Would it be wrong for me to ask my ex husband to come to dinner with me and the kids?

Kel

That's pretty rude...you either invite her too, or don't invite them at all...he has his new life now...are you trying to get him back, or something?

gator_ce

You need to invite both of them or neither.

ndnqt1966

No...that would be rude not to invite his wife...so don't invite him.....

Â§araÂ§auruÂ§ RÃ«Ã— Â®

the new woman is part of his life now. he will more then likely be spending christmas eve with her. and it would be rude to not include her also, even if she isnt family. its just the way the cookie crumbles =/

Hey U, Yeah U..Get over here

ummmmm...can i say....u r psycho! u r divorced and he has moved on....he doesn't want to be with you. get over it and move on yourself.

Red2010

I think it's a great idea to invite your ex-husband over IF you allow the new wife to come along also. Setting an example for your children that you and your ex can co-parent effectively and have a happy blended family is the best present you can give your children.

***~***

Sounds like you're trying to get him back. The only way this would be OK is if you invited the new wife along also. Imagine if the situation were reversed and how bad that would make you feel.

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its either both or nothin'!

sorry doll, you lost him get over it..........

Karen

If you can't invite them both don't do it...In the end you'll be accused of trying to start trouble between them.

I know you want to and it seems like everyone still gets along (which is good) but it's not right to try and get your ex husband to spend Christmas Eve with you and not his new wife.

katy k

I think that if you invite him, you need to invite his wife. My mom often invited my dad to things, including christmas breakfast. he is still part of the family even though you are divorced. That's great that you are on good terms and can do things like that. But especially on christmas eve, i'm sure he'd want to be with is wife.
Is this someone you want back? I think that making a cd for him and making his favorite foods is a bit suggestive. Invite him to dinner, but make sure to include his new family. He will appreciate it that much more.

it is ok to have him over but you should also invite his current wife

Beckers

I'm not sure if this question is real or not. If your husband is remarried, of course you don't ask him without asking his wife. What can you be thinking?

Susie D

Either you invite her as well or you don't invite either. The best way to keep things "nice" in a split family is too not exclude the new spouse.

PLEASURE pUPPY

I think it would be good to spend the holidays with him...there is nothing wrong with that. You have kids with him, of course he's going to be in your life. Your kids deserve it. You should invite him and his new wife/family too...it would be stupid to exclude them...they're part of the package too. Good Luck.

Chucklehead

You cannot exclude her...that is wrong. Sorry.

Patrick G

lol lol lol your a freak and can't let go. He is married, get over him, it is obvious he has moved on and gotten over you. Mail him the cd, or better yet, have the kids bring it to him when they go to see him.
You either invite them both or neither. Why do this to yourself? You are not over him and this will only torture you.

There - Take That

Then you have a big problem on your hands. He has a new wife. Of course he'll want to be with her on Christmas Eve. You're playing his favorite music and making all the foods he likes. Are you trying to get him back or just trying to let your kids have both parents on Christmas Eve? If it's the latter, you'll have to smile, be nice, and be pleasant to the new wife.

Marina

No, not ok. Forget about it. He has a new life, a new wife, and it is not natural for that kind of thing to occur WITHOUT her. Sorry.

PS: You're not a family anymore.

Bubi

He is your EX, let it go...because Ur sound very desperate...

summergirl

I agree with Kel, you're just asking for trouble. It's rude not to invite her and when she finds out you just want HIM to come, she'll be pissed at you from now on. Looks pretty obvious you want him back.

Hmmm

Sounds like you want to play the violin but really your playing an electric guitar. If you want him to come you gotta invite the wife also. It is Christmas I don't think the wife would like to be alone on this day she is the present wife and also have right to be with her husband. What kind of husband would agree to leave his wife on Christmas.

natmilolilly01

Good luck with that! If it's just as friends you shouldn't care if he brings his current wife. But if this is some type of ploy to get him back.......I wouldn't bother. Sorry, I'm not trying to be rude, just honest:(

jmc24

Are you insane?? His wife would never go for that. He has a new family now. He might not go where his wife is not welcomed.

mac

You're going to have to invite her too. He has moved on and has a new family now that he won't want to be apart from on Christmas Eve. Sounds like you're trying to win him back. Cut your losses and move on. He did.
Start a new tradition with your family and the kids - without him.

Indypendence

Yes. Honey that would be wrong. Put yourself in the new wife's shoes.......It's not her fault that the two of you are no longer wed; so why should she made to suffer?

If you really want your family to be together you are going to have to include her too. Some of the best holiday get togethers I can remember included my Dad, my Stepmom, my Mother, and maternal GrandMother along with my Stepmoms family.

Putting all that stuff aside..........we all care for one another and it's great for everyone involved. We are all one big happy family.

smt

Yes. He has moved on. You should respect his new marriage. I think if you extended the invitation, he would decline.

sarah W

No then thats not right. Why should this woman spend christmas without her husband and step children? It sounds to me that you are looking to win him back. She is part of the family now so its all or nothing on christmas

Rein

I have an ex wife in my life just like you. I feel sorry for you.

music_lovin_miss

If they are his kids, i am sure he would want to see them, and christmas is a good time to build bridges within the family.

You definately have to give and take a little over the holidays, especially in seperated or divorced families. I think what you are suggesting would be lovely for the kids.

I don't see any reason for his new partner to be there. It's not like you are trying to separate them on xmas day- i think it;s a very nice plan for xmas eve and i wish you luck!

American Beauty

You know this would be wrong; so there's no need to tell you that. What you do need to know is that you have to let go of this man. You're still in love with him and that's understandable. However, you can't continue to see him as part of your family, when he's married to someone else. It's not healthy for you, or your children. You can still keep him in your heart, but you can't include him in your family affairs, when he's no longer part of the family. This is wrong, whether you include his wife or not. Although his children are with you and he should maintain a close relationship with them, you have to face that reality of what has happened and avoid putting yourself through unnecessary pain. Yes, keep a place for him in your heart; but let him go otherwise. I know it hurts, but you have to let go.

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