I miss my husband, what am i suppose to do to help take my mind off of him?!?!?

â™¥ â™¥Be Happiâ™¥ â™¥

You need to be with friends, family, take the baby to the park, the beach, some where new, and journal the babies reactions.

Try a new hobby, arrange for a sitter, and go with friends and get a manicure/pedicure.

Write what you feel, how much you love him in your journal, it will help you get your feelings out, and be something wonderful to show him when he is home.

I know that this must be very difficult, I don't have anyone now serving, but I know what it was like. So I kept busy with friends, and family, to help pass the time.

Bless you and your husband & baby.

Rev. TomCat

The best thing you can do is stop thinking about yourself. Keep busy reading or just what you are doing. This is a good outlet. Keep asking or answering questions. When men are away, they really need a person they can count on and not cheat on them. This will be a test for you and you will have to be very strong. But if you Love him and your baby, you will have to get through it. If you need to talk to someone. Write and I'll talk with you via e-mail if that will help. When I was single, there was something I would do to keep form feeling lonely at night. That was the Internet and when I would go to bed, I would sleep on my side and put a pillow behind me in my back and that would feel like someone sleeping with me.
Don't do any drugs or alcohol because that will only make you feel worse and may become addictive.
Hope this helps.
Rev. TomCat

ladyusmc

Keep your head up , you will adjust by yourself over time. I have been though countless deployments over the past 11 years and have 3 kids and i have managed everytime. My hubby is currently in Iraq and has been for 5 months now. The initial seperation is hard, but it will get better. If you continue to feel depressed though, go see your doc, I know alot of wives who take meds temporarily to get them through the tough times.

*Army*Wife*

My husband has been gone to iraq for the past 12 months, he was suppose to be home this week...but thanks to the extension he wont be home until november...so i know how it feels. I just keep myself busy...Im sure you have heard it a thousand times, but honestly its the only thing that works. I am 33 have been married 16 years and my husband has been active duty for 14 of those years and he just re-enlisted in Iraq for indef. So I have had many many many long lonely days and even longer nights. I love and miss him more then anything in the world, but I also know that he is doing his job and that he loves and misses me just as much. Try finding a hobby...even if its just a crossword puzzel, painting, taking pictures...anything to keep your mind busy. The only thing I will not tell any wife to do is go to clubs and bars. I stay away from the FRG for the simple fact it is just a group of gossiping ladies that have nothing better to do...I tell my POC to call me if there is any important info. But all in all no matter what you do the hurt and missing will never go away, but you can some what control it.

P.S. I just read rev.tomcats answer..and its true about the pillow... I put a pillow behind my back when I sleep it takes away that empty feeling that our big bed has.

Gijohn

It may not ease your mind, but know that your heartache is appreciated. The best thing you can do for your soldier is be there for him, support him, and do your best to keep things together while he's gone.

If you're on or near an Army base, get in touch with ACS, they have lots of programs and referrals to programs to get you through this sort of thing.

When deployment time gets near, his unit should organize a Family Resource Group that is dedicated to supporting both the deployed troops and the family members that have to deal with their absence...if his unit doesn't have one, step up and organize it yourself. It'll be a great way to share your worries and frustrations with other family members who are experiencing the same temporary loss as you.

For now, hang in there....He'll be back from the sandbox soon..

John C

Tried a hobby?
Join the local theater?
Go rent the silliest movies you can find?

â™¥hunnyswifeyâ™¥

You need to get busy and start exercising and find some crafts to do..you can also have the baby sleep with you...just that comfort alone will bring a smile to your face...good luck it does get better ur not alone:) hugs!

Armywifey32925

trust me I know the feeling. as a spouse of 9yrs we've gone through several deployments, me having our third child alone and him missing the first three birthdays of our baby girls life can be very tough, but over time you will learn how to deal with it. My husband is currently stationed in the the middle east, he left on 5 Dec 06 missing all the holidays and won't be back until this year Dec.
I have a lot on my plate as far as 3kids and work so the only time I truly miss him is at night and yes a battery operated boyfriend does come in handy sometimes...lol
But on a serious note, try to stay busy..take the baby to a play group...go to the Family support center and talk to a counselor...plan a welcome back party for him...that should keep you busy :)
Heads up

Nobody Special

wow. you're pathetic. WOMAN GET AHOLD OF YOURSELF! how the hell do you think this attitude of yours if affecting your child?!?!? you can't be whining and crying about him being gone. h'es in the military right? and you knew what he was getting into before he joined (and if you married him AFTER he was already in...you knew what he did for a living.) i'm sorry, i don't mean to be a total b*tch, but seriously....get a hobby, join a support group. get a job. do something instead of being home a depressed.

Navyexwife

Join the military wives support group on yahoo, also check out youtube- they have a lot of military wives' videos- if you feel like a good cry
Sometimes thats all you need

Amanda

I know that deployments are hard, my dad, brother, husband are in the army. I mean my husband is deployed right now . Its hard trying to cope with everything when they are away. You worry all the time, cry all the time but what gets me through it all is knowing that he will be coming home. He was trained to do what he is doing and the training will bring him home. So just remember that and i hope it helps a little bit.

yo-yokid345@sbcglobal.net

Well.. I dont know how this feels but maybe you should get togethor with your girlfriends/Friends and go to a club or do somthing that will keep your mind off him and keep you having fun and not worrying. And if your baby is crying try letting it sleep with you in your bed to help it fall asleep better or faster.

*Leti*

look girl, i'm so sorry for what you're going through...but there are women (and men) going through much worse than you. you need to get ahold of yourself. seriously. you can't let this feeling take over you. it's not healthy nor good for you, and it's definately NOT good for your child. i agree...get a job, pick up a hobby. take your baby out for walks. go to the park. you can't think of anything to do?

i'm a military wife going through a deployment, i too have kids...but i don't let them see me all depressed, and yours might be younger than mine...it's still the same. good luck.

FOA

poor baby
you know it almost sounds like you have a flu to top it all off.
It sounds like maybe you really are depressed. Not just sad .
Have you talked to your Dr about it?

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