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Laura G
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I don't think I would be offended if he does or doesn't. Here's why:
He is taking a risk by asking me to marry him. Asking someone to spend the rest of his/her life with you is a HUGE step. Unfortunately, some marriages end in divorce. Why should someone be made to feel as if he or she is left "hanging in the wind" in the event of the dissolution of the unity? There's enough uncertainty in the world, so why add more unknown variables to the mix. Also, I think it takes a great deal of courage on the part of the person asking for the prenup. It's such an emotional issue, and it's not fun to ask a question like this.
In addition, I'm assuming the person asking you to sign a prenup loves you. I'm also assuming you love the person asking for the prenup. If you love that person, then why wouldn't you want to protect his/her interests in the event that things don't work out? Of course, during a divorce, you'll likely hate or resent that person. However, that time has not come...
Also, I'm not saying that someone should just blindly sign the agreement. Obviously, the parties involved MUST think about future children. Otherwise, the guardian parent could get royally screwed! I would never condone signing a prenup without making sure BOTH parties are adequately protected as well.
In your question you specify that the prenup stipulates that both parties walk away with what they have brought in before marriage, but you don't mention anything about AFTER the union. Are we assuming that anything gained/earned after the union is community property? If so, that sounds fair to me.
In general, a prenup is designed to protect people in a divorce proceeding. It wasn't designed to "stick it to the ex."
Hope this helps.
Good luck with your decision!!! |
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JM
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maybe if i was marrying him for money but since i didn't, nope i'd sign one but only if we split what was earned IN the marriage |
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nigel v
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No i would not be offended. In fact it would be me asking for it. |
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MissE
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Not offended at all. I insist on one as does my SO. |
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Pretty In Pink
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Not offended but suspicious as to how he found out I was after his money. |
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HangingChad
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Not if she had tons of money. I'd dome some good negotiating. Must have a "severance package". |
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nope. my bf's family owns a successful business and I understand. |
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Lucky~Mommy
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No...prior to the marriage I had more. Its rightfully mine. He didn't pay for my car, house. Its mine. If we decide to split I should be able to walk away with it. |
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Tiare
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no, that would be the ideal for me. I would also keep my savings separate during the marriage and walk away with that too. |
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melouofs
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We were married 2 months ago, and my husband and I have one. He owns a business, and the building was bought with the collateral from his parents' house. If we divorced, I could make them sell their home to take half its value, and although I would never do something like that, my MIL works for a bank and sees unfortunate things like that happen. It was mainly for them, and for their peace of mind. |
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cuddles
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no i wouldnt b offended...when u get married its supposed to b for love and a future...not what u can get materialistically.... |
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vis
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if my spouse ask for one.. yes.. if my bf as for it before marriage.. no.. as a matter of fact if I ever get remarried i going to ask for one.. even if i am broke |
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Elora Maria
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no, I wouldn't |
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LAgirl
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No. I think it would encourage me to me my own money and I would respect it. Hell i want prenup too. |
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Grumpy
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no.
should you happen to split up down the road you split the proceeds of the marriage. what you started with is outside of this. |
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bijjee
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one should not if one is not marring for her money. |
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lisalisa
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not at all look I own some things and no matter how much in love I was I would ask for one.
Only because I been in love before thought it would be forever and it was not and afterwards I had to start all over again.
I think pre-numps are the best thing since slice bread |
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Frank S
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yes. especially if you are marrying for money |
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Daisy
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It really depends. I have one child and have struggled to buy property. My ex boyfriend had 3 kids. By nature, he always lied and kept things from me which I forgave but when it came to getting married, I asked for the prenup only to be safe and he flipped out!!! A week later after we called off our wedding, he turned around and told me he had property in England like (nah nah nah nah naaaa.. now he did not want to marry me because he had told me about it). Of course, by then we had called off the wedding.. He never wanted to tell me about it.. that is worse than asking someone for a prenup.. at least with a prenup, I was honest to keep my property safe for my child incase something happened to our marriage. He took the sneaky way and never even told me about his property.. so I would not be offended. It is an honest and safe way to make sure you what you brought into the marriage will not be greedily taken away by your spouse should the marriage end.. |
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Gee
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Not at all but than we both had equal amounts of assets prior to the marriage. |
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I ♥ 504 babyy!
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That seems extremely fair. I wouldn't be offended. |
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jaded
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yes. that seems very punitive. if you dont know what punitive or prenuptual means, you need your own lawyer. this 'husband' does not mean to be a partner with you. your question gave me a chill, and i am firmly in favor of prenups. dont sign anything without your own lawyer and without you understanding and agreeing to everything. what bothers me is that if you have nothing and he has assets, you divorce after many years of marriage, you get nothing? that cant be right. |
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momrfg2003
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It feels like there's a lack of trust from the very beginning. If it had a stipulation for the support of any children and there was a reason for him suggesting it in the first place, I'd probably sign. |
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Tina T
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No, I actually think it's quite smart in today's world...are you unemployed and expect to get a free ride in this world? It's not gonna happen...good luck to you; have respect for the person asking...they are smart!! |
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April H
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depends you know you can marry a person and they can change over the years, might be a good idea if you have alot of money, otherwise its stupid |
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♥cierra.lovely♥
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well thanx for explainig what that meant. i've been trying to figure that out since i was eight. anyway, yeah, i probably would be. |
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matt
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lol yes because that means that there is a mental thought that you and him might not work out a a couple so i would be worried about marring him |
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sxctara88
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YES!! because in my opinion marriage is for life!! |
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The Wife
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I see the point of one... it makes sense. But it also says the future spouse has doubts on whether you'll last. |
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ThatgirlfromKY
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If I had nothing to hide, and loved him I would. In my real life case my husband and I were broke when we got together and have worked our way up.. He still makes more money than me but I have helped. |
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