Dilema: I want to join the Army but really dont think my boyfriend will like it!!?

genghis41f

At the end of the day, it's up to you (It's your life, not his), but you should ask your boyfriend why he wouldn't want you to join the Army. It may be simply that he won't see you often enough, but there may be another reason, perhaps due to his experiences in service.

I'm really not trying to put you off, But I currently serve in the RAF and when I was applying, my priorities were Air Force first, then Navy, then Army. The reason for this was simply that each force treats their people differently, and I know that the RAF and Navy treat their Non-Commissioned ranks like adults, wherehas a lot of the Army Non-Commissioned personnel are treated like children and are "beasted" (shouted at a lot, seen it for myself when I worked closely with both the RN and Army during the fire strikes).

Again, I'm not trying to put you off (or bad-mouth the Army!). I have some fantastic mates in the Army, but it certainly isn't for me.

If you do go for it, best of luck! I sincerely hope you make it!

painterlady

You must do what is right for you and that is you have a dream you should follow. Your boyfriend could be there one day and gone the next. If you are meant to be with eachother then he will understand and want what is best for you. NEVER BASE OR LIVE YOUR LIFE ON ANYONE ELSES WISHES!

mals2008

at the end of the day its your life you do what you have to do,give him reasons why you want to do it and tell him that his opinion is important ...if he loves you he ll wait for you and respect your decision
good luck
xxx

xjmox14x

I'd say talk it over with him first. Let him know you are serious, but give it a couple weeks to talk it over and decide what is best for both of you.

fruitcake

at the end of the day honey you need to follow your dreams, if he loves you then he will support you, you could always arrange your leave to co inside with his and you can put in for a base near him so these things can be worked out.

As You Were 85

I say go straight out and tell him it's your life and you do what you will with it if he can't respect your decision then he's not the man for you.

afkl;djkf;akljsdf

who cares what your boyfriend thinks.
make your decisions for yourself.
I did, and noone agreed with it, until now.

7 of 9

I would talk to him, but in the first place, you are not married to him, so it is really your choice, your life. You will hardly see him as it is because he is in the navy, (he has to be on the boat every six months) So you see the chice is yours, not ultimately his.

James M

As you say, it is your life and your career. If the relationship is strong enough it will withstand a period apart. Even in a relationship you still have to do what is best for you, or the resentment will always be there and you will always ask yourself what if.

kveryeffective

OK
1. Be honest with him.
2. Remember you have a life to live too and if he can't support you in something you really want to do he may not be the one for you.

About not losing him sorry this is life and you can't be sure of anything how people react.
You are the only in life that will be there for you when all is said and done.

If does support you choice he is man to hold on to and if not he may not support you in other choices you consider very important.

On the bright side if he does. You do join the Army.
Look at the fun you two will have during the Army-Navy game.

Good luck above all else be honest with him and yourself.

Thats ME!

i think you should do what you want to do.
tell him that it is what you have been wanting to do for a long time.
if he really loves you he'd respect that and encourage you.

oohbetty

Your career will last much longer than your relationship so I would go with your dreams. I know too many people who have regretted not doing what they really want to do in life and it's a shame. If he loves you he will support you otherwise you will spend your whole life not doing things you want to do in case it upsets him. Go for it! It's alright for him to be in the Navy and I know it will be difficult but you need to fulfil your dreams too! You'll find a way of seeing each other and if it doesn't work it wasn't meant to be.

tamarack58

Don't worry about what HE wants. Do what YOU want. If the relationship is strong enough to survive it will. If it doesn't survive....well then it wouldn't have survived anyway.

This way you get to find out if he doesn't want to lose you as well.

futuretopgun101

If you were in the same service it would be easier. Are there any jobs in the RN that you would like to do?
If not and your heart is set on the Army then I say go for it. You wont be saying very much of each other, if at all.
Go for the army.

alex s

I'm sorry but I have to say this; if he doesn't like it - tough! its your life and your choices. Do what YOU want to do and if he loves you he will stand by you, if he doesn't then you've lost nothing honey. Go for it and be happy.

Jared G

Do what you want but know that once you are in it will be really ahrd to be stationed close to him unless you go guard or reserve.

groovymaude

You must do what you want to do, sounds likey you already resent the fact that he may not be keen. Time will tell with the relationship - it may work out, it may not, you're obviously young enough not to let it hold you back. It may not work out long term anyway - I think you must try if it's what you're sure you want - you'll be kept busy and meet lots of new people - who knows what the future holds! don't settle for less.

Lynn C

its your decision love, my son in army is girlfriend in south wales . we live in yorkshire , and he makes time for us all, he sees his girlfriend more than us thats understandable.

Edge Caliber

You will need to talk with him first and tell him how you feel, before being able to make any drastic decisions.

EvArtD

That's a hard one.

Honestly, if he cares for you, and you explain exactly as you just did for us, that you don't want to be resentful later, then he should understand and support your decision.

If he can't stick around after you make this decision then he isn't the guy for you.

Good Luck

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