I need help!!!! military questuions!!!!!?

SFC_Ollie

Become a real military wife.

Thank god my wife was strong enough to support me all those years, I don't believe I would have made it with out knowing she was at home waiting for me.

When I retired I insisted that My wife be the first person recognized at my retirement ceremony. She still has her tee shirt that reads "Army Wife, toughest job in the Army"

Join a family support group and get to know the other wives, They will help you through the rough spots.

Update: OK forget the support group, just get out of the military, you will never be happy there and half your story smells like Bull St

Hokie

You need to stay out of it. You'll only make it worse for him by getting involved. My husband had to go to the barracks at 1:30 this morning because one of his new Marines got a DUI. It's now 10:30 pm, and he's still at work dealing with that mess. I have a plate fixed for him in the fridge for when he does get home. That's about all I can do. If he wants to talk when he gets home, we'll talk, but he'll probably eat and crash. Welcome to the life of a military wife.

Life's not fair, especially in the military. Get used to it.

Reformed

Stay out of it. Support him by making a great home. Military aren't the only people who work long hours.

little mama

No there's nothing you can do. My husband has had to do that...as have many many many others before him. It's part of it. If your husband really hates it then he needs to just finish out his contract and get out. Then he'll get a civilian job and find out that the same things happen there too. Tell him to eat breakfast before he goes in and have a power bar in his pocket and have dinner waiting for him when he gets home.
As far as the invention thing goes...yeah really not sure what to make of that b/c that doesn't sound very likely to me...

blueyedgirl

their are support groups for military wives, they do help.I know how you feel, but if you married into this, then you chose this kind of life and your husband new what he was getting into when he got into the military

tallerfella

Sweetie, he belongs to the green weenie now. Hopefully as he moves up in rank, the hours will get better. But that all depends on his MOS....................

amibeethoven

Well, tell him that he needs his breakfast before he leaves. You can't do anything.

ArmyWifey

Not sure where or why he's working those hours -- comes with the territory at times unfortunately --- are they training to deploy?

You can chose to make the best of it or complain the whole time. Honestly from experience (18yrs as a spouse) I wish I would have chosen the first more times than the later! He doesn't need you fussin too but rather to support him in any way you can --- being active in the Family group, learning about his job/branch, making a haven for him to come home to, bringing him lunch if/when you can, love notes, clean uniforms, etc..... get creative with what time you do have together and be positive.

The military has great opportunities you won't get anywhere else --- look for them. If hubby's on extra duty/detail then he needs to shape up for both your sakes, if it isn't his fault you just have to grin and bear it!

messengeroftruth13

you just said the key word....flight line..... that's all part of of the job. My husband worked flight line for 3 years, 12-15 hour days weekends etc .he's in backshop now and we are trying to get him back on the flight line,I guess its less boring you cant get his shop in trouble...technically they never have to send your husband home. he just need 8 hours of "rest" not sleep according to the military "rules". so be glad they are not making him set up a cot at work. You will get through this and if you need to spend some more time with him see if he can get leave for awhile and keep yourself busy while he is at work....volunteer,find a hobby,meet friends for lunch etc. support your husband as much as you can and it will make his job a lot easier for him to do.

GunnyC

What are you going to get his unit in trouble for? There is not a forty-sixty-or 120 hour work week in the military; there is no required eight hours off a day as some one indicated. In fact the requirement is one hour of rest per 24 hour period and that is waived in time of war. If you are not deployed units try to get people off for weekends and holidays and ry to keep hours down but the truth is they don;t have too that is a policy. To be honest like above a lot of your story sounds like pure bull but even if it were true that is life-after retiring I went to work in the training and complaince section of a civilian (non-mlitary contrctor) business and wrote some stuff to help them stay in compliance with regulations. They are now used nationally and my supervisor's-manher wrote them and I did not get recognition or paid for it; so what it made my job easier which is why I wrote ie. Anything you write, develop or invent when you are working for a company belongs to that company and does not belong to you and they do not have to give you anything for it. Common business practice and rule. As for the seniors leaving-I spent twenty years in and will guaruntee you I spent more hours at "work" then my troops did and the higher I went up the more it got but I was enlisted. I did have some officers that would leave but honestly those were the ones I preferred would do so but even most the officers were there until the job was done. If this bothers your husband let him talk to the senior enlisted or the chaplain-you just stay out of it because the question is now if it doesn't bother him then why are you getting upset about it. Simple fix is that you are not sut out to be a military spouse-either learn to accept it and keep quiet or leave him and find a nice 9-5 person to marry.

am7

Join some support group of military wives. You're not the only one who feels this way! There are people who would be happy to talk to you and help you out.

ms.jackson...

I'm sorry to hear that. Join a military support group to know your not alone. And in two years he is done... You love your husband just stick it out and grin and bare it for him. He will need you at the end of those hard days and nights.

Critter

Let me tell you about DH's stint at recruiting duty or either time his boats have been in the shipyards and we can compare sob stories about how unfair the military working hours can be. Believe me, if you get into that kind of pissing match someone will always come along with a worse situation than yours. Long hours are the norm for military personnel, especially at certain jobs.

What you can do that's productive right now is to support him. Make sure home is as comfortable as possible. Make sure you value the time he does have. Don't spend it ranting to him about the military and his job...unless that's something that relaxes both of you.

It seems like a long time but you've only got 2 years. That's only 2 years to make sure you're ready to get out and move into the civilian workforce. You can spend those 2 years unproductively mad about his current job. Or you can spend those 2 years getting him and you ready for his next one.

Lt Col USAFR

Go see the chaplain NOW! Total privacy. Check out army onesource. Chaplain can tell you about that too. Get involved on base.

oxo_07

Be patient, and be positive...Your strong support will help your husband get through all of this, until he leaves the service...Both of you need to talk and understand that this is the military. Support him the best you can, and that makes the difference. Be strong, and show him that you care. Everything will be fine. Don't throw your marriage because of the service... I hope you guys make it... good luck...

cerealkillerchicky

just his unit commander but if they r all workin those hours theis nothing u can do. that is why we go thru basic to get used to that environment and long hours.

kobeisalaker

he could break his arm and he will get sent home for a while.

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