Do all Men in the Military Cheat?

VPOC

If you want to stay married, go to Korea. It's as simple as that.

Kat

After years of being a military wife - no - not all military men cheat on their significant other. With all the deployments to the Middle East - where seperation is not a choice, but a must, I recommend going with your husband to Korea - who knows when he will get orders to a combat zone. You can always do online courses from Korea.

MiMi

Hey, Good Daze Ahead, hubby and I have 3 friends who have done tours in Iraq and Bahrain and guess what, they are married and cheated over there. They cheat with other females that they are in camp or barracks with. Its not that hard to do.

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Ok to answer the question. Coming from a military wife here, you signed up for this job when you married your husband. Even if you married him BEFORE he wanted to be in the military, the choice was made and you were aware of it. Don't be selfish because of paperwork and school. Paperwork takes a long time in the military, try getting in to see a military doc.

But your main reason listed above that the paperwork is taking too long so, your thinking of staying here, is you thinking of yourself and not your marriage as a unit. GO WITH YOUR HUSBAND. EVERY military base has college courses on it for enlisted and spouses, there is also online college that you can do from ANYWHERE regardless of where you actually live.

Don't be dumb. Go to Korea with your husband. He will need you while being so far away from home.

Jerry C

How many chances are you going to get to see a country like Korea? Go with your husband! You can still go to college while you are there.

Mullet-Man

While the problem might seem limited to the military, it is the same problem that any couple faces if they spend a large amount of time apart. The separation will not create problems as much as it will amplify issues that may already exist. It would be better for your marriage if you go to Korea, which would be the truth if he was going to a different state. Ultimately you have to judge the strength of your marriage and your commitment to each other as well as the need for your need to meet your personal/professional goal (i.e. degree). Not everyone in the military cheats. One is that it is against the UCMJ and not openly condoned for married soldiers. Two is men are only as faithful as their options. It sounds like your young and a lot of young military marriages fall apart because the couple did not develop a foundation of trust before meeting obstacles like this. So have these kind of frank discussions with your husband before he leaves and when he's gone keep in close contact and let him know how important he is to you and he will do the same.

Sgt Little Keefe

Hon, not all men cheat on their wives while in the military, only the brazen ones do and only those who would have cheated anyway do, so put that out of your little head. If you can go, then go be with him but not for the above mentioned reason, but because you want to be with him to support him in all that he does for you and our country.

Oh and BTW, you can go to college there as well as here, so go with him and go to college and get your degree, you can also use Korean as your foreign language requirement for your degree and help you also communicate in your new home. Kill many birds with one stone.

krisischool

Waiting on paperwork for Korea too

However if YOU think he will cheat, then it does not even matter if he does or not, if you are not there and do not trust him, then he might as well do it, because if you believe he will you will destroy what you have anyway with suspicion, accusations, imagination anger and fear.
If you have a little trust and a lot of love just go and see for yourself.
Honey I trust mine, (11 years strong) I am a strong independent educated woman but miserable with out my other half so GO GO GO GO - like it has been said there is online and on post colleges everywhere.

Snow w

not all men are like that just like all women are not like that for that matter and if u can be with your guy by all mean go see the world with him see new places am sure there"s classes there u can take

Theresa W

As a military spouse, no not all men in the military cheat but it is a good idea to go with your husband if you have the opportunity. I am a firm believer if you can go, go. That is something that I have always told myself. My step-dad got stationed in California and my mom stayed in North Carolina and they split up after he was gone for 18mos. Separation can sometimes change people. You can take online classes from Korea. Below is a link for tuition assistance for spouses accompanying their sponsors overseas. Good luck and definately sign up for classes. Almost 8 years ago when my husband was stationed in Georgia for 9mos for a military school after we were newly married, I took a break from school (after only 2 semesters) to be with (online classes exsisted but definately not as popular or as readily available as they are now). Soon after I went back to school, I found out I was pregnant and managed to finish an Associates degree only to go back 21/2 years later to find out that I was pregnant with twins. Now I am 26 years old and I am in my senior year of getting my BS in Early Childhood Education. You don't want to end up old like me and still in school so definately take some online classes and go with your husband. Good luck!!

sugarbee

Sad to say.............a great majority of them do.

Cardinals Rock!

no they don't. . . some just don't love their girlfriends/wives like they say they do if they cheat. It's not only the men but women do it too. my brother's gf cheated on him when he was in iraq for a year and a half. . . . he was very heartbroken

Mike J

I believe, because of your age, that you should stay and take care of your education and prepare for life if someday you have to support yourself. This will also test your love. If he comes back from tour of duty and ya'll are in love, then you should do it. If he cheats (or if you do), then you won't have to deal with any messy things like custody, etc.

TLwifey_C_tree4God

I am sad to say that I have asked many of my Male Friends and they would if given the chance. What you should be asking, is are YOU strong enough to admit, and work through the problems WITH Your Spouse. Do you believe that YOU can get through it? If you Don't truly love each other than it won't work. You also need to do some MAJOR, SOUL searching. Can You forgive, and Forget? No ONE is perfect, it's just the amount of EFFORT, and Faith you have. I Thank God for my Life, He has helped me get through my struggles in life, and is still helping me. I never realized it until recently. But He's been there! I LOVE YOU THOMAS!

Rawbert

A lot of people in the military cheat. Women and men. Men and women spouse cheat when their spouse is away. Military members cheat when they are away.
But to say all Men cheat is like saying all women are evil or all women cannot drive.

Being our units marriage counselor, I saw more women cheating. And we were an all male combat unit.

Edwina n

no0oooooooooooooooooooooooo dont stay go to korea i promess u u wont regret it, trusttt me dont listen to nobody in here pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeee go, you can go to school there theres american 's school there trustttttttttttttt me, if a men go to korea and dont get laid theres something wrong with him.

Captain J

get over it, my wife left me when I was in Africa.
When I got home the house was empty she even took my dog

man_marathon

go to college

Good Daze Ahead

I think you are confusing men at a bachelor party in Vegas with men who are fighting a war overseas. Think about it. If a guy is in Iraq/Afg., who the hell is he going to cheat with? One of the locals?

Old Scout

No, that's not true at all. Between the field, the many garrison duties and range fire, and deployments, who has time to cheat?

fathead

Yes, they do. Better to get that college degree.

soccerchic4u02

Not everyone, I am deployed right now and I do see it alot, it just depends on the person. If he really loves you then he might not. I just know that alot of people have the philosephy that its in another country and most military people say that "what happens TDY stays TDY".

yeah_but_we_all_are

Probably not all of them, but as long as the wives and girlfriends cheat too - and they do, I'm ok with it.

We won! 20 Jan 09 (Erudite)

Yes! They all do. Just a fact of life. (I was in from 1969 to 1975) All the men I served with stepped out on their loved ones. Give a man a few drinks and a pretty lady and he's gone. However, back home he will be a good hsuband.

sunflower13pink

What happens on TDY stays on TDY and what happens on deployments stays on deployments etc etc etc.

Your husband has cheated before. Him going to Korea will be like a kid in a candy store. Juicy girls everywhere and they all want a military man.

And, they do have opportunities to cheat in the Middle East. They do it with other military.

prE4chEr

No, it is the military wives who cheat when their husbands are deployed or in the field.

Bushrod

yes//women also...deployment is one big orgy.....you gotta have some fun somehow...but maybe not ALL of them..your guy may be different...Korea is full of willing women though..I had a great time when I was at Taegu

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