I want to join the Army, but my dad ( E-9 Marine) keeps telling me how military is not the right choice.?

sexylilmama_82

What is the right choice for your dad may not be what is the right choice for you! But listen to what he says and take into consideration what the good points for you are as to why you want to join the military and the bad points from him as to why he thinks its not the right choice, then follow your heart. Its your life and you are free to make whatever decision you want, but just remember this is a decsion that you will have to live with for at least 3-4 years of your life if you decide to enlist. If you enlist you arent going to be able to change your mind and decide this isnt for you, you will still be responsible to fullfill you contract. My husband is active duty army now, prior Marine, he has his likes and dislikes of the military and of both branches. I think this is a personal decision and I wish you the best of luck in what ever you do decide.

EvilWoman0913

Listen to your dad for now. Get an education first and then think about the military. I know several people that have had very rewarding military careers, but I've known many more that regretted the day they signed up.

Sarah S

Your dad has some good points, and you should hear what he has to say since he probably knows what he's talking about. But it really boils down to what you want to do with your life. If you wouldn't mind not getting a degree for a while, or serving in Iraq-or wherever, it might be a good choice. I know a lot of guys that are in the military-several in Iraq-and while they don't necessarily enjoy it, they don't fell screwed-over.

J S

Do what YOU want, not what daddy wants.

LAVADOG

become a officer so your dad has to salute you.....Ask yourself if your life has been good or bad??.your dad will come around...Please tell the SGT.MAJOR i said Semper Fi

Heather T

I have to agree somewhat with your father. My boyfriend is in the Army National Guard and although there are benefits there are also many sacrifices that you will most likely have to make. You will most likely get shipped to Iraq (or similar dangerous area) and that's time away from your education (which you are already on a roll with), your family AND your friends. My boyfriend signed up for the Guard and was told he wouldn't get shipped over-seas and then got sent to Egypt for a year and then home for three months just to get shipped to Kuwait for another year. And the recruiters will definitely glorify the whole military experience AND most likely you won't end up doing a job anywhere near the job that you want or sign up to do.

Don't get me wrong, the military can be a great opportunity for some people and we definitely need all the help we can get from people like you who are educated and ambitious, but it's definitely not what it's cracked up to be. So listen to your dad and at least finish your education first. It's very important. You may think that you could always go back and finish later, but most people don't. If you're lucky enough to have the funding to get your education on your own DO IT and NOT go in to the military! Some people aren't so lucky and they HAVE to go into the military in order to get the money for that education!!

John S

I felt the need to serve my country after 9/11 so I joined the Marines. I did two tours to Iraq and I'm proud of my service and so is my family. After leaving the Marines I went to college and got my degree. I'm now an engineer making a great living. You can do both too. Also I knew many Marines who never got deployed. Their not as short handed as some will have you believe.

sweetlatina

DO your research ...why the army..AIRFORCE IS THE BEST lol anyways do research find what branch best fits what you are trying to accomplish..Depending on what job you have in any branch getting a college degree may be a lil harder.. but it can be accomplish .. when you join know your mission be strong minded. if you go in with a purpose work for that purpose..things might get in the way but if you have a game plan nothing can really stop you.. for example my uncle joined the navy for school money. he went in got out finished school and he was wise on how he spent his money. he went in with a purpose and had a set goal. he got out in four years and was able to find a job and is very sucessful.. however my dad got in fooled around, screwed himself over and he says he wishes he would of did it how my uncle did but doesnt really regret his 20 years of service it just took him longer to accomplish what my uncle did in 4yrs. its what you make of it . Again do your research...ask around get a idea of the different choices and paths you can take..get any and every advice possible ...

pcbeachrat

Your dad has 9 years experience in the military,and the truth is, he knows you better than anyone else, and not everyone is 'military adaptable'......Maybe he knows this about you possibly not being adaptable to the military lifestyle,and he is trying to warn you of something like this to prevent you from making a big mistake, without hurting your feelings...I went into the army recruiters the day i turned 17 years old,with my parents signature and enlisted for 4 years in combat arms, I chose artillery, i had a few bonuses and enlistment guarantees that came with 4 years instead of two enlistment. Let me tell you...I AM NOT military adaptable, but i bit my tounge and did the 4 years ...He may be saving you alot of heartaches.

skycat

I agree with your dad. So does my dad who is a decorated WW11 veteran. So do all my uncles who are also still alive to talk about the changes in our governement and how now the military is used to satisfy the personal self serving agendas of our leaders who have alterior motives.

I am not bashing our soldiers or you if you should join. I support you completely. I just hate to see you be used, unprotected and offered no support for your service once you get out. If you get out alive.

ookami007

Joining the military is a BIG decision.... especially during wartime. While I applaud your willingness to follow a madman into a losing battle... you might seriously want to think about the fact that there's a very real chance that you will NOT be coming home... all because a lunatic in the white house has delusions of grandeur.

mageta8

I understand you want to please your father and do what makes him happy. But in doing that you'll make yourself miserable. Do what makes you happy first and foremost. It does sound like your father loves and cares for you and eventually he will get over it.

lor

Now that I am older sometimes your parents do know best. Right now we don't want is going to happen because of the war so, you never know...

He is right about the recruiters. I know someone who used to recruit for the military. I was engaged to someone in the military. He wasn't happy was once got in. It's a great career for some people. (Not everyone)

Your dad is the one who has been there. You need to speak to people that are serving now.

Your dad wants what is best for you. And he probably knows you pretty good! He's been there- the military. Maybe, you should listen to him.

Mike W

In the end, it's your decision to make, but don't make it an emotional decision. You might want to talk about this with your father, explain what you want to do, and explore your options. If he cares enough to say something about it, it won't hurt to at least listen to his advice.

Brown Boy

Tell you the truth do what you want but my cousin was in the marines and he was discharged and when he came home he was messed up in the head he robbed 3 gas stations in 20 min and now that he is better he was telling me about how it was in boot camp and he said it is not what the tell you it is real hard the beat you and do alot of things i guess join after the war so they wont be in a hurry to send you and they train you well cuz if you join now youll get basic training and get send as infantry.

honshu01

It would seem your father knows both you and the military and may not see YOU as a good fit. Not everyone is compatible with military life. Or it may be he doesn't want you put in harms way as he has been. If you truly want to serve your country in the military the best course with regards to your dad may be to explain to him he has planted the desire to serve something greater than yourself in you and not as a way to get a degree. I think he will respect you more for that and understand it but most old NCO's understand the service to oneself, and country that is involved in the service.

pusherhombre

Military is not for everyone, this is true. If you are already in school, I would suggest you stay there and finish your degree. Then decide if an enlistment is feasible for you.

My opinon: Best time to join the Army is right out of high school, and before you go to college. Maximum benefits, and those benefits are geared to high school graduates who want to serve this great country AND get benefits for college.

If you still want to enlist after you get your degree, see a recruiter and shoot for OCS. You will go through two months of Basic Training as an E-3 or E-4, and then transfer to OCS to be commissioned as a 2LT.

Lisa G

Well, my sister in law joined the navy for college.

She's currently enjoying (and I use that term extremely sarcastically) a 15 month tour in Iraq. She joined less than a year ago. She was at her duty station for 1 month before deploying.

I'd think you're not stupid enough to NOT trust someone who's IN that ****. For gods sakes, he's your father AND he's involved with it all. Trust him. Especially an E-9. I'm married to an SPC (E-4) in the army.

Don't join unless you wanna be cannon fodder. That's the only way I can put it for you.

nimisisprime

go to collage first and become an officer as they get more money for doing the same job as enlisted members as well as they have some perks that enlisted dont get

Note:

I am speaking from exp. not just making up b.s.

You can satisfy your self and your father by going to collage and doing the rotc program, It may or may not turn into a millitary career, It would benefit you in that it would give you a chance to see military operations with no real commitment as well as if it did turn into a career chocie for you you would start your career in an Officer position with higher starting pay and better oppertunities for advancement, you can satisfy your fathers wishes of going to collage as well

6 years U.S. Army (active duty) 89-95

US soldier

You must decide what you want to do with your life,but your dad is 100% ccorrect.I have been in for 5 years and have tried to doing schooling even the E army U program and never been able to finishes a single class do to the war.And yes alot of people do get screwd over quite a bit.War is no fun to be involved with but a good learning experience.But all so think about it this way.If your his only child or not and he has been over seas he knows exactly what it like over seas and he may not tell you much what he has seen for a reason.He does want to see you killed over there, he wants you can get a better carrier and being able to go to college is the best way.Its all up to you but i would heed your Fathers warning very carefully before signing a thing.

Listen to your dad. He knows what he's talking about. Recruiters make lots of promises, but they don't keep them. If you join, you WILL be sent to iraq. They are desperately short of troops. There will be little opportuntiy for education. And there's a good chance you'll be killed or maimed. Why risk it? Go to college for a year. It's sure not as tough as the Army, and the payoff is a lot better. If you still feel the same way in a year, chances are we'll be out of Iraq and your dad won't object so strongly.

kkv1234

first of all the final desison is yours. 2nd listen to what your dad has to say, he has been there, it is no movie, I know you think you are invincable, we all did at your age. if you get hurt .will the military take care of you? watch the news man. before you make a decision, why dont you visit a military hospital, check it out yourself, do you think you dad would ever tell you something,that he firmly belives would not be of benifit to you and in your best intrest?I have not been in milatary and have never had a desire to, politics. But god bless those that do, I wholey support them. I am not a firm beliver in collage being good for every one either GOOD LUCK

lovesickangel

I agree with your dad that military life is hard and not a good choice for many. My husband is in the Army and he joined wanting to go to war. He hates the military. It is a lot of drama and is not good for anyone who wants a family or serious relationship because of the current war. Deployments are high and long. So he is right you may not get your degree for years. Just think of what you want most and look at it from all angles not just what the recruiter may tell you. Remember the military wants all the people they can get and have been known to tell you anything to get you in.

BioProf

Military life is difficult and your dad know that and wants better for you. Not all branches are quite as hard on a family as the marines, but its not easy for any of them. If you enlist now, it is quite likely you will be deployed and any plans you have for college will have to go on hold. If you want to serve and go to a service academy, I know the Air Force recruits a large number of enlistees to go to the USAF Academy. I had a couple guys in my basic training squadron who opted to go to the academy from basic. Keep in mind that recruiters want to get your name on a piece of paper and that is their only objective, they will stick you without a second thought. When I enlisted I was supposed to be a computer programmer and ended up in the Air Force Security Police. Dont trust a recruiter. Talk to people who have been there and then make up your mind. But ultimately, you must do what is right for you. Your dad means well, but he cant make this decision for you. Good Luck.

Dr. Shafer

Go to college, but do reserve Marine service. The best of both worlds.

simone219

he would know better then you

â™¥Marineâ™¥Wifeâ™¥

Well first of all do what you want to do. Your dad I'm sure would feel differently if you joined the Marine Corps. Considering the big rivalry from the Marine Corps to Army. My husband joined the Marine Corps and didnt get screwed over. On the other hand my dad joined the Army and was told he would be a mechanic, but got placed in infantry. After you serve you will get your Gi Bill and will get most of your college paid for! Thats awesome. Well Good Luck with your decision. You should consider the Marine Corps though :)

Dan

Any parent is going to look after the best interests of their kids. Especially when it comes to joining the military with everything thats going on today... You need to tell him its what you want to do, and that he should support your dreams....

I think it would be better to go to college, and do the whole ROTC route, but either way is fine...

Enter Your Message or Comment

User Name:
User Email:
Post a comment: