she left me for another guy because I wouldn't marry her .?

Messykatt

I'd never laugh at you! In fact, this is almost certainly a marriage that wasn't meant to be. I say this because, if she was the right woman for you, even the slowest moving of guys would have wanted to take it to the next logical level. And, on her part, if you were truly the love of her life, she wouldn't have gone after another guy - she would have sat you down and worked through whatever issues were making you hesitate.

My guess is that both of you hung on for so long because you each had so much time invested in your relationship, and had gotten very comfortable in it. This isn't love, though.

mjjrosebuds

If you wanted to marry her, you'd have asked her by now, right? Good for you for not getting married in a half-hearted way or just to make her happy. However, seven years is long enough for her to realize what she wanted and you are not it. Let it go, wish her well, move on. Good luck.

Paul&Fran

Well this isn't all on you. If this women stuck with you for seven years with out any progression in your relationship it's as much on her. But instead of just leaving if she truly wanted the next step she could have approached you to discuss things. Odds are she found someone else.

vis

well i have been with my bf for 6 yrs and he will never marry me this i know, he is not the type to get married, now he not the type to cheat either which makes it hard to understand often cheater are not the type, but any way she should have set you down and talk to you unless she has already brought up the subject many times and got shot down for it, i once told my bf when we were talking about marriage and he said he was never going to do that.i told him if i ever decided that was something i wanted to do again i would just leave him so i can understand why your gf did that.what i can not understand is her leaving you for someone else even if the man wanted to get married..after all unless they have been seeing each other for a long time and she grew to love him what would be the point of leaving someone you love just to get married to someone you barely know.i think this is someone she has been seeing for a while, and know i do not believe your a slow type of man just someone who was comfy in his home life and did not see any need to change things around

priv828

She left because she figured if after 7 years you still were not sure she was right for you, then chances are you were never really going to be sure.

while I can understand why she felt that way, the fact that she went straight to another man so soon after tells me he was either already lurking in the background, she is just desperate for commitment or has an inability to be on her own.

While you should have known how you felt about long term commitment after 7 years with her....I think you may have dodged a bullet there.

bubble130999

When a woman is in love with her partner all she wants to do is get married, make a home and have babies with the man of her dreams!
You lady may have left you to shake you up or she may have found someone else, either way it will rip your heart out of your chest.
I suggest that you give her a little more time then find a way of talking to her face to face never over the phone, text or emails.
Ask her what she wants and do you fit into her future plans. Ask her what you need to do to fix the current situation, let her know that you are in love with her and that you would love to marry her. Let her see that you have woken up to yourself and realised that you have taken her for granted with regards to marriage.
Let her know that one day you did plan on asking her to marry you but to date she has not show any real signs of wanting it herself.
By doing this you have nothing to lose but a whole lot to gain! Give it your best and I hope all works out for the both of you. x0x0x0x0xx0

Steve

Think yourself lucky mate. Stay single. Marriage for men these days is a really bad deal.

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