Would you enter into an affair with a married person if you start loving that person?

No. I love myself more than that.

christina P

u already entered into affaif if u love that person which is wrong!!!

Happy-2

No, because I love, appreciate, and respect my wife, and I believe in the wedding vows I made. I would have to content myself with loving the married woman from afar.

Heatherrrrrrrr

No. You should have higher standards for yourself. Don't allow yourself to fall for someone with baggage or that is already in a marriage.

You are setting yourself up for heartache and being 2nd best. You are filling a need in this person that they dont' get from their spouse.

Cali_wife

NO!
I wouldn't let myself fall for married person in the first place!

fanofozzyosbourne

No I have never cheated and I would never help someone cheat on their partner either........they just want their 'cake' and eat it too.

NO WAY! If the person is still living with the spouse... you are just setting yourself up for heartache.

iiidontknowdoyou

I would never allow myself to fall in love with someone married in the first place!!! NO, I have to much respect for myself to get involved in someones marriage! Loving them is no excuse to help ruin their marriage!!!

Crazy_Fool

Never! I am married, but even if I wasn't, I wouldn't. A married person that would have an affair, is a very selfish person!

oleander

Absolutely not. You have to have respect for the relationship that they are in, as well as your's. It is mainly a test of character...if you were married to a girl, and she wanted to have an affair with someone else because she "loved" the guy, what would it feel like to you? This being the case, who is to say that this same person won't want to have an affair with someone else when they are with you? I would suggest taking it slow, and not doing anything drastic for a while. Just tread lightly, and you should be fine (but give it time).

soporific2u

NO! if you really love the person you can wait until they are divorced. Dont make a difficult situation even worse....

Secre25

Absolutely not. I would not even date a man who is separated from his wife. Love should be good and pure not immoral and wrong. How can it be love if the other person is married?! If it were, it would be important enough to pursue a divorce and wait until the divorce is FINALIZED before pursuing anything. Having an affair is just plain selfish and wrong. Very scummy. LOVE is not scummy. Marriage is hard work. Effort should be made to save the marriage, not quit whenever it seems hard.

I have had several friends who dated men who were supposedly separated from their wives, but it was all complete crap. They never left their wives, they lied about being separated. For any readers out there, never date a married man! Even if he says he is separated. They can't possibly treat you the way you deserve to be treated, and what about their spouse? I am a strong believer in Karma. How people can knowingly hurt someone that deeply is beyond me. Not knowing someone does not give you free reign to ruin someone's life!

My sister's husband cheated on her, and it DESTROYED her life. She will never be the same. The worst part about it is, she honestly believes now that she is ugly, fat, undesirable, pathetic, etc. just because he did not have the courage to be a good man. Its disgusting.

OhWell

No one just enters into an affair, they create the affair together. Also know as adultery.
I pity the fool who falls in love with someone else when they're married.

mink

Some points to consider:
Is the fact that this person would do something so deceitful and potentially hurtful to their family and so called loved ones a reflection of poor character and selfishness?
Can you then expect any better from them in terms of how they will treat you long-term? Or even short-term when their is an issue of precedence between your needs/desires and theirs.
Is it really love when someone makes a dirty secret of you rather than discharge their obligations honorably before bringing you into such a situation? In fact, isn't this person casting aspersions on your character by supposing that you haven't any better morals than that? Aren't you worth more than that? Isn't their spouse deserving of such consideration as well?
While their marriage clearly already has its troubles, do you really want to be a contributing factor in its demise and the hurt that others will feel afterward?
Keep in mind that this person is showing you some important yet very unflattering aspects of their character as well as what they think of you. Naturally, you will proceed as you choose, but I would suggest that this person should p**s or get of the pot rather than drag you into an already unhappy mess as an outlet or an excuse to leave something they haven't the stones to leave on their own (as is often the case in extra marital affairs). I hope that whatever decision you make it is a reflection of your integrity and judgement that you can look back on and take pride in. Be a hero!

callawak2

I'm in that position right now. However, I think to have an affair with that person is disrespectful to them and to my wife. So, the answer is: "No I would not enter into an affair with that person."

sweetiepie12

No way that wouldn't be worth it. I don't think I would let myself get that close to some one while being married.

smith.sara79

no, they are yukky people that have no morals.If they can't leave their spouse, then it's hands off. Most that DO leave their spouse for you end up leaving you for another.Kinda like a tick :-) move around by latching onto new people ick.

cowboys2840

Why do people who have affair consider it love, it is not love it is called lust. I hope you realize the difference, because lust always burns out.

Sandy H

NO. ABSOLUTELY NOT. It's only gonna hurt. ... someone.
Adultery is a sin. We are told to not even look at another person with lust in our eyes. If that person is married, walk away.

TexanNFLGirl

why cheat yourself ? You can't love someone else until you love yourself first and apparently you don't love you. There are going to be times when he / she will have to leave you and you are not going to like that and sometimes when our feelings start getting in the way, we tend to forget what we have gotten ourselves into. The only way that this could possibly work is that you have to be a strong individual with "low" self esteem to deal with this. I love me, so that means, I want him all to myself, when I wake up in the morning, I want to be the first person that he looks at, not after he done looked at everyone else then he gets to me whenever time permits him. No !!! I want to be the shinning star on his shoulder, not the hidden moon in the closet. Wake up, smell the coffee and leave this situation alone. As a matter of fact, don't even start it.

Alison

No. Don't go there......please.

Unfortunatley, I was seeing a man for 5 years and love him very much (I knew him and had been living with him years before and we caught up and started seeing each other again)

1 year ago, he told me that he had married and I had been seeing him ALL his married life. I felt sick and very sad. It is now over and I am in pain like nothing I have felt before. - For no fault of my own. (I know he sounds horrible doesn't he) He just made a mistake with marrying in haste and then lied to make it worse, (I can be gracious and say no one is perfect).

I am not mistress material (even though I had been for a while) and it did'nt sit with me that I would be hurting some other woman. I am a nice person.

So its heartache all round apart from his wife as she is oblivious.

If you love this other person. Get divorced first and then be with her. My ex fella David admitted thats what he should have done and now its too late.

zorabl

No
I am a woman
and as a woman I would think about his wife and what that would do to her
and how would I feel if my husband cheated on me

MiZz SaAk

no i love my husband...and their is no way i would hurt him or our 2 lil girls....thats being very selfish on my part....and thats just not right!!!

david g

i take enough tylenol already

woodnymph

think about this. if he will cheat on his wife, what makes you think at the first sing of problems with you, and there will be problems, he won't cheat on you. if you love him, help him learn to face his problems instead of running away. there are two sides to every story. bet he's done this before. tell him you can still be friends, stop spending all your free time with him. also don't get physical unless he's free to do so. lots of men just yank your crank to get laid.

jla

no, sooner or later it would just end up in a big mess, especially if they have kids together

jayjay

no because i would think of those who would be affected by it.

Sherry F

Yes if i wasn't married, have fun while it last.

mn lady

There should be no question of an affair because you should not put yourself in a situation where you would fall in love with a married person.

If you meet someone who is married walk away. Do not put yourself in a situation where you could cause pain in someone elses marriage.

Good Luck

~leaving traces~

Been there, done that...it's NOT a good idea.
Nobody wins, everyone gets hurt.
The cost is not worth losing your sense of pride and self dignity, not including whatever or whoever else you lose.
You move on from the rest, but you cannot run away from yourself...and the disappointment that you didn't choose the right path is always right there with you.
Take my advice. Don't even THINK about it!
Get out of what you're in first, and make sure the other person is unattached. It's not worth the pain it causes anyone.

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