Your opinion plz?

br3ttdylan

this is definately one for the books. I, as you, would be pretty upset at that. I would feel slightly annoyed and even jealous. I'm sure your wondering why he would bring his past up. And if you truely are good enough for him, why must he keep in touch (so to speak) with his ex.

Unnfortunately what your boyfriend did is pretty reasonable. You have to look at it from his eyes. When you rationalize it by saying that he did this out of love for his son (who loves his mommy), it puts it into perspective. Just because he loves his son doesnt mean he loves his ex.

So, to answer your question, I would feel the same. But I think both of our feelings are slightly uneeded and perhaps unreasonable.

crazy8eddie

Good for him. He is teaching his son the social graces. Your position is selfish. Sorry. The father's first responsibility is to be a good father, and teach his son.

Marie W

Why would that irritate you? It is the boys mom, she should get a mothers day card from him and he should be free to give it. Just because his parents can't get along should not mean the boy can't have both his real parents in his life.

- Marie

*chiquita*

you have no right to feel irritated. that is what parents do. you need to understand that she will be his son's mother forever. be the adult. -*D*

Quasimodo

I think that was nice.

What's YOUR beef? It's attitudes like yours that get ex wives looking for blood when there was never a problem to begin with. back off. If you can't deal with something as innocuous as this then best steer clear of relationships with divorced men.

well I bought my son one to give to his dad not because I care about him but because I knew it would make my son feel bad not to have anything to give him.You shouldnt be irritated by that shes his mother.He did the right thing I think.Maybe next year just try to talk him into makin her one and maybe you can help.Dont be mean toward his mother it will just keep you two apart.

Kari

If you got irritated over that, then leave the relationship now. He was doing his job as a parent.

BELLE

I would not worry about that, really. He bought it for his son, to be given by his son. This is his son's Mom. She will be around a long time, so I would not get jealous about it.

mac

Depends on how old the son is. The son is still his mother's and his father's. If he's not old enough to get them gifts, etc on Mother's and Father's Day - then yes, your bf should've gotten his ex something from his son for Mother's Day.
Perfectly normal - it happens all the time.

Paul D

You ask for our opinions, and then tell us you don't want people to reply with thier thoughts if you don't like what they are saying.
What a picture that paints!!
You are not used to a certain behavior, and because of that you criticise his actions. You are passing judgement on him, for doing what most men would do on behalf of thier children. His action is really a normal thing, and in all honesty, he is right in doing it.
You are acting out of selfishness sadly. Allow your heart to feel how you would feel if the role was reversed.

Right Wing Extremist

Why would you get irritated? He is doing it for his son to give to his mother. You need to get over it. She is going to be involved until the child is 18. If you can't handle it, then do them both a favor and get out know. This is what you have to deal with when a child is involved.

Linda

maroh5

I did this all the time when my children were younger, and my ex did the same thing for... They are too young to go out and get it themselves and my children loved to acknowledge , mother's day, father's day and birthdays and xmas's....
It truely isn't from him, it's from the children.
I think this is why my ex and I have had a wonderful relationship, furthermore we didn't allow boyfriends and girlfriends wives and husband call the shots when it came to our children..
Our children grew up knowing that both mother and father loved them dearly and as adults they see that we did it for them...

â™¥Portugeseâ™¥Princessâ™¥

You should not feel this way.If they are divorce and he is with you why are you getting mad?! That is his son's mother, he has every right to give his mom a mother's day card.And your boyfriend can buy it for him, how else is the son suppose to get his mom a card?! Don't worry I'm sure your boyfriend didn't mean anything about.

<3MommyofACutie&anAngel<3

This woman is this child's mother. Why should you feel irritated that his dad gave him a card to give to his mom? You're going to have to deal with this for the rest of the time you're with this man.

April

If you got irritated over that then you should probably rethink the whole relationship. This man is tied to this woman for the rest of his life because they have a son together.
I would say good for his father for doing that. He is teaching his son how to show his appreciation and have respect for his mother. If he wasn't doing that then I would be worried. Despite them being divorced he still wants the child to have a normal healthy relationship with both his parents. That should make you happy - not irritated.

Big Bry

Its his mother, why not ? My son is 18 and lives with his mother now. Every Christmas I buy or give him money for a gift for her. You should not get mad you should help out, it works better in the end for everyone.

GEMINI-1966

This is something that you will have to live with, they have a connection, or a bond, their SON.....
They may not be together but, they will ALWAYS have feelings for one another no matter what happens between you two.....
Don't be so upset over this b/c he's your man now and i'm sure he's devoted to you and if he was sincere with a card to her i'm sure he will do more for you in long run....

I have the best husband ever

I think you have found yourself a great man. he is teaching his son great values and morals. It doesn't mean he still have feelings for his ex-wife, it just means he respects her and wants his son to do the same. you should be feeling happy and lucky to have a man like that.

angie

she is the mother of his son

someone

You shouldn't be mad! I'm assuming the son is too young to go buy his mother a card himself. Your bf is doing his part as a father. I think that is great!! Try not to let it bother you. It's not like your bf bought her a romantic mother's day card from himself!!

Man in Black

I think that is great. The son has to have a relationship with his mom and the father his teaching him to be a good son to both parents. I apologize for saying so, but you are setting a poor example by getting upset.

Mrs D is expecting #2

so what?

That is his son's mother... I think its acceptable. If it bothers you then you shouldn't be with someone who has kids.

bruce d

I'd feel that you had to go. A good man doing something decent for his son and his son's mother. I don't think you deserve such a nice guy.

In the Wind

It's the "w/ a son" part here that you are not even realizing your uttering out of your mouth...Do you accept this son as an extension of your boyfriend??? This "son" is the key to this whole thing...he is a result of your bf and the woman he was married too...that "bond" WILL always be there...for the "sons" sake...If there never has been mistreatment by the parent of the poor children stuck in the middle of a divorce, the better the parents can get along for that childs behalf, the easier it is on the child...If you can try to see it through the sons eyes, perhaps you can not take it so personally, it really has NOTHING to do with you...And, quite frankly, (no rudeness implied here)...the father helping the son do what the son's heart wants to do...is just called being a good dad...and a good dad will always put the children first, and if your looking at a future with this man...you NEED to learn to accept that child into your life just the same. If you cannot do that...don't enter a relationship with someone with a past that includes children. This isn't a snide comment, its what its all about...If it falls on your ears negatively, then you are just being petty and selfish...I hope it helps you see the light a bit brighter to the real foundation of the act that was done that has offended you so terribly...You did ask for our HONEST opinions, right? You got mine. I hope it hits gently, and I wish you well. And just to add, just because you have been married before, EACH relationship is different...none of us are considered "qualified" just because we have been married once, or twice or a gazillion times before...Every relationship is "fresh clean slate"... Shed the old relationship and maybe you can focus on the one you have right now a bit more clearly. Take care.

I beat up people who report!

I think that it was sweet of him. Why should he disrespect the mother of his child just because they didn't stay together? I'm glad that there are men out there who can set a good example for their children.

Phineus Wadeva

i dont see anything wrong with it at all

Someone Else

Its called being a bigger person. I dont see the problem with it...he is helping his kid and teaching his son valuable lessons (to be nice and respectful to his mother). Are you irritated because he is being kind to his ex? I guess I dont know the situation behind their breakup but in my opinion if everyone can get along and let what ever happened in the past be the past then so be it. Dont be the one to cause waves.

birdman

Dear Jaxlixp,

There will always be a connection between your boyfriend and his ex, especially because of their son. Just because two people failed to make a relationship work does not mean they have to be enemies either. Your irritation at your b/f having his son give her a card is over the top and is unwarranted.

Now What?!!

It wouldn't bother me because it was from his son on Mother's Day. If he bought her a gift and took her out like he would have if they were still married then I would make a fuss. This is what you have to deal with when dating a divorced man or a man with children. The mother is and will always be a part of their lives.

Mimi

Well if the son is young of course he can't buy his mom a gift himself. As long as the card didn't have anything written from ur bf, signed by ur bf, I think it's ok. Better a $3 card than somthin more expensive, right?

Sandy Ego

Why are you irritated? It's standard practice for a father to buy mother's day cards on behalf of the kid - even when the parents are divorced. Good for him for being civil and a good father. I hope he will find someone who appreciates it instead of condemning it. And you would probably do better to find a man with less baggage; being a step-parent is not for everyone, and it's perfectly ok to admit that this is not your cup of tea.

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