please please please please please help?

So my boyfriend and I will have been together for a year next month
and lately he's been hanging out with this girl every once in a while
that he's known from school for the past five years(he graduated last year)
and she has a baby and a 30 year old boyfriend, but i know she likes him.
like, when i hung out with them she was all awkward around me and stuff.
she sent him a text that said 'entertain me.' i totally freaked because come one,
thats something you say if you're flirting, i've purposely
not said that a couple times to guys cuz i knew my boyfriend would get mad.
so, lately we've also been fighting a lot and then we make up and everythings
fine but then we just go right back to fighting.
i love him so much and i know i'd die without him and we
hangout a lot like everyday for every minute we can
because thats how much we love eachotehr but idk should we take
a break? i think that it might help, but i literally have no friends so i'd have nothing to do at all and i'd be even more lonely so idk if its good for ME. but i want us to be okya. we both know we have problems and we've both been 'trying' to fix them but idk if its working. we both don't want to take a break either because we love eachother so much. how do we fix this ? should we take a break?
help?!

You can't help what this other girl does. You can't even control how your boyfriend responds to her. Let him know that it bothers you, but that's it. How he chooses to handle the situation (continue to contact her or not) is his call. His actions should speak volumes to you. If it turns out that he prefers her, then it's best to know that now before you invest any more time or effort into this relationship.

Also, you essentially admitted that you have no life without your boyfriend and that you spend every possible minute together. That's a recipe for disaster. It sounds as if he is the absolute center of your life, and that's a lot of pressure on him. It's a very uncomfortable place to be. You could very well be turning into one of those co-dependent people. That clingy behavior typically causes guys to look elsewhere. They want someone a little more centered and independent who can add interest to the relationship, someone with their own thoughts, goals and ambitions for a less one-sided relationship.

Right now, the relationship you have sounds unhealthy and unbalanced. You need to figure out who you are and bring yourself to the relationship. Saying you'd die without him is a huge red flag and usually means that you're immature or co-dependent.

Jessica

Way too much drama.
You are young and both need to grow up.

Heaven's Messenger

Well, I can almost guarantee you that if you take a break now it will be the longest break you have ever heard of. I highly doubt you will get this guy back if you take that break because at that point it means he is 100% free to go out with this girl without having to answer to you. Men don't see a break like women do, a break to us means FREE TO DO WHAT WE PLEASE. So if you want to fix this relationship, remove taking a break from the equation now.

Sue C

If you did take a break, you would be able to know if he will be spending more time with this other girl. If he does, then I'd be very leary of getting involved with him on a serious basis. You honestly wouldn't know if you could trust him or not. This girl has a baby & a b/f, but is still after your b/f! That sure shows what kind of a person she is & he's showing interest in her, someone like that! IF you want to take a break to see what he'd do if you weren't around him, then you may want to try it. BUT, don't be surprised IF he does hang around this girl more if you're not in the picture. I feel it's either going to show the two of you that you either DO love & care about one another & want to be together, OR that he'd rather not get too involved at this time & he'd rather have the freedom to do as he pleases when he feels he may want to be with someone else. I think it will do one of the two things. Give is some tho't tho, honey.^

mamaw2305

Does your bf know how you feel about this chick and the way she wants to be entertained by him?He should be aware of how you feel.Sometimes people spend too much time together and need a little space.Doesn't mean to have different partners.Honesty is the best policy and if you both care for each other you will find a solution that will work for you both.

Kristin

I definitely think you should take a break, set a time limit (3 months, no contact) and agree to see other people. First of all, you are not going to die without him, you have been watching too many Lifetime movies. What if he got run over by a bus (Heaven forbid)....life would go on. Secondly, time apart could give you some perspective. Go make some friends; you are so wrapped up in him, I am sure that is why you don't have any. Volunteer at the animal shelter or a soup kitchen, join a sports team, take a class somewhere, do something that is about YOU and see what happens. Check back in three months and see where things are at. If he really likes this other girl, clinging on to him won't stop him from being with her. He'll probably see you in a new light if you're more independent and you might even decide he is not the one. Good luck.

NyaaPiinkie

tell him how you feel about that chick
dont take a break
try to avoid things that you make you guys fight

Swauzzie

If your over 18 I'll keep you busy. haha. Seriously, Nobody can tell you whats the best thing to do. Just do what feels right.

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