Would any women marry a guy who does not want children?

jujukitty

Yes, we are out here! I personally am too old for you and already attached, but there are many more childfree women around. : )
Try looking for No Kidding groups in your area, and join some of the online childfree forums (google "childfree") I hear the same complaint from single childfree women, that they can't find guys who don't want kids, so there's got to be a way to get you all together.

Added: I've spent time with kids and it just reinforced my decision not to have any. I'm not selfish, not lonely, and I have a family, thanks very much.

oracleofohio

I have two friends that had no desire to have children and were able to find men that were compatible. If it helps, they're both actresses....check NY and LA.....

rizzla

i did marry a guy who has a daughter but doesnt want anymore and i'm totally okay with it because i wouldnt want to be impregnated with his spawn anyway :)

Keine Kinder

I never want children, and I have been married twice. I also have been divorced twice over it.

When I was in my 20's dating child-free was difficult.

You will probably have to date women that are older than you. That way you can avoid the child issue. As for getting married to a child-free women, I am not so sure. Child-free women tend to be pretty "headstrong", and "high maintenance".

Sabine Ã‰

Some women might not want children, or might not be able to have children. My husband and i don't have any and while we enjoy other people's kids, we're fine with not having any of our own.
If you're sure you don't want any, you should get a vasectomy

~NIKKI~

There are plenty of women who do not want children. You just have not found one yet.

I always found it harder to find a guy who did not want children..luckily i have convinced my husband that he does not want kids either! lol

hippie chick

i don't ever want to have kids!! I'd rather have a dog!

karosyrup

I have never had the desire to have children and I hope I never do. I think children are beautiful, but I just don't want to have them. I understand what you are going through though, I don't know many other people who feel the way I do. That issue is a deal breaker in relationships. I guess thats something that you haveto find out towards the beginning of the relationship, before either of you is too emotionally invested.

ignoramus

There are many women who don't want kids. Just be honest in the beginning of the relationship and you can find whatever qualities you want in another person.

The English Teacher

I don't want kids and my husband does. It is a great source of stress for me because I know that if I want to stay with him I have to pop one out. I think my life would be much simpler if I had found someone who shared my desire for a childless life.

Sandyi

Yes there are women out here that do not want kids. They are every where and all you have to do is make it known right away that you don't want to have any children. Maybe your only interested in very young women who do want children.

Guess Who! (Gone)

Yes, there are women out there who never wants children. If someone doesn't want kids, its pretty rare to find a woman who never wants kids because sadly, most women want kids for some reason. I'd say there's alot in California.

A good woman never wants kids and would marry a guy who feels the same. Women often end relationships because they want something that really isn't such a big deal.

I'm childfree and my dating pool is limited to childfree women only. The percentage of childfree women should increase!

yoshebaby

I know 2 women off hand who don't want kids. My hubby and I don't want kids (don't right now, who knows about the future, but as of now NO!)

There are women out there, but sometimes we get wrapped up in the idea that we have to have kids to be happy. Hell I was the oldest of 5 kids and I'm loading up on the birth control to avoid it!

These women to exist but maybe saying flat out "no kids" isn't the right way to do things. Say that you don't plan on kids, that you don't really think that is where your life is going (don't lie and say you do) but don't make it so finite. I can't say flat out that I never want kids because I really don't know what the future holds.

Red Rose

Yes a woman that doesn't have children or want any. There are women who think like you. I"m related to one that is an only child and she has decided she wants no kids.

La La

I'm sure there are plenty of women out there who do not want kids. They are probably in places like California.

You just have to find the right woman... me personally... I never would have married someone who didn't want children. I know some of my friends that have trouble finding men because they don't want children.. but not many

Dee I

Just be honest and upfront about not wanting kids and Im sure you will meet someone who feels the same way eventually , but be sure thats how she really feels and is not just trying to change your mind down the line. I think its cool that your so honest about this...good luck

marcia f

Yes, there are plenty of women out there that don't want kids. My son is almost 40 and he doesn't want any kids either. He always dates women a little older than he is because if they haven't had children by then, their not going to want to and if they do have children, they are grown and gone. When my son meets a nice woman he would like to spend time with, he just comes right out at the very start and tells her that he has never wanted children and will never want any. That way if the woman does have a problem with it she knows up front. But, there are always those women out there that think they will change his mind and as soon as they start getting all controlling and try to get him to change his mind, he tells them that things aren't working out for him and he will just move on. It doesn't bother me that he doesn't want kids. I don't think that all Mom's have to be Grandmas either.

Gee

My wife didn't want kids, so it worked out well for me (I was 36 at the time of the marriage and she was 35). I'd suggesting dating women who are your age or slightly older by a few years. If they have gotten to that point with-out having children there is an increased chance they simply feel the same way as you.

If you are dating younger women, well either they want children or they are keeping their options open (ie they don't want a man who is completely against the idea). Early 30's, hit or miss but most are now rushing to get it done.

Beatngu

I'm sure there are... The job is going to be finding one you like.

Diane

Unfortunately, I also don't know any women who do not wish to have any children at some point (I've heard of them though). However, since you have a lot of hobbies, maybe you can find your future spouse with the same interests in life? Maybe if she is as busy as you are, she will not want to become a mother, but that's rare.

Just Confused

I wouldnt but there are females that i know that dont want children. Or would rather adopt when there in there late 40s early 50s. But most females do want to be a mother. Just let them know before hand!

I change my name72

I understand why you don't want kid's.They coast and they take time out of your personal life.I'm 35 and I don't want kids myself.They are just to much on your hands.Plus to top it all off I'd don't have any kid's myself.

blue_prince_of_dallas

I'm glad to read that there are some women who don't want children because I don't want any more. However, I don't want to be married either so your question doesn't really apply to me.

The problem is that the woman may say she doesn't want children now, but what if you marry her and in 5 years she changes her mind and insists on having children? Of course, you might change your mind. That's just life. People change. If a couple begins to go in radically different directions then they probably can't stay happily married. But if you want to give it a try I think the others are giving you good advice when they tell you to be honest with the woman from the start and the two of you can decide whether you should be together or not.

And ignore the poster who said you can never be happy without children and a family is not a family without children. Your happiness and your family is what you decide it will be, not what society decides.

Brutally Honest

I think that you'll be hard pressed at your age to find a woman who isn't already a mother AND doesn't want to have children.

I married my husband when he was 35; he didn't want kids, although he accepted my son from a previous marriage with very little hardship.
He got a vasectomy last year so any more children are pretty much out of the question, especially considering that my son is now 3 years away from college....WAY too late too start over!

Claire

Having children was possibly my most important desire in life, so I would not have wanted to marry you.
One of my friend has never wanted to have children but she is too old for you and has a partner (who had children before being with her).
No clue where you find those girls, as a vast majority of women will want children.

Happy-2

I recommend you start dating women in their mid-40s and up. They are past the childbearing years by then, and some of them have accepted that they will now never have children, and others have already raised their children to adulthood.

Zell

i dont want kids and am a woman. but its hard to find people like that.

Bored Now

Sure. It was one of the preconditions my wife had - no more children. There are lots of men and women who know they don't want to be parents, or who have kids and don't want more. At your age, you may not notice them because there are more women who are thinking about how their biological clock is ticking. But they are out there!

DCS

If you definitely do not want kids, you are going to have to find another woman who does not want(or cannot have) kids. If not, this will be a SERIOUS point of contention in your marriage and a sure divorce issue.

You might want to have yourself "fixed" to make sure you are serious about this.

I do not see a problem with your point of view, but this needs to be made crystal clear up front!

Good luck

BTW There are plenty of women who do not want kids. They tend to be very career minded though.

MiZz SaAk

i dont know...i love my 2 daughters...they are my life...i wish you the best of luck finding that special girl!!!

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