Would you consider this "cheating"?

querry

if you would have the very same conversations with this person - with your spouse or your friend listening...then no,

if anything is edited out to create a relationship 'just between you two' - you are on a slippery and unethical slope.

Jodi A

As long as your significant others don't have a problem with it, then it's nobody else's business! Enjoy the friendship!

~ahmani <3~

nope...that is not cheating at all!!!...who ever told you that is struggling

apples

i have several housedad friends... pay no attention to little minds... it's 2008. Dad's can do other things besides pay the bills and have affairs

longshorefam

Hmm. Are you sure they are both comfortable? I wouldnt be cool with my husband having some chick call him everyday. Something to think about.

baby_x

It wouldn't be considered cheating if you were doing the same with a female friend - if you two havent developed feelings for eachother or anything theres no problem at all.. especially if your partners don't have a problem, why should you?
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katron n

no its not cheating and its not wrong if ur husband doesnt care and niether does ur friend its not cheating to be friends with somebody

Uncle Remus

If it's COMPLETELY platonic..not cheating.

However, if there is some sort of attraction or curiosity on either part that could lead to more "personal" conversations, then I think it would be time to end the conversations... because what could be considered cheating couldn't be far off the horizon.

littleman

To me as long as everyone is kosher with it, then what's the problem? It's yours and your husband's live, and likewise, it's your friends' lives too...so keep the friendship!

Doesn't sound like it, just don't let it go beyond housewives stuff.

Sandy Ego

If no one involved considers it cheating, then it's not - period. The rest of the world isn't married to you. Don't fret.

smoothie

Sounds like you're friends to me. Its not like you're sneaking around behind your spouses back.

lucylocket7258

Who ever said that to you is just jealous of your relationship with your friend. Woman bond and when you have a girlfriend, you have one for life. Men don't understand the closeness women have for each other,. There is nothing in this world I wouldn't do for my girlfriends, there has been times over the years that I felt certain, my wings were broken, but it was my girlfriends that helped me learn to fly again. Just say to hell with whom ever said that and keep your friend. A true friend is something to be treasured.

How someone else could say that talking is the same as having a physical relationship is seriously off their rocker. They must be so ultra-conservative that they don't which end is up. Seriously, talking to this guy is no big deal. Your friend and your husband have no issues so how can it be bad?

Poppa

no it's not cheating if your husband is ok with it and your best friend i wont worry about it

miss leonor

this is not cheating, it's the kind of stuff u would with a girl friend.

Priek

What your saying is not cheating but you are leaving out a big part.

If the dialogue is along the lines of your spouses, if you are having flirtatious talk or you are developing feelings for this person, then yes, it would be cheating.

It is good that all parties involved are on the same page, I commend you for your honesty.

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I don't think that is cheating, but I do think it could lead to it. You and your husband have a fight or him and his girl have one, then you or him show how sympathetic and understandng you are and boom...

iyamacog

Doesnt seem like it's a matter of cheating. However, if you're both depending on each other above your mates, I guess it could be considered a form of cheating. If that be the case, it's merely a matter of time, before your mates begin to feel something maybe not quite right.

Quasimodo

Whoever told you that this was being 'unfaithful' is either a holy-roller or a border-line imbecile.

I do the same thing with two women who live only 30 miles from me and are married as well. I gourmet cook, so do they and we call one another and share recipes and dinner tips.

Just how that can be construed as 'cheating' is beyond my comprehension. Tahnk your nitwit friend for their advice and carry on. If the spouses are good with it that's all that matters.

Carl Diva

There is no problem with it especially if your bff doesn't care. You're right, there is nothing romantic going on so don't listen to your peers. You are just friends.

Julia

If it is not a problem with the other two spouses people need to keep their dirty thoughts to themselves. There is nothing wrong in all of you being friends as long as everyone is ok with it and you both keep it in line. I am sure you would never do anything to intentionally cause a problem with any of them because you love your husband and intend to keep it that way. Some people always look for the worst in everything when it is far from the truth. You know where you are at and if anything appeared any different you know you would discontinue the contact with him.

Anonymous

No that's not cheating at all. If you were doing something with the guy then that would be considered cheating. it is completely fine to have a close friendship with another man while you are married

Star

Whom ever said that its a form of cheating is totally insecure.Besides , your friends and your partner, like his know your close and speak constantly on the phone . That's so cool , to be very open and honest with you alls partners. I would say ,,,,,,,,, who cares what anyone thinks , as long as you know you ain't doing nothing wrong and your partner knows its all that matters. You both are lucky to have spouses who you can trust to be honest w/ one anothers friends . I think the person who mentioned it was wrong , should go look for a good friend like yours and stop being envious of your relationship. Best of luck.

Avicenna

nope have fun, who says you cannot have friends

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