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Marie
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If it were my partner...maybe...but if it were my husband ....maybe I'd forgive....but I'd never forget and it would take a long time to EVER trust him again and I mean l o n g if ever. |
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hononegah1988
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back in 2000 my partener cheated on me..and left..later we got back together..and did a lot of talking and worked together,,,my wife had to earn her trust again...I loved her enough to forgive her..even in the bible it says in matthew to forgive... |
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EazyBreezy
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Can you trust that someone who says they will always tell you the truth and then lies to you won't do it again? No. (When a viscious dog bites you, do you believe they will never, ever bite you again?)
Can you forgive them for making a mistake? yes.
I would forgive him... but I would never trust him again, therefore the relationship between us would be over. When someone shows you who they really are- believe them! |
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gadget
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If they already showed you they thought less of you then they did of them self , that is what true love is to love someone as you love yourself and you would never do anything to hurt yourself on purpose, so why give someone who has shown that they don't truly love you have the chance to hurt you again. |
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Brooke
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It is important in these situations to remember that we all make mistakes. You should not put yourself above that. Things happen. Now on the other hand, if those "things" are happening consistently, then get out. It's not worth it. |
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Lady Ariana
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I did - I trusted and tried to make it work, but he just wasn't happy, so we went our separate ways.
For me it all worked out as I am now happily married to a man who's been with me for over 17 years.
Myself - I am always willing to give someone a second chance. I have seen friends give their husbands second chances only to be burned again. In all honesty, giving that person a second chance means you have a 50/50 chance of being burned again ... but you have that same chance of making a fresh start and everything working out for the better. You have to be willing to love and to trust that person enough to give them that second chance - and sometimes even a third. Beyond a third chance, I honestly don't know.
Best Wishes. |
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sexynana
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no i would never trust him a gain .no i would never for give him if he cheat on me once he do it a gain .if he loved me he wouldn,t even think a bout cheating on me. no trust no for giveness never ever. i would devoice him . |
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byroneann
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Depends on the situation and the sincerity of the person commiting the act. If they had no sorrow and it seemed they just wanted to deny it and they keep doing it, I might bow out. If they really wanted to make it work with me and they had other issues, I may consider making it work. It would open up a lot of other issues that would need to come out of the closet though. I promise that much. |
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kapes72
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I don't think I would. I think I would actually try but in the back of my head I know I'm questioning everything he does. |
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needtoknow
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forgive and trust are two different things, you may be able to forgive, but would u truly trust them? |
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phantom43
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depends. if it was in my bed, at my home..no... give me enough respect to be sneaky
if it was with a man.. no...no cant compete with a man, i cant help him with that.
if it is a ugly older woman... no...at least find a woman prettier than me... |
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tigeress0404
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no i would never trust them again and no i would never forgive |
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bjstree
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Sure! He trusts me and doesn't even know I've been doing the same thing! |
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jgrey1goose
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i tried that once. the trust never fully comes back and the resentment never goes away.
i tried to forgive but i could not forget.
it was the not forgetting that i could not get past. |
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celinallll
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It took my husband cheating and me catching him three times before it finally sunk in that it was over and he didn't love me. I forgave him twice, third time I divorced him. My boyfriend now cheated once 9 years ago, I took him back, but if he did it again I would kick him to the curb. So the answer is yes I've forgiven them but haven't forgotten. |
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femmenoire@sbcglobal.net
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I would forgive them but never trust them again |
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xxgq
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Forgiveness is not for your partner, IT is for you, You forgive them for yourself, not for them.
Trusting them again is different, you set up bounderies, little by little they must earn your trust again.
weather your relationship withthis person continues or you get a divorce. you must forgive, so you will be able to trust your next partner.
good luck |
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justclicktherubyslippers
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It can happen that they are sorry and have learned from their mistake, however, that is very rare. Most of the time even if you are able to forgive your partner the problems that made the relationship unstable are still alive and it will happen again. If you decide to give him another chance then don't constantly question your partner when he or she is 10 minutes late getting home from work. It take a great deal of tolerance to get your relationship back to the point it was before .......if that is even possible |
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ourahmee
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I forgave my husband. I trusted my husband. I should not have trusted him.
We spent 3 years going to 4 different marriage counselors. All of the counselors said that I was jealous and paranoid and that I had no reason to distrust my husband because he was sincere. I came to believe the counselors, saw myself as an evil, jealous, paranoid person and began to trust him again.
A week before he died he admitted that while we were going to the counselors he was having an affair with my boss, and that he had other one night stands after he broke up with my boss.
Only trust the person who earns your trust. Don't ever let anyone convince you that it is your jealousies and fear that keep you from trusting him. |
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Kyle
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Forgive, yes. Trust, never!!!!! |
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tigerprincess_bee
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It I really loved them, I'd try. It may be hard, but they have to earn my trust. I'd forgive them, but never forget it. |
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April
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Nope, not ever. Less than 20% of marriages/relationships survive betrayal, even in counseling past two years, and even when both wish to save it.... sorry. That is just toooo low a percentage to waste two years for nada. If marriage is Admiration, Respect, Passion and Trust, the trust is in the toilet with the passion getting shared with someone else, and the respect and admiration are there too. What's to save???? It's all gone |
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Jinxyblue
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No. He did. I don't. |
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kystarlyte_kystarlight
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NO! and yes. God forgave us for our sins. so shall we forgive others. |
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Eunice M
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Well, its all depends, giving your partner a second chance is not that bad... i gave my bf a 2nd chance, but he didnt cheat on me, or anything, but the pain, and being scared is still there. In your situation if you really love her. sure why not. Think this way, if you want to be with her, if you love her so much,that you think its worth it then give her a chance. If not, then moved on and find a woman who will not going to cheat on you. |
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Dance
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Yes and yes. And that has happened to me. I can forgive once but if it would happen again it would be over and he knows that. The affair happened 5 years ago and we have been married for 11 years now. It was a wake up call to our marriage and we now have a lot better marriage! |
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Kim
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no....if they cheat once they will cheat again. It us VERY rare for this not to repeat itself. Move on and find someone worthy of you. |
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Holly
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No I wouldn't if they do it once they will do it twice |
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P1-G
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You cant trust someone after that. forgive them...maybe down the line. but after that, they're out. |
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