Do I choose the U.S. Army or girlfriend?

Spirit Walker

You have free will ( a wonderful gift from God ). Use it. The only problems I ever had in my life was when I listend to mom, girlfriends, wives. You mom stopped changing you diapers years ago. Get on with YOUR life. I left the Navy because my wife didn't like my being in it. Shortly thereafter, she left me anyway. Go with your gut. Good luck. There is a song, "Walk Like A Man," Good advice.

jusme

I thought you said you were an adult. If so act like one and make your own decision. Mom will always worry no matter what you do and if your girlfriend can not support your decisions about your life may be she is not the right one.

Nanniekc

Well, if your girlfriend was truly someone who cared she would stop being self-centered and worrying about her needs. Moms will always worry no matter what. I think it's great that u want to serve in the armed forces.Bo-ah to u!
Follow your heart otherwise u will never be happy. Just Do It!!! If the girlfriend can't wait maybe she's not worth waiting for either. Trust me in life, u can always find someone, but u can't always be happy and if it makes u happy go for it !!! It's a very honerable thing to serve !!!

AFwife

please listen to me, its YOUR life, not theres, i was a girlfriend of a now US Airman, i BEGGED him not to join and so did his parents, but he told me its what he wanted to do in life and that he would understand if i broke up with him, well now i'm his wife and it was the best decision he ever made, he's going to school for computer science and loves his job, even though they both love you, they are being selfish by not letting you do what you want to, thank you for serving and i hope you do go back in, it is a great life :)

crzyfiregirls

DO IT! Join again. If my family and friends would have not supported me, I would have just gone. They will get over it, if they dont, well then they dont realize what is the best for you.

Dont get Infected

your an adult... ur mom and girlfriend dont want u to join because of the conflict and u might b sent to iraq. and they dont want to see u getting ur body carried through the streets on CNN... if u really want to be in the military just tell ur girlfriend that u are going to do it and if she doesnt agree then she should move on. which she will most likely anyway... most military wifes and husbands cheat on their wifes and girlfriends...

surfer9405

send me a pic of your girlfriend i will let you know what to do about her, but your mom, thats on you buddy. good luck with everything.

Mrs.530

....my boyfriend of 3 years decided he wanted to go into the army just last year... as of now he's over in Iraq fighting... when he came up with the idea of going into the army i was SO against it.. it hated it... i didn't like it until he came back from boot camp.... but after all that he went through he was dedicated and he loved it and i saw that... i love him so of course i didn't want him to go... but after i saw that it was something he really wanted to do... i was ok with it... i hate not being able to talk to him as often as we did or never seeing him... but i live with it... he's over there doing something he loves to do...

i think you should go for it... if your girl loves you then she'll open her eyes and see that this is something you REALLY DO LOVE!
good luck with everything and i hope you make the right decision

jonesty1284

Go where your heart leads you. Your mother is concerned about your well being and your girlfriend the same. Your mother will be your mother forever the girlfriend can come or go. If she really cares for you and your decision she will support you in your decision. My ex entered the military and I was hesitant but I supported him all the way. I did that because I loved him and wanted him to do what he needed to do to make himself happy. If you are happier as a military man go and be happy. The best of luck with everything.

fin

You sounded like you had it all figured out at first. You are an adult and you can make your own decisions. Do what you want. If you love your gf ask her to marry you and travel the world with you. Tell your mom you aren't a baby anymore and need to do what you feel is right. hooah or whatever you say in the Army.

handy Andy

ok Join the Navy then ...

Diseased88

Army reserve...do both!

Bambi slayer

Dump the girl and join. Tons of chicks that would be glad to be with a MAN. Being retired military I totally support ya.

Go Army!!

You tell him Di!!

goodgirl

do what your heart tells you to do. A girlfriend might only be around for awhile but the experience and dicipline you learn in the military will be with you forever. be all that you can be and don't let anyone tell you different. You will be much happier with the choice you make rathee than the one someone makes for you. Go for it!! hoooyah!

Sixth_Sense

Well,
far be it from me to come between a man, his Mom and his girlfriend, but...
You said it yourself. You ARE an adult.
If you miss the Army that much and it would make you happy to be there - why are you waiting?
Yes, people who love you and care about you will miss you, yet people who love you and care about you will (eventually) understand.

It may seem selfish, but it's YOUR life.
Do what makes YOU happy.

Amanda C

I think that you have already answered your own question. If that is what you really enjoy and that is what you want to do, then do it. We are not talking about something self-destructive, like drugs or alcohol abuse. This is something that you obviously like and you have enjoyed previously. Mom and gf may not be happy with it, but as you said, you are an adult and you can make your own decisions. I don't know of any mother who would happily send her son off (possibly) to war. I am sure that they are just both worried about you, understandibly. If I were in their shoes, I would, too. You know that you can't live your life always pleasing others. If the Army has been a positive experience for you, and it is what you would like to commit yourself to, then re-enlist.

BUT, don't get pissed off at mom/gf. They just care about your welfare. Try to put yourself in their position. Don't get mad at them...it won't do either of you any good. You will just have to tell them that this is what you want to do, this is what you love to do, and that is what you are going to do...no if, ands, or buts. Try to see it through their eyes, too, but follow your passion.

Bugs Bunny

As you are an adult, do what you want to do.

Ishan26

See if can do both.

AreWeThereYet?

Be a Man, Lock and Load

ANGEL

If you miss the army life re-enlist if thats what's in your heart. If you want to please mom and girlfriend theres the army reserve a weekend a month 2 weeks in the summer at least thats the way it use to be. or look at it from this point mom isnt going to stop loving you because you went back in mom would love you even if you turned out to be a serieal killer. Now as for the girlfriend issue you know that where ever you go in the military you'll always have women unless there is something seriously wrong with you. bottom line Dude, you need to make a decision if your going to retain the same rank and bennies. Follow your heart. I was in the military and I didnt actually marry until I was almost 30 years old. Im not suggesting that you do the same everyone is different but i did enjoy myself (my youth) in the military I was 17 years old when i enlisted in the 70's.

abram1love

as a military spouse I say join...we are in the army and stationed in Bamburg Germany...we love it. I am proud of my husband and so is his family...even though they were against it at first. Once you make a decision stand by it. Being that you have already been in before you know what to expect, they may not. Just assure them you are confident in what you are doing and no one can give you lip.

young108west

Dude...go join up again. You'll find another girlfriend who supports your military lifestyle, and your Mom will come around.

devilish6_6_6angel

Sounds to me like you've already answered your own question. If your bond to your girlfriend isn't as strong as your bond to the military, you have to listen to what your heart is telling you to do. Don't end up being angry at her for the rest of your lives together because she forced you out of something that you wanted to do.

cnkbrum

I hope that you make the decision that is best for you. Your mom will get use to the idea. However your girlfriend she maybe different it takes a strong women to be with a military man. Talk to her more about her fears about all of it.

Mopar Muscle Gal

It's YOUR life.. and decision
but if you cannot make up your mind ..
you have NO business being a "Man" in the Army

lilrichey85

Chose the ARMY if they love you they will support you if they dont then after you come home from war bring home another female without telling them. then they think they are welcoming home a hero (wichthey are ) but now hes taken. lol..

Proud Army Wife

You just answered your own question. You're an adult. You can make you're own decisions. Join the Army and keep your girlfriend!

Jan G

Follow your heart and desires, join back up. They will get use to the idea and realize this is your life and you need to do what is fulfilling to you. GF's come and go if she is a keeper she will stick with you no matter what your decision. My son is a Navy Nuke and I miss him but at the same time I'm proud of him.

Trish H

Your mother will always and forever be your mother nothing can change that. She might get mad at you but she'll still love you and be very happy when you come home. The girlfriend well if she truly loves you she should understand that this would make you happy and that not going back would bring you sadness and possibly regret. If she doesn't care that by staying you would be sad then she doesn't care about you she's only thinking about herself and how sad it would make HER if you left. I'm not saying you have to dump the girl but she really needs to respect your wishes maybe you can come up with a compromise like you'll only enlist one more time and after that no more or something. Good Luck

Infierno!

Why are you so confused with the issue? Cowboy the F**k up and do what your heart tells you. You will never find happiness trying to please other people. You mom will always be your mom. She would love you, even if you tell her you don't give a rat's @ss what she thinks (I'm not saying you should...it's just an illustration) Girlfriends come and go, "hit and quit it" ; she is not good for you. As my man in the Navy, (above) she will probably leave you in a few months anyways. It's not like you are going in blindingly, you know what you are getting yourself in. You said you are an adult and capable of making your own decisions??? so...? have at it brother. Tell them you have made a decision and that's how it's going to be...if they are cool with it, then they can come along ...if they are not, then you will send them a postcard and call on Sundays.

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