Military boyfriend trouble... please help me out!?

Marine

Don't listen to the people who are giving you negetive feedback. It isn't their life so it doesn't hurt them to say those things. My bro dated a girl for only 2 months before he went to Iraq. When He got back, they got engaged and now they are married. Don't email him anymore. It hasn't worked yet, so if he ever does get the emails he will have to take a lot of time to readd all those. Some places we don't have internet and phone access. Especially if he is in the field a lot, and since he is a medic, he is probably out during every mission. (I'm a radio opperator and we have to go out ALL the freaking time). You should have gotten his parents contact info before he left. Did he act like he didn't wat to leave you? Did he say he would contact you and see you when he got back? Let me tell you something, there aren't many women over there you know? So he is most likely thinking about you all the time. You should just be patient and wait a little longer before you get worried.

iknato0n

Im going to be neutral here. But you really have no clue what kind of unit he is in. Male Medics, like Radio Operators work in ALLLLLL kinds of units in the Army. He could be in a constantly deployed unit, in some kind of military operation, in a non stop hopsital, maybe just out too long helping Iraqis. Remember its still a war, and it isnt really "over"

I dont know the guy personally, so I have no clue if he is using you or not, but Id stay open minded a little bit more and keep faith until im sure 100%

devon d

I am going to be honest with you, it doesn't sound good. First, if you have been going with this guy and have never met his friends and family then he most likelyhas a gf all ready. Second, stop trying to contact him, if he really wants to talk to you, belive me he will find a way. Just start to let him go, keep yourself busy with other things and look for someone new and be very careful on who you choose. you deserve much better than this. you deserve a man that is going to cherish you not ignore you. hopefully you never slept with that guy. I hope this helps you.

john k

try picking up a pen, and use old fasion postal service that goes through. Maybe he isn't into writng, has nothing to talk about, and is busy. write him a regular letter and tell him you expect to hear back from him, then you'll know when he still don't write.
I was in the navy and I hate to write but every once in a while I would try to catch up on the task.

Babe in Uniform

Ummm he isn't interested. You were probably just someone to pass time with.

Douglas G

Come on kid, use your brain. Ever thought of what it really feels like to be somewhere away from home? Maybe he's sick, or even hurt. Give it some more time.

Kenneth C

The relationship is over, it's time to move on.

Seriously, you've only been dating for two months. He hasn't spoken to you in a month. It's over sorry to say.

Depending on where he is deployed, he may have constant internet access, limited (weekly), or none at all. However, he would be able to send letters or call occasionally.

hack_ace

It's possible he does not have Internet access or phone available.

And e-mail is e-mail. You can send from YAHOO! to GMail or any other mail service. In fact I can use these to send messages to my cell and pager.

Watto

sounds dicey to me. but at the same time its highly possible he has been out of contact for a while. my best mates brother is in iraq and goes periods at a time where he cant contact anyone. spose it just depends how much you like him. a few months is really worth gettin worked up for

Daisy M

Honey, just let it go. Don't email him again. He's let you know where he stands and you are wasting your time and energy on him.

Brianna K

Take a deep breath ,he might just be busy and hasnt had the time ,i am 12 months in a 15 month deployment and there are alot of times that i was'nt able to talk to my husband ,i'm sure he'll call or e-mail when he has the chance.he also might be using his call time to call his family. IM sure its nothing that you did.

Yuriy

"If you've been dating a man for four months and you haven't met any of his friends, you are not his girlfriend." (Chris Rock)

In other words, you shouldn't get your hopes up that he'll call you again. At this point, he may or may not.

NWIP

As I said on the other question you asked, unless you have a feeling in your gut that it isn't right then just be patient. Even though he said he was going to one area, there is always a possiblity that he went to another. Not every location in Iraq & Afghanistan HAS phones or computers, many DO NOT. Those that do often it is limited to how much time you have and the guys/girls will give up their time to people with families. Or if you sent it to his regular email that he may not be allowed to access it. Myspace, yahoo and hotmail are blocked with military computers. We are overseas ourselves and with the command computers that are used by those who are there, Yahoo isn't an option, so either could gmail and other accounts.

I went months w/o hearing from my dh when he was then my boyfriend because that was part of his job. no communication until certain times. I know of someone else who was in both places twice and the only time he was able to call his family was once every 2 months. Emails weren't an option.

Chula

Sorry to say but even deployed to Iraq or Afghanistan etc they 're ways to contact... email ( Yes to G-mail) and land lines...sounds like he is not that into you girl try and move on best of luck

Barry auh2o

I'll put this as gently as I can, but sometimes silence sends a very loud message.

JRB

He MAY have been sent somewhere where he is having trouble getting to a phone or the internet. Some places are pretty remote, especially if he's in Afghanistan. I've deployed twice so far and both time I've been able to make a phone call within 3 weeks or so. I'd say if he doesn't call within the next two weeks, then you know something's up.

Steve

is he by any chance Special Forces? Because my uncle was SF and my aunt would go for months sometimes without hearing from him. Either way, your only a month into your relationship, and his jobs not going to let up on him at all...cut your losses and date a desk jockey...

somathus

I agree with the first two answers. Another possibility, as horrible as it sounds, is that he was killed.

Bravo001

Well, maybe it's hard to tell you, but maybe he isn't interested in it. Don't you got any address to send him some letters? If you don't have, maybe he doesn't want to go on anymore. 2 months and 5 days it's a long time. But it couldn't be a negative thing. Just wait and don't write him other mails... just wait and be patient, you'll see soon what will happen! :)
While you wait try to be strong and work, study or do some stuff... or you'll get crazy!

ArmyWifey

It is possible he has no access to internet and has been really busy getting to a phone. It took hubby at least three weeks to contact me the first time (I knew he was in country because of the rear d).

My neighbor's hubby calls her daily, mine never called more than once a week. Not because he didn't love me, etc he just was busier and didn't have the phone access her's does now.

Try not to worry to much -- If and when he does contact you make sure to get pertinent info from him. Unfortunatly there are those guys out there who are into short flings so if he doesn't contact you again just take it as a lesson learned and move on -- however please don't take it out on all military men they aren't all that way no matter what anyone says.

J. T. Studz

YOU were just a convenient piece of @$$!
move on!

generalhead

you need to understand this... he is

gay!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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