Would you take back a cheater?

Kenny E

Maybe after I got even. Then I'd give her the boot.

Mrs. Goddess

Never ever, ever, ever.
People either have it in them to cheat or they don't. It's just like people who beat each other. If they cross that line once, chances are huge that they will do it again.

tim

I think the question is, is it worth it to go through it? To put that trust in him (or her) again?

I'm not trying to be a pessimist, but I think you should always be skeptical. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice...

Weigh the situation for yourself. I'd like to help more, but it is a bit vague.

Kat

if i felt that i could trust them.. the cheater has to earn your trust back.. and not with words but with actions.. there actions will tell you lots about a person.. earning trust can take weeks or months even years or never.. but if i did and they earned that trust back then i would more then likely try again.. that is if i still wanted him back also.. good luck

Taz

if you are willing to deal with the thought that is always in the back of your head....will she or he do it again

Jason Las Vegas

The key to this question is asking the cheater what was the reason for cheating. If a problem caused the cheating than that is fixable. If there is a problem that can be fixed, then yes, take them back. If the person caused the cheating, you are going to have a problem. If the person just couldn't stop themselves, are generally dogs, or have commitment issues, then no, don't take them back. I love my wife very much. If she cheated on me, I'd want to know why before I believed if she was sorry or not.

One thing to remember, if you are going to take them back, you have to forgive them and move on. If you are going to constantly question and not trust them at any point something seems odd, then don't put yourself or them in the situation.

One more thing. If they say, "honey I want to take you on Maury/Jerry to tell you a secret." RUN!!

onesensitivepoet

well, if someone cheated then no. there is no exucuse for cheating because they know exactly what they were doing when they did it. but if ur in a marriage than yes.. try and work it out. but if you are a teen, then leave . but follow your heart and think about if you truly trust that person

David J

No, you might think you could trust them but deep down you would always be keeping tabs on them. I have done this and it's way too much work. Not worth the trouble, Good Luck

Lamour

Really sorry they got caught, you mean!

linda_c_44

Never!!!

turbochic99ta

It depends on the big picture. Was this a first time-short or long time? Who was she seeing, a family member or my best friend-Yes then GET LOST!

You need to understand the whys and wherefores to make a decision that will not cause you to lose your sanity. People make mistakes and deserve forgiveness. It is only within you and your gut feelings to make a good decision. Your asking for input while giving very little info. Best of luck to you.

bella1

I was in the same situation a couple of years ago, though I didn't take him back cause once a cheater always a cheater regardless of how sorry they are. Move on with your life and find someone else who you can trust. I did and now im married. Goodluck in your decision.

sexy grandmother

Sorry. old habits die hard.

ausblue

That is so hard !!!
i would not myself because just the thought of him being intimate with another woman would stop me, i could never make love to him again i would be so very VERY ANGRY!!!
but if you could get over that part & love him again & make love again to him without being bitter give him ONE MORE CHANCE BUT ONLY ONE!!!!!

sarat0

I suppose so
but it depends on the situation really
the trust level would be badly beaten and would take a very long time to recover
there must be lots of talks

Rational Thought

There is a quite simple test for this. Do you feel you can trust him? If the answer is NO then then there is no chance of remaining together. If you answer YES or MAYBE then you need to look at his history.

A person that has one affair can be a moral mistake, but may have learnt from it and may never do this again.

A person that has had more than one affair or had one affair over a period of time has a moral flaw and if the opportunity presents itself they are almost certain to cheat again and should not be trusted again.

â™¥Shanaâ™¥

No, it's not worth the headache. I could no longer trust him. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

sour_inc

you really shouldnt...have some respect for yourself...

TRANSMETALERA

It depends if the person deserves another chance...but you have to think about it...if they did it, there are chances they're gonna do it again.

Star

once a cheater always a cheater but every situation is different and can work out the 2nd time around.

knicto

hell no! There should be NO reason they cheated on you in the first place. Of course they are sorry AFTER the fact...

Tsunami

no they will do it again.

!coolchick!124

a cheater is always a cheater
every situwation is diffrent if he ment it
i might give him one chance but if he cheats again
id never take him back and that is a promisse
if he cheated on me again id never ever take him back

paoddow

well, first of all people opinion shouldn't matter at this particular time, what matter is your, you only can answer to your question, whether you take him/her back is within, where ever your heart is leading you to or how you feel,u can never go wrong as long as you follow your heart

brenda s

There's no way in the world I would take a man back that has cheated on me. I'm just not that trusting. i'd constantly be wondering where or who he was with. It would be better for me to go and find a better life for myself.

gloria b

Yes.

Totally confused?!?!

I would give him/her one more chance then if he/she does it again... then shes/hes a goner.

elizabeth c

i think that everyone deserves a chance so yes i would if i cared and loved that person. but becaeful cause you dont want this to become a habit just make sure you let the other person know that this cant happen agian and that it really hurt you. i know how it feels to be hurt this way im sorry that it happened to you but dont degrade yourself and let it happen again.

karMA_DAME

I WISH I COULD SAY NO, BUT HONESTLY I HAVE.

Honey

Everybody deserve a chance my friend.

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