Would it be a good or bad idea marrying an older man?

jude

its a bad idea if u really don't love him, if u found someone u loved and he was older and more mature it would be just fine, but if your just doing it for the security thing, it won't last.

BabyGirl

If these are your only reasons for wanting to marry an older man....you need to GROW UP & get some maturity about you!
Age differences to matter when two people are mature enough to know what they are doing, the challenges they will face, and love each other enough to hang in there when things get rough.

Marian's mommy

if that's the only reason you want to marry an older man then yes its a bad idea. But if you truly love a man thats older then I would say go for it

Mystry.A

If you want to marry for that reason i will say no it isn't a good idea it is like you want only want an older man so that he won't leave you for a younger women. What about love and understanding ect..?

fiestyyyathena

That can't be your only reason though.

I'm 19 and the guy I'm talking to is 11 years older than me. I like him because I feel guys my age aren't at my maturity level yet. To be fair, I have the emotional maturity of an old woman. I like certain things that only older guys can appreciate as much as me.

It's not bad, but make sure there's something else there. Not just his age..

labellemere

I am 24 and my DH is 42......we;ve been married for 6 years ( I was 19 the day we married). It was an incredibly good choice, but I think this is more due to our wonderfully compatible personalities more than anything.
We just happened to have the same desires, moral grounding, goals for life, hopes and dreams. People would be lucky to ever have a marriage like I have, forget the age difference. It was a one in a million thing.

For ME it was a great idea. We were made for one another. But you have to focus on whether he is the right guy for you, not whether he is a certain age

love me

not a good idea

hopefull

That's a very young way to think. You marry the man you are in love with. Age is nothing but a number. I know guys 15-20 years older then me and they are bigger jokes then the guys my age. Your under 20 and it sounds like you want a man to complete you. You should be worried about school and finding your own identity before coming someones life partner.

Ellie

For one..it's a shallow reason to marry anyone..younger or older.

two: Are YOU mentally mature enough to deal with the reality of marrying someone significantly older than yourself? Think about it this way...when you are 40, he'll be 50-55 9maybe older). When you're 50, he'll be 60+. There is a significant difference in the needs, wants, desires, and lifestyles of people as they get older. Are you ready to be in your early 40s and dealing with the health problems that come with an older partner? Are you SERIOUSLY ready to love, honor, obey, and cherish someone who will age sooner than yourself?

it's a hard road, and if you are seriously concerned with being "dumped" by someone your own age...over looks, age, etc....perhaps you ought to take a long look at yourself and figure out your own self esteem issues first.

chelsea19622000

You should only get married to someone you love regardless of your age. If you did marry someone older, whats to stop him ditching you when you get a little older.

snowGoddess

I think we should look deep inside your heart. Maybe you like him for who he was or maybe you like him because of the maturity.:))

AGE DOESN'T MATTER:) you deserve to be happy:)

Follow your heart:))

horrorbizgirl

it all depends on you honey! if you are the typical under 20 girl then i think it is a bad idea. i honestly think it is a bad idea to be in any relationship at that maturity level. BUT, not always. i was 20 when i met my husband who was 30. we have the most amazing relationship in the world. but i have been on my own since 15. so i had a few more years of responsibilities and adult hood under my belt than most. if i had been at the 20 year old maturity level, so when i was 16, there is no way we would have gotten along. but that's us. there are alot of good things that come from an older man ;) once you cross that 30 line with a real man, you can never go back!

Katz Kraydel

You want to marry someone because you are insecure about losing them. I hate to tell you, but older men are more possessive and are usually more violent when they feel threatened by a younger man. I know, I was with two of them. I have learned my lesson. No more old men for me! I suffered so much abuse that it's not funny, all because they were afraid I was going to leave them.. Guess what? I did! Not for a younger man, which was their fear. I left them because they mistreated me and they killed the love I had for them.

Marry someone because you love them and you want to be with them. Marry someone because you want to spend the rest of your life with them. Marry someone that you can talk openly and honestly about everything with. More importantly, do not worry about them leaving you for another woman, because if that's what you are looking for and waiting for, you are going to drive him away!

Nagina Y

i think its a good idea
men take longer to mature den women so it is easy when dey r older den u
it worked for me lol my hubby is 6 years older den me

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