My Husband is in the army. He is in basic tranning and he wants out does any one know if he can quite?

HEartstrinGs

I'm the wife of an Army BCT Drill Sergeant. The answer to your question is, no. He can't just quit. He'll have to talk to his Drill. They'll then refer him to specialists that will determine if he's capable of fulfilling his contract. Usually, by the time this process is complete, they're ready to graduate from BCT anyways.

Now, as I wife of a soldier, I have to ask you, can you life with him if he quits?? Have you done anything to encourage him to quit?? You 2 really should have discussed this before he left. I'm sure he was told what it was going to be like. Nothing comes easy. He's going to have to work for everything and earn it. If he quits this, do you think he can make it anyplace?? I know for a fact, BCT is nothing like it was when my hubby went through. There's no reason why he can't make it.

You need to find out why he wants to quit and figure out if you have a part in him wanting to quit. Quitting now will have repercussions all through life.

Good luck!!

bgray0630

No he cant quit. And why would he want to? There is nothing in Basic Training worth quitting over anymore. Recruits are treated fine now. Besides, once all phases of training are over, then the military is a great life. That is, if you are truly devoted.

But if he really wants to be pathetic, and throw everything away....then he can get an (or feign) injury.

Of course keep this in mind....if he is past week three of training, then he will receive a DD 214 (Discharge Paperwork), and it will not be favorable, and therefore prejudicial towards employment/training for the rest of his life.

guitarpicker56

He might be able to quit (not quite) should he prove there exists a true hardship for his family. Yet he signed up voluntarily. Did he think that the Army was nothing but sharp, dressed soldiers in spit-shined boots looking good for the girls all the time?

The Army can be a proving ground for men and women if they have the guts to stick with it. Let us hope your husband has a lot of civilian business savvy and can make a lot of money. Otherwise, he's in for a rude awakening as a quitter.

I doubt he can get out, since he signed the contract. There would have to be a better reason other than he just can't hack it! Tell your husband in 10 years he will look back and laugh at how easy Basic Training was. It just seems difficult now, but it gets better when he gets to Permanant Party. Tell him to hang in there. They can't eat him and they can't kill him, they can just yell.
I'm a female and I made it through with flying colors.

etelittle

Sure tell him to just go to his drill Sgt and say Hey I quit

pdudenhefer

he cant quit, but he can get out by kissing his drill sargeant-what a wuss

road126runnr

My brother is serving in Iraq right now and he is 50 years old.. Your husband is how old?? Just like most kids these days whiners whiners whiners.. I want my mommy...
Imagine what kind of life you will have with him with him being a cry baby and a quitter...

I see it now --- I was in the Army and got out cause I'm a whiner - so how do I get out of my marriage now?? Oh tell her I'm Gay !!!

FanofJrSrand29

He cant just quit. He has signed the next four years to the US ARMY.
He can only get discharged two ways
IF they find you unfit for military service they will discharge you(long and slow process in seperations), he will get a general discharge,(like he was never in the army)
AND
Medically - If he gets hurt which takes even longer to go through the seperations process which he gets a Medical Discharge (Honorable)
MY advice is stick to it, he has already signed the papers!!!!!!

pahump1@verizon.net

sounds like a loser/quitter

samhbane

Yes he can quit. It will make him a lesser person for life but he can quit. No one grabbed him by the balls and dragged him to the recruiter. Also, you as his wife has to accept some responsibility. Do you think that everytime throughout life something gets a little hard you will be able to run away from it? For his benefit, I hope that he does not quit. The military just might make and adult out of a very imature child. As for you, I think you should join. Maybe the military service could also be of benefit in making an adult of you.

Proud Army Wife

Quite basic training? He does know that the Army isnt that bad, right? Why did he join the Army in the first place?

Balthazar

If the army is too tough for him...what is your life going to be like with him?

BITE ME

Do you have any idea how much it costs to even get the paperwork done BEFORE a person leaves for BCT? Then, once that person GETS there? I don't have the figures in front of me, but I do know it is an outrageous amount! Your DH just wasted THOUSANDS of dollars....And just where does this money come from? TAXPAYERS.

I hope your DH gets kicked out...I sure as H**L don't want someone like HIM having my DH's back Downrange.

Either way, whether he gets out or stays in...the Taxpayers will be paying for you to live....

Jim C

If he admits he's gay. That's it.

Quit is a four letter word. Don't let him....he will get through this. Many have.

*****_sweets

Once you join the military... you are government property

angeliquedesjardins

Basic training is nothing like the military. They treat you like **** the whole time you are there but it's not like that once you are through. I wanted to quit everyday when I was there but I just put it in my head that is was only for 17 weeks and that it would never be like that again.

Margie

Almost everyone in basic training wants to quit at one time or another. Tell him to stick it out -- it gets better.

Your husband chose the military. He obviously did not know what he was in for. But it is not all like boot camp. Boot camp is designed to train soldiers. If he is having serious problems with it, tell him to talk to his drill sergeant, or go to chapel on Sunday and talk to a chaplain. But just wanting to quit is not reason enough for him to get out. He signed a contract with the Army.

Sugar B

Yes he can get out. He can't just say "I quit" there are ways around it. I knew a couple guys that got out when I was in Basic that claimed they weren't right in the head. Failing all fitness tests does not guarantee an out. sometimes they will just recycle him and make him pass.

Best bet is to stick it out. I wanted out when I was in Basic as well, but after I got in the real Army, it was a blast. 9-5 job, get some exercise in the morning. Trust me, he'll be happier staying in. If he did get out he'll regret the decision when he has to join the civilian work force.

rolandmcduk

Yes he can get out. Over 15% of recruits never complete Basic. Easiest way is to just fail every test, physical or mental. The real question, though, is why does he want out. Does he just want out of Basic or out of the Army. If he just has issues with Basic, tell him it's only a couple of months, anybody can put up with crap for that long, he's just depressed. If he wants out of the Army, that's a different story. Then he should get out. No soldier wants to have to depend on a guy who doesn't want to be in the Army and won't do his part.

Dick Skinner

He can't literally "quit". But there are ways to get out. Medical problems, such as undiagnosed asthma, clinical depression, etc will get a BCT inductee sent home. The asthma cause was particularly common when I went through basic and advanced training. The joke became that folks went to the T.M.C. (troop medical center) for a stubbed toe, and came back with asthma. My basic/advanced unit lost around 30% of soldiers for various reasons.
Just bear in mind that the details of his discharge can cause problems for him for the rest of his life. A -General discharge for unsuitability- won't cause legal problems, but looks REALLY bad to prospective employers. Particularly civil service, or other government jobs, and some can disqualify him for student loans, federal aid, and so on. I'd ask your husband to think hard about whether he wants to stay or not. Basic and advanced training are in some ways the toughest part of military training. It's then that a person transitions from a civilian to a military mindset. It's a major adjustment, but is'nt the way it's going to be for the rest of his career.

jadamgrd

Get out, no.. He might be able to sign up for linguistic training. that will use up a couple years.

ramon m

Tell your husband, to thank God that he is not in Parris Island in the Marine Corp booth Camp.

rikv77

Tell the candy azz to live up to his obligation. He signed the contract, now live up to it.

Or if he really wants to punk out like some girl, tell his DI that he's gay. Should get his sorry azz sent home in disgrace.

K_S

This is the best time for him to quit if he wants out. Once you get through basic training it is harder to get out. I think he can claim hardship and get out. Which means that he can't handle the pressure that the army will put on him and that being away from his family has generated a negative impact on his well being. In all actuallity, your husband is not in the army yet, and he won't be in the army unless he passes basic. The military is not for everyone and I understand the position he has put himself and you into. It will be hard to get out right now and it may take longer than graduating boot camp, but he won't have any ties with the military after it is all said and done with. Make sure he doesn't do anything stupid in order to get out, because that will effect his life more negatively than if he had just stayed in. I hope this helps a little.

karen

my daughter is goin on day 2 in processing for the army.. she is 18 years old and just now at basic training. i realize this is the hardest time of this process,but she tells me she really feels like she made the wrong choice, she already has heart problems, depression and a recent feet surgery that is going to make things hard on her with pt...... i am wondering if there is a loop hole to get her out without getting her in trouble...she basically is just doing paper work at this time... any help would be great appreciated. what can we do about getting her out, if anything? any advice?

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