Would you be upset if your husband did this?

crazymoma

Well,I would confront him about it and tell him that you are not stupid and you aren't going to deal with his lies anymore.I mean it sounds like he is a big time player if you are wife #3 there has to be reason's that number 1 and 2 aren't around anymore.Maybe that is why.I don't think you should deal with all that crap.It's divorce time and I don't believe in divorce's unless you really have a reason but you have A LOT of reason's for one.I wouldn't deal with that at all.If he wants a 28 year old woman who just wants him for his money let her have him..let him get screwed over.What goes around comes around.Believe that.You can do better and I would if I was you.Good luck.

gilgamesh

How many red flags do you need, girl?

DannyK

Here's hoping you get half of the scumbag's things.

U can't b serious

Sounds like he is working on wife #4.

ihurtmyhand

hope u didnt sign a prenup

RhiaB

You are wife #3 for a reason and it doesn't sound like a pretty reason. I'm so sorry that he's like this. I would run like the wind and get alimony and child support. If he has the money to spend on other women, he can provide support for you and your children after you leave his sorry ***.

Window

yes I would be upset. but honestly what did you expect from a twice divorced guy. were you the reason he broke it off with wife #2? if so what did you expect.

Mickey V

Assuming all that is correct, in the very least he is emotionally cheating on you. The fact that you feel this way should be enough to either stop him from hurting you, or make a change in your marriage.

Suliah

I guess the question is what happened with the other wives? did he leave them for someone younger and hotter? is the the type that moves on and starts a new family every couple of years? Some men are just never really going to settle down, and if this sounds like him then you should prepare for the worst.

No man should be buying a co-worker a $500 coat, no matter how well off he is. And the roses-- that's plain unacceptable. It does sound as though he's cheating, and has been for a long time (since it's december and Valentines day is in February). It is certainly time to confront him. I wish you the best of luck.

gypsy g

Eeeek...sounds like you maybe Xwife #3. Men don't buy women roses for no reason. Sorry, they just don't; it implies too much, unless its a b-day or secretaries day or someone dies.

marcella l

thats a train wreck waiting to happen...i wouldnt put up with any nonsense, there is a reason he has been married three times, believe me, i have been there done that...and wont go back there again...hope you make the right decision, for you and your children..

Sara M

what the hell!!!!! yes confront him....i must compliment you on your patience....i wouldve went off on him a long time ago!

Christa M

You have every right to be upset, and I hope you don't waste any more time and ask him what is really going on. You have every right to know the truth of the situation, though in questions be prepared for hard truths, that could prove to alter your life and marriage. Good luck to you!

rustyoldma

DON'T CONFRONT HIM. You are about to be his 3rd ex wife. Take all evidence to a lawyer's office ASAP. Be first to file for divorce.

Lisa D

I hate to say it but the writing was on the wall before you married him? Ask yourself..was he still married when you met him? Was he fresh out of his 2nd marriage when you started dating? He's sleeping with her, whether you want to realize it or not. Get in line, get the alimony, child support and get out. He's basically getting away with adultery and obviously isn't shy about it. Best of luck with the confrontation, he isn't going to choose. He may tell you that he won't see her anymore, but I think it's way past roses and a $500 coat.

Jessica C

Yes, if he is not having an affair with her, he wants to. There is not reason for the cashmere coat.

just me

yeah, he is definitely not being faithful..he should not be buying gift like that...I would first get all your ducks in a row before confronting him..go talk to an attorney and see what your options are...You need to document what has been going on, and make sure that you will be financially secure if a divorce is in the future...

Ginny C

Sorry to say but this does not look good at all. You are wife number three and he is still looking for someone else's company. I think this is an issue that he has with himself, an inner complex so to speak and i doubt that you can help him with it. Since you have three young children i suggest you wait until you have proof of infidelity, take him to court and get decent child support. No more and no less. No hate, no "getting all his money," just enough so you can stand on your own feet and provide for yourself and your children. Do NOT confront him until you have proof!

sandnickel2003

What???? Did you go with to the ballgame out of town? Doesn't sound like it!! Besides, why do you think you're wife #3?? I'd confront him, but make sure you have proof ( cashmere coat expense - how'd you find out about it & the roses?)

Niel

time to confron him before he gets wife no#4. Go get him tigress.

Kat

Heck yes I'd be upset. I would confront him about it. If nothing else it will get the wondering "what if" over with. I'm sorry, but I just don't think that if they were just friends, he would be spending that much money on her. Does he spend that much on you? Probably not. I'm so sorry! HUGS

matty_mo1

oh yes. he's cheating. how many flowers and sweaters has he bought for you?

STARZ

UPSET? i would have killed him by now! confront him and clear the air....then get out and get what you deserve.....he is a cheater and always will be.......

eei59aasd

Obviously there was a good reason for wife 1 and 2 to leave also. he probably did the same to them.

old-softy

sounds as if he has identified wife #4. sorry.

you should call a great divorce lawyer immediately to secure your 1/2 of the estate or whatever your prenup says.

ashnperry

It is blatantly obvious that he is cheating on you and has some serious relationship issues that are not your fault. (two ex's, a wife, and a mistress..??) You deserve better than this. Confront him camly and assertively. Tell him what you know and that you WILL NOT TOLERATE it!! It's my opinion that you need to separate from this man who seems unable to emotionally commit to a woman. Again, you deserve more in a mate.

Try not to be accusing and harsh, just state your case and begin taking action. Chances he has some problems with you as well and yelling and demeaning him will only give him a reason to start tearing you down as well. Keep it adult and to the point.

Esperanza

I would have along time ago. Does he spent money on u are brings u roses? how did u become wife #3? were u the other you woman of wife #2? yes confront him and give him the divorce papers. good luck.

JimF

I think as wife #3 you would have seen this coming before you were married! I hope you have a good lawyer, because he is already working on Wife #4!!

celticbuddha

wish him all the luck with #4!

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