Would you marry the one you love even if they were in prison?

Princess~C

YOu can still be a support system to your soul mate without having to commit yourself to him. And anyway, if someone really loves you, they would never want you to waste YOUR freedom b/c of something that they did. YOU didn't commit a crime, so I don't think you deserve to be punished by never being able to hold that person as you drift off to sleep, have them by your bed as you give birth to your children, there's so much you would be WILLINGLY giving up on. If he loves you, he would tell you to get on with your life. That doesn't mean you can't write, talk on the phone, etc and still be a part of each others life, I just don't think you should give up on yours because of a mistake that he made.

deedlman

if hes in prison for life, what kind of relationship are you really going to have.. you should move on and find some one that you will be able to spend the rest of you life with by your side and have a family.. best of luck to you..

god knows and sees else Yahoo

For the person in prison, lets say for life, Thats not an act of love to marry someone outside who has their entire life to live and have happiness, a house and kids and normal family vacations. The person on the outside just wants to make the person in prison feel better but they are locking themselves in for a lot of hurt.

BabeHeart

I woudn't waste my life by marrying them since that would have no future...besides, a life sentence only occurs for pretty serious crimes...I can't imagine I'd be "in love" with someone who would commit the type of crime that would warrant such a sentence...

tirebiter

RUN - and fast - what kind of future could you have?

juicy

it all depends on if you were with them befor they were sent to prison or not. thats a very serious thing to commit to, i'm not sure i would marry that person but i would stand by them and support them emotionally,and do what i can financially.

evil_fallen_angel41

Well i dont think you are in love with him but what he writes and says to you.. think about it if he is in prison for life he had to have done something really really bad... I would look else where for love.. someone that could hold you at night.. someone you could go places with.. someone who respects you hun.... There is no love here just lust is sounding more like it.... That would be a horribe relationship sounds like he is using you because once you get married he will want you to pay lawyer bills and stuff like that.. He is in there for a reason consider that and you are out here so go find a new life with a new guy

SunValleyLife

Love yourself... he made his choice. Its HIS life sentence NOT yours......You need to have a life of your own. You have someone out there who is going to love you and give you a life.

Move on girl--please dont waste your precious life.

Besides, soon enough he is gonna have a new love, Chuck who shares his cell.

mosaic

A life sentence?! Must have done something pretty horrible. I'd say adios!

thickalicious_dyme89

if it is true love mami u would b there no matta wat. you would b his one and only, he is goin need something to come home to and he is goin need ur support to get his **** straight...

kiss me

Hell no. Thats stupid. Your "marriage" would be a joke. I would never waste my time on something like that I get furious at women who do. A woman is too good to date trash in prison.

Una nena mas

No, when are you going to be alone and live in a house like with him?

treepeople88

Run away.. Not only would one life be over, the other one would be too.

the_secrets_keeper

You are in love with someone that's in prison.. for life. You are in love with someone who made so many bad choices to the point that he will spend the rest of his life in prison. He may be a better man and may have learned from his mistakes but unless he has a chance of parole or you can move in with him in prison, you should move on. To be in love with someone in jail is like to be in love with a dead person. He is gone, you need to let go

Miki

i think i would run the other way. the rltp is not healthy. u need to be there for one another emotionally. i used to work in a prison and these guys are really rough, they are an illusion. these men or woman, are manipulators. they are using u as an outlet for the outside world. they r using u for canteen $$$ and conversations and visits.

what r u getting in return?

Jess

Life in prison? So that would mean even if you married them you couldnt be a "normal" married couple? I thought that it meant for a second that he would get out, if that was the case I'd say sure... they have the ability to change and hopefully hes not in there for something serious or something that would hurt you. You deserve a good life while being married, waiting at home alone while hes sitting in jail isnt fair to you. I understand you love him, but I'd say No. Even if you didnt marry him you can still be there for him and stick by him.

kimmysue1983

I would honestly run away as fast as I could. I would change my number, move, possibly even change my name. He probally has cell mates that he talks to that possibly would go on parol... and like might come out and try and find me and stalk me and such to tell him what i am doing in the "real" world!!!! RUN AWAY GIRL!!! RUN AWAY!!!

Flower

if it was life in prison, I would probably run the other way.

youngmec2008

if i honestly thought that she was the one for me then maybe yes i would because i wouldn't let something like that ruin my marriage or love for that person but um thats hard to answer.

ARIDEMY

if theres someone else you like and would treat u good.. then go the other way... everyone need to at least be able to kiss the one they love from time to time. but thats just my opinion

five 5

No! why would you want do that to your self ?

It's a boy! 9/9/09

i would have to say its okay to love them but whats the point of marrying them...they are serving a LIFE sentence ?? sorry i know its mean but i would run the other way

I would run. It's a life of hardship and they had to do something pretty bad to be serving a life sentence.

favrd1

Surely you're kidding!

eve s

probably the 2nd one

gallagher g

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I would not run I would do what every normal human would do= Live! life is to crazy to be living like a fly on crap.

redhotmamagirl

Seek counseling to learn what a husband's roll is and a wife's roll is in a marriage then ask yourself that question once you've understood the rolls.

sharethalove

My friend is in a situation like that and she is definitely sticking by his side until he gets out of jail. Me personally wouldn't but she says that she loves him and that he makes her happy. I think its because she has a love self esteem and she thinks that no other man will want her because she is overweight which isn't true at all. She is an adult and I've talked to her over and over but she has to make her own mistakes and live with them. He will be there for life and if you are young and want a family well he certainly can't give you one or even be there to take care of the family. Find someone thats free or at least have a lesser sentence.

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