Is it proper to tell a family of a deceased veteran of Iraq that the man volunteered so we should not be sad?

u_bin_called

I can definitely tell you that it is NOT proper to continually use the deaths of our soldiers to make what is, at best, a puerile point...

Philip McCrevice

No you idiot.

That would be like not being sad a cop got shot.

Or a fireman got burned up.

Being sad is different than being angry.

But you Liberals don't understand.

Lori

No, it is not proper. The proper response would be to tell the family you are sorry for their loss and thank them for the veteran's service so that those who remain at home remain free.

Goblin

That would be heartless and stupid. You'd be better off saying nothing. Many of us could get killed in a variety of ways, but no one should be callous about it when it happens.

jiminjersey

That doesn't mean you shouldn't be sad because he died. idiot!

horseshoes

No, that is not appropriate. You thank them for their loved one's unselfish sacrifice that they made.

Tammy W

I would not say that to the family. They are grieving and are sad. Say you are sorry for their loss and leave it at that. He is a hero who fought for our freedom.

Jerry P

When your parents die are you going to be sad? Would you want someone to say, "Well when they decided not to commit suicide as infant they knew they would die someday. So don't be sad." OMG did you really just ask that?!!!

Go Navy

Erudite, people like you is why hell exists.

Snowy

You should be sad at the death of anyone who died in the service of their country even though they volunteered.

Firemen, policemen, merchant seamen and many others take on jobs knowing the risks but it is still sad when they lose their lives particularly for their families.

As for your question "is it proper" for you to tell the family of the deceased anything which may upset them just so you can make a cheap political point.....NO IT ISN'T PROPER OR DECENT.

A. S

I don't have a problem with you disagreeing but leave the family of the poor slob alone. It's like you almost want to p*ss on the guy's grave!!

Right Wing Extremist, Baby

What ever a Liberal thinks, says or does, I know I'm in the clear by doing the exact opposite.

Yes, we should be sad, because a savage took the life of a noble warrior. Yes, we should thank the family by acklowleging that sacrifice. And no, we should not cower to terrorists.

Dimples

How does knowing you can die make it ok? Every time you leave your house, get in your car, fly on a plane...you know there's a chance that you might not make it back. Would it be ok then to tell your family "Well they knew that it could be dangerous, and they might die, so hey don't be sad!". How damn insensitive is that!
Our military men and women give up and sacrifice so much for their country and to keep it's residents and citizens safe. They do it selflessly, bravely, and willingly so the rest of us every day do not have to go through the kind of pain, both emotional and physical, that they experience every day and carry with the rest of their lives. This question literally sickens me.

originalkippyj

Erudite you are not if you think that would be a proper thing to say to a family that has just lost their son, father, brother, whatever.

Volunteering to put oneself in harm's way because you believe you are doing the right thing is admirable, even when other people don't think you are doing the right thing. It takes a special kind of human being to do that and to say his family should not be sad dishonors you, not him or his family. No doubt his family will not mind if you don't show up to the funeral.

RockstarZook

I can't believe that anyone would even have that thought cross their mind!! If it wasn't for people like that doing their duty and serving this country, you wouldn't even have the right to say that! I just don't get how incredibly insensitive people like you can be. Volunteer or not, this person is still no longer with us. Have some compassion.

maybe not directly in that way- but maybe it would be more proper to say something like this is what he wanted- he wanted to fight for his country and he was a good man to take that chance. he should be honored and celebrated. something like that would be better received.

Seeker aka JH da II

Likely not. Went to give any kudos of such, please. You have to give the family time to grieve. That time varies. Maybe wait at least 3 months, if not more.?

Sixfeettall

You can't tell a person to be sad or not sad--they just are, it's an emotion, not a decision! I agree that our soldiers not only volunteer knowing they could be killed but they are agreeing up front to kill other people themselves.

However, their death is still a loss to their family, and it is completely separate from their volunteering for the service.

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