Would you keep me around?

Vanity Affaire

You know your flaws and must realize how unattractive a demanding, jealous and insecure woman must be. Flip the situation around, despite your qualities of being a good mother and good in bed (as you say ;P), would you want someone to control you, to bark orders at you like you're some child or scrutinize everything that you do and say? In a way, it's emotionally abusive for you to be this way and if your husband doesn't figure out he can find another woman who can cook, clean and rock his world in the bed (because there are many of us out there) and leave because of this, this could very well chase him away and into someone else's arms or bed. If you don't trust him, why are you with him? If he hasn't given you a reason to not trust him, then your husband/significant other should be the person you do put your trust in, as your partner. If he has given you reason, well you decided to stay so you need to work on your trust issues if you want the relationship to last.
You know your bad qualities, some people are blind to them, so work on them so you can not only be a good mother, but a good wife as well and let your spouse know you're trying to change for the better so maybe when he sees yuour improvements, he'll be encouraged to change, but you can't change anyone, only yourself.
Good luck.

Valerie X Account #15- Awesome!

I would go if I were a man.

There are MILLIONS upon MILLIONS of women who are loyal, cook, clean, are Rockstars in bed and every other damn thing that aren't total B***HES to boot.

Just saying.....

#1 Super Guy

Sorry, raising your voice at me and saying mean stuff would end it...

I don't like rude people.

I don't yell at my woman and I cannot be attracted to a woman who talks to me like that...

Erin

If i were a guy i'd defiantly go!

Somethingtotry

Nope, your are selfish and immature. All the good you do would not be able to erase the hurt you cause.

bruce d

Go.

Joe

Not a chance in hell. Every one of your faults are show stoppers. Your good qualities are not enough to keep you around. You must be young and I would suggest trying to get rid of all the bad traits or you will be a lonely woman .

chambma517

The way you say it, as if there were only those two choices (to stay and put up with you as you are, or to go), makes me think I would go. You don't seem to be showing any inclination to change these behaviors of yours. There is the third option of staying, with both you and your husband working on these things, but if you're not even willing to consider changing your behavior, then I would say, go.

raspberrymelomel

I have zero tolerance for being yelled at and I hate being told what to do - nobody but me gets to micromanage my time (at least, not when I'm not at work). Just based on that, I'd go, even if I was a guy (which I'm not).

SA SPUR

I would have to go. I am grown and do not need a mother looking over my shoulder.

Lucy

You need to put those faults in check before you get too old for it to be cute anymore. You think old maids just happen?

badgirlsbadboy

who in hell wants a ***** all the time
hell with rocking in bed there are other times and places your not in bed and no one wants to listen to someone ***** from daylight to dark

wxwoman

i would go based on the faults

Sorry, if you want to fight by yourself. Call me when it's over. But don't do it too often.

Poppy

I would keep you but only if you attended an anger management class. No matter how loyal you are you can destroy a persons self esteem with words. Showering with love should never include decreasing you to ashes because you're upset.

avega_480

id stick around. I take it your mexican these traits are typical in mexican women. Their attitudes are a display of their passion nad u cant beat thier cooking!

p0oki3 l0v3s mR.playboi 10.26.07

well i wouldnt go out with some1 like dat becasue u would b insecure and allways accuse me of stuff jeoly i understand but deres a limit dnt like da whole demanding and abusive yelling behavior srry =)

Fire

Lol! You sound like me! Any chance that youâ€™re an Aries? Hereâ€™s the way I see it â€“ being demanding is important because it means you have standards and donâ€™t settle for rubbish; controlling aspects of your relationship is not necessarily a bad thing either â€“ it may mean that you want things to be perfect. If you have anger issues, then that is something that can be resolved. I can be somewhat short tempered myself but I try incredibly hard not to become angry with my fiancÃ© (although sometimes I just burst) because I love him. micromanagement and paying attention to the little details is somewhat a symptom of perfectionism and can be a bit of a pain but generally just means that you are always on time, organised, and despise it when otherâ€™s donâ€™t live up to those standards â€“ I can relate to that. We can all say mean things at times. Jealousy... well I am not a jealous person but jealousy does go hand in hand with insecurity but, if you know and acknowledge this, that is the first step in making a change if you want a healthy relationship. Your good qualities sound like they more than make up for your character flaws. But to answer your question, despite my bias (and if I was male) I would certainly keep you around!

Belinda28

I would not stay with you. I have been with someone (the good and bad) the same as you described yourself and I was miserable. The bad are 'too bad' for me. The good qualities just don't make up for the yelling, insecurity, micromanaging, and control.

Sorry....just being honest.

Naysa

I'm not a man but I would stay because If you are all the things you list at the bottom chances are something is making you do the things at the top. People can come across mean when they really are not when they are fighting for a good cause.

moochiesplace

yeah i would
we forfit three-quarters of ourselves in order to be like other people

Roy R

Who could pass up a Rockstar?

Greg W

How can you say you shower someone with love when you Yell at them a lot? Or micromanage THEIR time? Or you are jealous and insecure about them?

Who gives a damn how good you are in bed if you are constantly berating me or acting jealouss. Are you controlling my time in the bedroom as well?
How can you support someone if you are saying mean shat to them all the time?

In closing I will say this.....most of your good points are SUPPOSED to be part of a relationship. You don't get points for doing what you are supposed to be doing.

Morbid One

That would depend on whether I saw the good qualities more often than the faults...

~Preggo with ma #2~

you just need to be more calm and be more secure of yourself and trust your partner and guys will love to keep you around with all these good qualities! just work on improving your bad habits ! good luck sweetie

Currently in training!

I would not only stay, I would thrive! Great qualities, and believe me I can give as good as I get!

Queen Bee in Cali

No matter how good u are in bed,or doing household chores, and cooking is a "normal" thing to do for your family. It shouldn't have to be
overly recognized! We do those things each day to get bye.

..doesn't make up for being a mean, insecure freak all day. Then showing this to your kids isn't good for them at all. Do you want them to grow up being just like you? to have all the same behavioral traits, insecurities and to fall in love with a person like you? I am not being mean, just real. We all want our kids to grow up in every aspect better than us parents. To have a better education, childhood etc.

steven m

Try to meditate. It will help calm you quicker, and lengthen your fuse.

Do something to build confidence, that will help with any insecurities

micromanaging is a job skill, do you use it,

Start with Meditation

â„¢ Mogul SUpreme â„¢

I like the loyal part but the rest you can keep lol like the controlling.
You can control another person. That will cause even more friction.
I do not like a woman who gets angry fast because I am not quick to anger myself. jealousy and insecure are turn off for me.
In long story short you sound needy and moody and angry.
Now ask your self do you want that in a man?

Me personally I would stay if you worked on the anger and the insecurities and the control. Me I dont cheat I was laid back to my last gf I felt that she cheated on me and I was right. I was angry but I was not quick to get angry. I just told her I was done and did not make a real scene at her place and plus I do not feel like getting arrested over some bs lol.

Sometimes walking away is more powerful than yelling. Yelling is like beating a dead horse you get nothing out of it. Remember that. Dont add fuel to the fire.

No one is perfect. The perfect mat dont exists either. God can make your non perfect mate perfect for you.

Good luck

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