disagree on this topic as a solution however in recent weeks I think he realizes he needs to change or at least pay me more attention or I will find it elsewhere. Which is exactly what I have done and I don't think he likes it although it doesn't take away from us like his time on WOW does. We will see and Good Luck to you. I feel your angst. |
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rosalia
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sort of
unless your husband understands |
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gi!d3D j0k3r
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explain your situation and give him a chance to realize that video games are for kids not adults and that he should respect you and his kids by giving you some of his time and not devoting it to mindless video games, if it continues after you give him the time or chance to change it wouldn't be wrong because you could be living better |
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Optimus Prime
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he is not being a good father, he may end up deranged, and he won't even listen to your complaints? (which I.M.O are perfectly grounded), I guess you should try a last ditch attempt to help him, like counselling. If that doesn't work, I guess that you would have perfect grounds for leaving him.
If you leave him, talk to your parents about his problem, after all, you wouldnt want him to end up playing 18 hours a day and get kicked out from job, would you? |
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