Would you forgive your wife for sleeping with 2 different men while you were working abroad for 1 year?

BabeHeart

I probably would not forgive my partner...no. Someone who has so little self control, isn't a good mate. It's one of the reasons so many military relationships have problems...one or both parties cheating when the military member is deployed.

benthere

depends were u faithful in that year?

Debbie B

I'm just curious to know how did you find out.

If you are willing to forgive her for the 2 times she slept around you might as well forgive her for the next time she does it again when you leave.

vanhammer

No. No way! There's no excuse for that.

DREW D

did you sleep with any one your self while abroad?
if so you cannot condemn
did she tell you of her own accord ??
did you find out ??
if she was honest then she is letting you know that she is not happy with the situation of you working abroad
if you found out then there may be more that 2
only you can decide
go for married status abroad and take her with you
best of luck

bibus75

Infidelity is always destructive, and often fatal, to a marriage.It is possible to avoid allowing infidelity to bring a marriage to an end, however.
Discovering the betrayal and anticipating the potential loss of the person most important in your life causes great distress. Unlike the trauma of death, which has an end and can be compensated for by positive elements in the relationship, infidelity undermines all that is good in the relationship and the pain seems to have no natural end point. Although not welcomed, death is to be expected at some point in a marriage. Betrayal is not. The victim of betrayal questions if the spouse ever loved them, and if so, what they might have done to lose it. It is as if the adulterous spouse has thrown dirt in the river of their marriage contaminating the water behind them and before them.
To recover from trauma, a victim has a natural tendency to go back to the traumatic experience, questioning, going over details repetitiously: â€œWhat did you do? Where? When? How often?â€ The traumatized spouse must go over the events until the emotional distress caused by them becomes manageable. They must reach a point where they feel there are no more surprises.
Often, the betraying spouse wants to get things over quickly, after admitting to their infidelity. They must develop empathy for what the betrayed spouse is experiencing, and be willing to live with the pain of guilt, until genuine healing can occur. In addition, the betraying spouse may learn something about them self in the questioning process. Recovery if possible takes 2 to 3 years.

sashtou

I have, already (it was 1 guy).

Sash.

massiel248

no, i couldn't i could never be intimate with him again.

cutie pie

well i'm not a guy but i'd like to answer your question. i think the wife should not be forgiven. the intimacy between you two will never be the same. and she has completely ignored the marriage vows which is so sad...she clearly has no respect for you...

its a big no from me...

teenie

Evidently you haven't and there isn't anything wrong with that unless you said you have forgiven her. If you told her that you reacted to soon and now your heart is breaking and you don't know what to do. All you can do is tell her how you feel tell her that it's killing you inside and it's keeping you awake at night if you don't this will only get bigger until you explode. Don't go on letting her think your over this and everything is hunky dory because the longer you wait the harder it will be to fix. Personally i think you will stay as long as you can take it then you will be out the door. Men can't or won't forgive as easy as women so i think you already have one foot out the door.

AMERICA

I would never forgive her, E V E R !!!!

atherton_lover

Depends if she is emotionally attached with them.

I'm sure she got horny and needed some action. It happens to us all.

i â™¥ MY FAMilY ((:

To answer your question No, you both are commited to each other, be faithful to one another. While you are out doing some good, she took her vows for granted and chose to open her legs.. Sorry if I sound cruel, but is the truth.
Your call.

sweetiepie

Forgiveness is not contigent upon what the other party did and is all about YOUR healing so yes, I would forgive her! I'm not saying that forgiveness is a 1-2-3 process, it takes time. Perhaps you will need some time apart from her or the relationship but make sure that the time is spent working on forgiveness and rebuilding the relationship rather than tearing it down even further.

It will take time but you will yield positive results!

GMAN

diggero

no no no no i would look for a divorce and get a person who you can trust

Gary C

no chance,and as for only two,sounds as if she was caught or seen by someone you both know,why has she told you,get rid while youve got the chance

Virus

Well being one of the men, i would forgive her !!!!!
When you going away next anyway ?

Anthony G

I did not and proceeded to destroy her life, still suffers 28 yrs later.

Payback is a *****.

EternalSS

Only 2? I don't think so. Women always shoot low when they talk about number of partners just like we lie and claim more.So forgive her for 2-10-a half dozen??? That's up to you.

If it were me, I would have her take a polygraph and get the exact number of men she serviced. Then I would go out and beat that by at least one ;-)

Shannon

Should have flew her over.

J.J.

well who else was going to do her!

bobo

I would ask her if I could join; it sounds pretty fun. stop being a loser and lighten up. have a manage a trois

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