Would you choose your daughter or new girlfriend?

animalwatch

Your husbands an idiot.

He is going to learn the hard way and want to come back, so be prepared for a sorrowful man at your door.

Unfortunately lust takes over men especially in that age range,she's only 22, it won't last.

I know the way he told you was heartless,but at least you did'nt hear it from anyone else,not that I'm making light of the matter.

He can't take with his children and has cut off from them, because he is ashamed of his actions and can't face them.

I really feel for you ,it's a terrible betrayal.
But do believe me, he will be back, then it will be up to you whether you choose to have him back, but the question is will you ever be able to forgive and forget, I doub't it.

Good luck anyway.and do disregard the comments from any of the idiots on this site,the're really not worth upsetting yourself over, you have enough on your plate at the moment.

Sarah S

I could never leave my children if i had any.
How can someone be so cruel to make someone else make that decission. This "girl" sounds like a heartless female dog. I'm with you on this one.
Look after your kids. They are number 1

grahamralph2000

im 45 and my partner is 20 similar story i left my wife after 20 years, but can not understand how he could cut himself off from his children, i had some difficult times to start with but we worked it out and now my children get on really well with my new partner who i am always grateful to for the support she has given me in realising i need daddy daughter time as did my daughter. the only remaining difficulty and its understandable is how bitter the ex is but she lets it show too much with the kids so much so that they have both had times of not wanting to see her and i ended up acting as a referee to get them back together. its sad but marriages do break up but the kids should be protected as much as possible by both parents continuing to love them and not try to score points off each other with them. i guess i been lucky in some respects and not had to make the choice ur ex has, wish you well

stormy0486

I think he made a terrible choice. No one should ever give that type of ultimatum. In the long run, he will the the biggest loser. His daughter's will remember this always.

rtanys

No question about it, my daughter wins every time. Love me, love my kid. Package deal.

S K

Daughter.

GrnApl

There is NO CHOICE when it comes to the children. It doesn't matter what their age is. The insult is compounded by the fact that his children are still at home and still need their father. They must be feeling so abandoned. As must you. It's all just too sad for words. What goes around comes around is what I always say. Go for his wallet BIG TIME and let's just see how long his new child/gf sticks around.

scott in minnesota

He should have his @ss kicked.

Well, when his talley whacker goes limp the young temptress may run off to find a rigid one and he will be all alone. With out Viagra it will be like stuffing a marshmallow into a piggy bank.

Maybe he will think of how awful he has been to the two angels he is supposed to cherish.

He is not even a man to make the decision he has.

Best wishes to you and your daughters

skizzle-d-wizzle

Who would ever need to make that choice--the girlfriend is so totally insecure--this is just so wrong--the thing is your daughters need to write their father a letter (if they cant call him) an tell him that because he has made the rules he needs to stick to them --that is thanks for the life now move on and don't look back--He doesn't deserve the love of his daughter--he needs a councilor he is a sick MAN

sweetie_baby

If I had to, Id choose my kids.

For some reason its easier for a man to turn his back on his kids, than it is for a woman. Its sad, I wish you and your daughters all the best, and someday he will learn his lesson. What goes around comes around.

Nickie

this man is a pig and u should be greatful he is not in thier lives i know its hard for them to come to terms with it now but they will and they will end up just pityin the man

sftbllr4lf

My dad chose his now wife over me she's only 5 years older than I am. I talk to my dad now (16 years after the fact). Just be there for your kids love them. Don't raise them to hate him as he is their father but don't lie to them about the situation either. They as time passes will make their own decisions on how to feel about him. Right now he feels young again attractive. You're children will see for themselves. I however would make their financial life quite uncomfortable with as much child support as allowed. Than modify it with every pay increase on him. The ball is in your court play it. It tore your family apart so now you need to tear is wallet apart with child support and alimony. Fair exchange is no robbery. Good Luck and be strong.

cazmo

my father did this to my mum
i havent spoken to him in years
but i think your husband might come to his senses

Gangstalicious

He is a piece of sh!t thats all i can say.

Sassy Shut Your Mouth

No man or woman should NEVER make a single parent chose between them or their children. People reading this... if anyone EVER give you the ultimatam let them HIT the road QUICK. What an idiot. Tell that tramp to take a hitch... she is not worth it trust me. Children are the package deal.... period.

alexol

I would chooses my children nodoubt about it! How can some one abandone their own kids?

snow_dog_babe

What a nice husband you had!,,,,,,,,,he deserves a smack in the jaw. Thats a pretty big age gap between them. This lass may wake up and realise its 2 big an age gap. Then what do you do if he wants to come back?

WENDY G

My ex left me at 30 for a 18 year old. he never disowned my kids though, they are the best thing we ever did together. They are now married and we all get along great. I think its very sad that your ex chose a very immature and insecure child to date. Your kids will see him for the choices he made and he will someday want a relationship with them and they wont have it. Its his loss in the end. Stand up and take the role of both parents and make sure you go after him for support!

fivelighters

daughter of course... mail me

sinead

u poor thing, it seems to be happening everywhere at the moment..

his relationship with this "young thing" is destined for break up, i know that's no consolation for u and your girls but no relationship can survive when ultimatums are set, no matter what they may be... that's sick and childish, and shows all of this girl's insecurities, she's obviously very childish.

i just hope for all of ur sakes that he doesn't come to his senses too late, when ur daughter is so hurt that she has closed the door to her heart.. there is no question of who to chose, we don't make people chose in love.. we accept and compromise..

i can't imagine how anyone can turn their backs' on their children or desert them... u won't be able to make sense of it because he probably can't make sense of it himself...he doesn't realise what he has done, he will learn the hard way by having to live through it..

don't concentrate on asking yourself why, take it one day at a time, concentrate on yourself and your kids, be their rock and take things step by step... it will be a long hard process for eveyone involved..

good luck! and a big bear hug..

Lu Lu â™¥

What a pig!!! My heart goes out to you and your kids. He doesnt deserve them and sad as it is, they are better off without him. You are the bigger and better parent here honey and your kids will see that someday, and you will be greatly rewarded. And as for him, (What goes around comes around). He will find himself old and lonely and need his kids, and I hope that he will feel the same pain that they do now. He will get what he deserves

robert x

one day soon your errant husband will find out the error of his ways

His new partner is obviously a controlling influence, who is scared that contact with his daughters will ultimately cause him to miss what he had while being with you.

In the end he will realise that he can't cut his past life and that he will have to come to a compromise within the new relationship.

Its a certain fact that if compromise isn't archived then his new relationship will fail..

KEVIN G

Sorry to hear your story.I'm the same age and would kill for my 3 kids.couldn't even look at my daughters mates in that way!!!!

timmie

the reality hast,nt sunk in yet give it a few months...
he doesnt hardly know her
he will miss his family and come crawling back
he is in denial about the whole situation

hayles

good riddance to him you dont wan a person like that in your children's life, if he has chosen his girlfriend over his children he is selfish. I think you are all better off without him. You should tell your children everything and let them make their own mid up about him and i bet you they dont want anything more to do with him Dont worry about it hes no worth it.

y que?â™£

hes an idiot why wouldnt you choose ur daughters who you have loved all those years for sumone who obviously controls your every thought! i havnt had to make that choice but im sorry that ur goin through that! more sorry for your daughters!

tjtwix1

the "girl" he has chosen to be with is just that she has shown how immature she is! when it all goes wrong which it will he will have a lot of grovelling to do, and its going to be very hard for him to make it up to his daughters, he is a rat, she deserves him

HDGranny

If you wait for him to contact the children and don't push for communication; sooner or later this girl will be old news. And he will miss his children and make the right choice. He is just confused. Give it time. And by the way, some guys need lots of time.

hughjones

He's thrown away everything. That's so sad. As another 46 year old, I can sympathise with his feelings but not condone his actions. Had you fallen out of love?

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