Would you tell your boss?

Jessica C

If you don't want to cause more drama then no. Since you and your husband are separating already. You are right that the one that caused the divorce is not your co-worker, it's your husband. I would recommend you change jobs. There are a high demand for high school teachers. If your boss ask you why you are leaving, let him know the truth. You don't have to hide anything.

sarge927

Drama isn't the issue -- the other teacher is doing something that is highly inappropriate. Report her, but make sure you have plenty of evidence to back it up.

need_2shop

Tell him, it will explain your mood, and it's not like he can fire her over this! or can he? Tell him. What your husband has/hasn't done with her is not a work thing,and but it will definitely explain what is wrong with you that your boss sees.

sassypurplecat

Unless she is doing something ethically wrong like changing grades or something due to this involvement don't say anything. If she is still professional with the students and you I would leave it alone and maybe ask for a transfer to another school to alleviate the stress of having to see her. Good luck.

MayMay

You did the right thing by going to your co-worker first and explaining your situation. Since that didnt help, you need to inform your boss.

stefstudy

yes i would tell him. it's wrong.

M. P

No, its not a work related thing. If it happened outside of school, there is nothing you can do. I'm sorry.

Ria

I wouldn't involve your boss in this tragic situation. However, I do think that you really need someone to talk to after going through such a terrible ordeal. Now that you are pregnant, you need to be as emotionally calm as you can be. Talking to a therapist might help you go through this a little less painfully. Concentrate on the beautiful little baby that you are going to have and forget your lousy husband and that sleezy woman that he has chosen over you. God bless you and good luck.

rebel_angel031

yes by all means tell your boss what is going on is wrong

And i would talk to your husband about it too and let him know how you feel about it too

sandra b

Yes! have honor and integrity since those two cant! Tell!!!

matty_mo1

your husband and this woman are both disgusting. Toss 'em both away. Eat a Funyun.

Isabelle06

I would say yes. IF you know your boss and feel that he can be more like an understanding friend in this situation so he can help you cope with this pain go ahead and tell him. But if you think that this will make things worse (like him thinking you are not a fit for the position at this time) then I would be cautious.
Bosses are human beings too and without being too personal they can help valuable employees to cope with difficult situations.
Good luck and I feel for you. Be strong for your new baby. Your ex has chosen his own destiny, you chose yours!

lei

If your fellow teacher is developing relationships with parents of students, then yes. This is unprofessional behavior, and a possible liability for the school. While he can't do anything about your own situation, you are within your rights to explain things to him and let him form his own opinion of that dirty ___.

harold

Then say nothing, because the moment you do, they will think you are doing it to get back at her. Then your home and work are both screwed.

867-5309 "Jenny"

As long as this person is not messing with the children leave the school out of it, your husbands is your only concern..

pitchingcoach

She doesn't need to be fooling around with parents of students. Especially married ones. Other than that, throw the bum out and start anew. Good luck.

*_* Katerrr

YES!! she is only going to ruin more lives, and make everyone's life, at home and work, miserable. This is going to create a bad atmosphere at work, and no on ehsould have to live like that!

ShyeWolf

Your husband will get his own dues. Don't tell your boss unless/until your boss asks. Now, if you have a darned good reason, like your knowing these facts is affecting the work itself (not YOUR work; there's a difference), then you have to come forward. Otherwise you just may very well come across as bitter, a busybody, out to get revenge and a whole slew of other, not-so-in-your-favor things. Ultimately, everyone gets their just dues, even though sometimes you think some get away with murder their whole lives. Somehow, somewhere, it all comes full circle in the end for all of us.

What I would do, is talk to your boss about the fact that you are having some home trouble but that you're doing your best to not let this affect your productivity at work. This will show you are willing to deal with your problems; face the fact you have them and they might affect your daily life even though you want to work to prevent it; and finally, that you are open and communicative.

Good luck honey. Take care of that little bundle there.

tjnstlouismo

If I understand this right your co-worker, another teacher, stole your husband. I don't see what that has to do with your Boss. Simply tell him that you are having some personal problems but are working through them. Get another job. I don't know why you would want this lowlife lying cheat back, but it appears your marriage is over. You know of course, as soon as she gets him, she'll dump him.

nonameblonde

Personally, I wouldn't tell the boss. I would just never mess with someone's work. And there has to be a reason your husband is messing with her in the first place. Maybe your marriage isn't stable to begin with? I'm sorry just I am just a firm believer in 1) handling things my own way (without involving boss) and 2) if a marriage is really strong, she would never have been involved on any level with your husband in the first place.

Cute Stuff

yes tell your boss, more in a confiding way, and focus on what has happened in your own situation so it doesn't seem like you are ratting someone out. This person who is doing this, is shameless and is causing a "hostile work environment" people sue for this type of thing. These things that are happening are not going to stop. She needs to be dismissed of her duties. Seems like she doesn't care who she hurts and is out for herself. I think you will feel some personal satisfaction that you are preventing more people from getting hurt. I can't believe women are out there like this, and behave in this manner. Seems like high school? bad joke but very very immature. You're right about your husband, he is accountable and I'm sorry that you are being hurt. Everyone gets hit on at some point while they are in a relationship, but its your moral fibers that allow you to be honorable, and that means honoring your vows, he would expect the same from you, if the situation was reversed

Drew

ya, tell the boss, thats twisted, and if you get back together with your hubby, get him tested for std's

karl m

The bottom line is , have u discussed with hubby.
If he is prepared to lose all, then he is gonna shaft u some time come what may.
If YOU feel u should tell boss tell him.

Matilda

i think i would tell my boss if that was happening. if she works around young people, then she should be stopped.

i'm sorry :(

Big Steve

I would find another job before you mess up this one. Then tell. Don't feel bad though...if she is that kind of person she will screw over your husband down the road so it will come around for him too. Good luck.

jmattiesmufc

So long as it doesn't affect her work I wouldn't bring the boss into it.

oh_jo123

by telling your boss you would be causing more drama but I would tell him and get her in trouble :) I do not know what you could do except talk to him and her about it and tell your boss that you do not think that it is fair for a co worker of yours to have the rights to find dates through other co workers husbands

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