Would you allow your son/daughter date/marry someone from a different race than yours?

Mugsy's Place

My children are adults and I don't tell them what to do. Two of them are married and one is single. They married within their race and none of my children have dated outside their race. So, I don't have any actual experience in dealing with this.

I believe this is a personal choice, and everyone is entitled to make their own decisions. It's not up to me to decide what's right for someone else.

However, as far as our children are concerned, neither my husband nor myself would be happy if they dated "outside" their race. I know my parents would have never accepted it.

I don't think you're a "racist" because you don't want your children to date "outside" their race. I believe most people are more "comfortable" within their own race (whatever that may be) and I don't think anyone needs to "apologize" for feeling that way.

I am white and my family is Irish. My husband is Italian and his parents are from Sicily. Although he is the same "race" as I am, the cultural differences between our families are huge. We have dealt with many "issues" over the past 35 years. Issues that I don't believe we would have been dealing with if we were from the same economic and ethnic background.

I'm not saying that inter-racial marriages can't work, obviously they can. I think It depends on the people involved and their ability to work through their differences.

I try to treat everyone the way I would like to be treated. If someone is nice to me I'm nice to them. If someone is mean, then I don't want anything to do with them. My like or dislike for anyone is based on their actions, not their race.

I hope this helps you a bit, it's only my opinion and I hope I don't "offend" anyone with it.

Top Broker

I know I am going to get beat up with this one!!
NO, because I don't want my beautiful blonde daughter to be a trophy for anybody, no matter what color. My family is proud of our Irish heritage and I would hope that she has enough pride in it to keep our blood Irish, not that I have a problem with interacial relationships. My ex and her sister are both with black men, and they are good guys, just not for my baby girl. Sorry!

CryBaby

All I can say is they better be good to my kid or their hamburger meat. Got it?

kennerkitty812

That is not up to me to decide. I wouldn't have the right to say who my son or daughter could or could not date. I think I'd worry more about their background as a person.

Royalhinney

Yes I would, as long as the person treated my child with respect and love, I'm good with it.

SKYDOGSLIM

Love is colorblind. I do not feel I have the right to tell any of my three children who to marry. Or anyone else for that matter.

cdvpruthe

I want my daughter to be happy. It's more important to me than color or race. If her choice of a partner treats her like the lady she is, I would be thrilled, regardless of color, race, religion, gender, etc

Yes I would God sees people as clear and so do I

MiaDiva28

i wouldnt care who they married so long as they were treated good and in a loving way. i would marry outside my race, i dont need someones approval to do it.

MinnesotaRick

People are people.. Color don't matter.. Unless there is a racial person saying the words of bigotry.. I remember back in the 60's trashing people who want to marry outside their race.. The 60's opened my eyes which later caused me to fight racism today..

The answer I think you are seeking is.. Forget those people who use racism as a way to change people's minds.. Love is more powerful than you know.. And don't forget.. Racism is alive here in America.. Don't let them people push you around.. You have your own mind..

Butterfly06

There are so many different races and cultures in our country that it's ludicrous to think everyone will 'keep to their own'. About 50 yrs. ago, if an interracial couple married, they would definitely have a difficult time being accepted, as would their kids as they wouldn't feel comfortable in either 'community', not knowing where they belonged. Nowadays, I'd truly like to think we have grown to accept all nationalities and can 'blend' accordingly if we fall in love. However, I do realize some parents do not want their children marrying outside their race. If the 'kids' are 3rd generation Americans or Canadians and have been integrated all their lives, it would be very difficult for them to have to adhere to 'tradition' if they fall in love with someone with whom their parents would not approve. In these days of enlightenment, if they have to marry a person chosen by their parents, they could rebel causing problems within the family. A horrible outcome of that is spousal abuse and, in our area of the country, three murders with one husband arrested and 2 more considered suspects.

This is rather a long-winded way of saying "Yes, I truly do believe we should let our children marry the person they love, no matter what race." I was tested with that statement when my white son came home with a black girlfriend. I was definitely surprised but, after the initial shock, found her to be a lovely young woman. The relationship didn't last though.

misskittytangoe26

love has no color. My daughter can marry who ever she pleases. It is ok with me.

Tinker Bell

ya free country

Doris D

After they turn 18 I have no say.

~just_jd~

yes i would. as long as they were treated right an loved ...the man was faithful in all his judgments to take care of her an stand by her. yes , i would wish them all the happiness in the world.

Jack C

sure, as long as the person is of good character, good looking, healthy, wealthy, wise and educated.

Sara

Yes, what is important to me is that he treats her well. A white boy who treats my daughter poorly will be hated at my house. A man of any other color who makes her feel loved will be loved by all at our house.

perfect_in_vegas

Yep! If they truly loved them race isn't an issue.

Zach S

Yes... the reason behind marrying is love, and if he/she loves that person, let them go through with it. A marriage of two different races is more common then one would think, and you can't let them not go through with marriage of a person they love!

i would allow cause there are adult enough to be entitle to have their choice and to make decisions and they are at full responsible for their lives. we can only do so much to advice and help them through certain times but nothing more cause if they are in love there's nothing else we can do to brake it up and it's a foolish act not only making our life miserable but for theirs as well and at the end of the day aren't different races humans too? don't their body run with blood which is red in color like yours and mine too?

acmeraven

You must be very young and dumb. I have six daughters and I have never been able to tell them anything about who or what to marry. I have simplified my life somewhat by telling any sons-in-law that if they worship me as they would God then we will get along fine; and I don't loan money; that is for banks and loansharks.

sharon

I believe everyone should have a change to be happy. I don't believe love knows color barrier. If I had a child and he/she came to me telling me of his/her love for someone of a different race, the only concern I would have would be the person's charecter, not skin color.

sassybree1979

I don't think it's worse now than it was before, and I'm 45. I can't honestly say that I would have been jumping for joy if my daughter had fallen in love with a man from another race - but not because of him - but because of all the extra difficulties they'd face as a couple. Anyone who won my daughter's love would have, at the very least, my respect and care. :)

Green-eyed Nikki

I don't have kids, but I know how I would feel if I did have kids and also my mom's opinion. I think that it should not matter a person's race so long as they are genuinely a good person, want the best for their significant other, and don't want to try to change whomever they are with. It should be a matter of love, respect, honesty, and trust rather than what they look like.

Mean Carleen

ABSOLUTELY, because we're all human and we are all going through life together. A different color skin or nationality means nothing to me or my ENTIRE family. We are sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo... not racist and will and have welcome allll kinds of races, nationalities into our family. My son has a 3 month old son with a Spanish, Italian, black girl. Its ALL good.

imsuperman44102

I have to disagree about race hating being more prevalent but society excepting the fact that race mixing is the next generation. Show me one race that hasn't started mixing, the color of ones skin does not represent who that individual is as a person. Love is blind, your mind is what opens your eyes when you can close your mind to color you will see nothing but a persons body mind and soul. I have dated outside my race for a long time and can say this in all relationships no matter what color or genders your dealing with we all have the same issues with in the relationship. I would allow my daughter/son to marry who ever they wanted as long as they're happiness came first.

mdp

I am more concerned with the lifestyle of the person, than their ethnicity. If someone of my race lived a lifestyle I did not approve of I would not want them dating my sons, also, if someone of a different race did live up to my standards I would have no reason to be upset with the choice of their spouse.

I think for me it would break down more on religious lines than racial lines.

2wild4u

This is how I see it when you love someone and care for them and they treat you good it shouldnt matter what your race is. I cant speak for their father,but I am all about my childrens happiness so as long as the one they choose is for all the right reasons thats all that matters and I will welcome him/her into my home and my heart.

virtuos

I have been faced with this same question, and guess what I did? I gave them my blessing. my daughter married out side her race. you see we are black and he is Spanish.that's the only difference, our culture. God made all of us the same way. 1.name me any race that has children in a different way, we all come out through the birth canal? 2.which race uses a different part of their body to go to the bath room? and 3.which race does not go in the ground after they die? so you see, we are all the same. we may look a little different or even speak different, we might even have different shades of skin, but were all Gods children. I hope that I could help answer your question.

mistkie

I would allow my child to marry outside of his/her race, as long as he/she was a good person. I have many friends that have married and have children with another race. I think they make beautiful children. I personally would not, only b/c I am happily married already.

AngelVirgo9206

If I had kids sure date whomever they fall in love with why for my mom is Vietnamese and my father is white so I am 110% for following your heart and loving whomever you want to love !!

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