Would you marry a man 13 years older than you?

Marina

I married a man 15 years older than me. You could end up losing your husband no matter what his age. Things happen. Don't let that stop you from being happy, love. Enjoy him while you have him, and don't let fear of his death stop you from living.

Geoff the skier

You are supposed to marry for love - not longevity.

Blah

Sure

Edit: LMAO he's not THAT old have you told him this? Luckily for you it almost never ends up like that, YOU could die tomorrow! =)

pretty ric

PEOPLE DO IT ALL THE TIME.. WORRY ABOUT DIVORCE

jennifer

i would. my husband is 11 years older than i am, i 21 and he is 32. if you really are in love him, then you should marry him. but if you arent in love with him then dont get married. and there is a difference between having love for someone and being in love with someone

benjamin m

You seem pretty confident that he will die before you do. That's what worries me. His age shouldn't be a factor as long as you are both of age (which you are) and as long as you are getting married for the right reasons.

Ms. M

I was married to one that is 20 years older than me...It's all about what you have in common.

the_emrod

Yes! 39 is hardly ancient!

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you never know when ANYONE will die.

my parents have an age gap of 17 years... its not that big... if you like each others company then go for it

Mrs. Christina Jackson

yes! of course i would. age does not matter.

saajan_1982

I wont.. but if you both comfortable about the age gap then whats the problem?
and you shouldnt be thinkng of death when it comes to relationship.. if you love the person then nothing should get in the way

D.V.W

First off thats stupid that you think like that cuz you don't know which one of yall is going to die first! Its impossible to know!!!
And for you to say you love him you dont' cuz you don't love everything about him!!!

Bella

You don't know that. You could get hit by a bus tomorrow. Don't try to project what will happen in your life. Take your gifts as they are given and live happy.

Ocimom

Depends on your goals, your compatability, etc.

My first husband was 8 yrs older. For many reasons, I vowed never to date/marry a guy that older then me after the divorce. I get along better with younger guys or same age as me.

My husband now is 5 yrs younger.

pixie

Go for it. Don't worry about the end yet. Enjoy the time you have together.

The Psychiatrist

Yes. If it's true love then why not be together. Dont let something silly like age keep you two apart. Go for it!

jerry_6669

if you love him, go for it. or leave him and find a younger man, who may die next year in a shopping cart accident at wal mart.

El Conqistador

You have GOT to be kidding! Does he have terminal cancer? Is he a test pilot? Is he in a Russian Roulette league?
You are looking at a current life span of around 70+ years for most American men and, true, around 75+ for women. But you do realize that that is FORTY YEARS from now, do you not?
I think you have cold feet. Search your true feelings and don't hide behind this fig leaf.
Good luck, Friend!

Anjela

I sure would, if I loved him and felt he was the one. My husband is 8 years older then me but most of the guys I dated prior to him were 10-20 years older.

Go for it.

chevvyl

Of course I would, age means nothing if your in love. What a worrier you must be. Death can happen to anyone at any time. Disease, accident, old age, could be tomorrow, or when your 100. Don`t you see how important it is, to love and be loved. Marry the man, live for the moment. I hate to rain on your parade , because what makes you think that you will outlive your love. There , something else to worry about. Strange though, the age difference is only bothering you now. Your not trying to get out of the relationship are you? Your man might start thinking along those lines too. So stop being daft, and marry the man , and be happy ever after.

D S

You are already his common law wife; you might as well make it official and receive the full status and benefits that goes along with being the helpmate.

(BTW, both of you are fairly young, it'll will be a long time before widowhood becomes an issue. If you want a rough glimpse of how that may work out then find out the lifespan of his and your ancestors... .)

Candid LoveBug

you're in love with him then go for it. i mean there must have been a better reason why you have been with him for 4 years, age wasn't an issue then, why now?

don't worry too much about dying, it cannot be stopped, only delayed by doctors. If it has to happen it will.

i think its wonderful to be in love and have someone special to share it with. if you leave him because of his age, is there a guarantee you'll find someone who will make you feel better/ happier than he does.

i would be content with what i have instead of a "potential". that's just me. If you think you can do better, then move on.

ange

no i wouldn't

linda101

i have been married for 6 years and he is 15 years older than me. We got married when I was 27. I has been great, and as for dying a widow, you never know who is going to die first, i know a few guys who lost their wives early. So jump in it because its about the quality of the time and not the length of it. Also, men age better than women in some regards. Have your kids soon though, so they will be 18 before your too old. We all die alone in a sense and you will have your children with you even if he is not there. The age thing is not as big a deal as most make it seem. Good luck and congrats.

Sophie

I would go for it. You never know what's going to happen, and you should go for what feels right. You never know, you might get hit by a bus in three weeks time (hopefully not) but you can never know when he's going to die.

advice guru and mom

I definitely would my parents are 17 years apart my mom is now 72 and my father will be 91 next week they have had a wonderful life filled with love and great times and children and grandchildren. when you find the love of your life you hang on and never let go.

I am a nurse for terminally ill cancer patients and let me tell you if I learned one this in that job it is to live everyday to its fullest. You can not live in fear of what will or could happen because you could die in a car accident tomorrow and he may die at 92 who knows no one but God enjoy being loved and loving him and just remember What ever God brings you too in life he will pull you through.

carolinagirl

Sure would. My husband is 10 years older than me & I've no regrets.

And just becuz he's older doesn't necessarily mean he'll die first.

Sandy Ego

I would. I don't find 13 years to be such a huge age gap. My dad is 9 years older than my mom, they seem to be doing fine. My grandfather was the same age as my grandmother, and she outlived him by 25+ years. You can't predict the future; IMO, 13 years is not an unreasonable age difference.

Would you let him walk away if you were sick? So that he can enjoy his life?
Does it matter that he can make you happy and feel alive like nobody else or do you still prefer to be with someone who'll die just the same age as you.
Have you also considered that you can die before him?
I wouldn't dump someone I love so I can be with someone younger.
Instead, I'd cherish all the happyness he could brink me and enjoy life with him to the full.
Anyway, I'd certainly consider all that BEFORE getting in a relationship with him. Not 3 years down the line.

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