My bf is on deployment and always asking me if ive always been honest....?

PM4

He is probably just nervous due to all the bad stories about cheating that he has heard from fellow shipmates.

Magaroni

Well, one of three reasons:

When someone else does something they aren't supposed to, they'll sometimes act suspicous of the other person.

OR

He's feeling insecure now that he's so far away, and is afraid that someone else is keeping you warm as his proxy.

OR

Someone saw you doing something you shouldn't have been and told him about it, and now he's giving you the chance to come clean on your own.

shawnster172

For one thing he's undoubtedly hearing all the stories of his shipmates who's girfriends/wives have cheated on them during their deployments. He probably does have excess time to worry about this. Do whatever you can to let him know you're being faithful.

Any guys that are taking advantage of an enlisted man's woman while he's away need to be severly punished.

inzaratha

He is probably afraid that if he is away for a long time you won't "wait for him" and may date other people, especially if you two had not been together a long time before. It probably is more his own insecurity than a matter of trust, you know, guys can be pretty insecure when it comes to their heart.

bravozulu

He could definitely be subjected to ribbing by people trying to say that all women cheat or that sort of thing by people who don't have girlfriends. Many in the navy experience it so it is not surprising that he would hear it a lot. It can get tough on a long deployment and you loose track of the real world. It seems like it will never end sometimes.

SavetheEmu

He's probably just nervous about being away from you so long, and probably has heard a lot of stuff about girls cheating on their boyfriends while they're away.

Al Z

he thinks a lot about u* just make him feel secured by telling him whatever is the truth..good luck

jeweledfruit

The answer to this is a sad one. When they are deployed most- not all- but most cheat. He may not want to tell you about the lifestyle right now as to not scare you off- but they do. And, it's kept hush hush and it's an acceptable practice among sailors. Even the women are often like that. It's like a floating frat house. Women often sell themselves for money. I know that because I have befriended a few from my husbands last command on a large ship. I was shocked. I went through a jealous angry period and decided I was armed with enough info- and I had to trust my husband. It wasn't worth worrying over. If it happened, I would have to deal with it then.
So, if yor BF sees it everyday and hears about his friends who's girlfriends back home have cheated he may be worried.
Also, after deployments it is common to share STD's they have picked up along the way. Keep it in mind if he shares one with you he hasn't been faithful.

Whitty

Hi Mersaydes

A lot of it is the loneliness guys have but it also has to do with the stories they are hearing from their friends. They're receiving letters and video tapes from girlfriends or wives who are breaking up with them or seeing other guys. A lot of really bad stuff. It makes the other guys wonder if something like that is going on with their wives or girlfriends. Sounds like he might have heard something from someone you both know raising some questions too. And of course these kinds of questions can come from guilt too. It's up to you to decide how to deal with it but both of you are going through something very difficult...if you are committed to him you need to communicate as much as you can, be honest and be trusting. I wish you both the best.

knight1192a

Maybe he is being unfaithful, but more likely he's hearing a bunch of stories from folks whose wives/girfriends or husbands/boyfriends were unfaithful and he's just getting nervous. Still, it may not be very good for your relationship if he's making it clear he may not trust you.

firedup

Sometimes facing death or the possibility of death; or the thought of losing everything that you know, will cause someone to take a whole new look at their lives. Things that didnt seem important before may take a whole new meaning. And the thought of everything, or even anything, changing at home while they are called to duty, can be a very eye opening and life changing state of mind. Just as a prisoner may find God, a soldier may find life. Or at the very least see the beauty in it. So, it is very easy for someone who walks a thin line of having everything and having nothing, to let that emotion over come them . Causing people to loose faith in in what they know. Because they are living in a reality where everything including their lives can be ripped away at a single moment. If their lives back home change while they have so little control , it could be like their lives were taken from them, just as a bullet could rip through them to steal their lives.

snickers

regretably there are some girls/women who are not honest with who they are with especially in the military......you just need to reassure him all is well and you are waiting and staying busy till he gets back..hang in there it'll be ok.....God Bless!

Kari M

He is just scared because he is so far away and he can't do anything about it. Just do everything you can to reassure him, and be patient with him. We will never know what it is like to be in that place, and can't possibly understand what it is like for our troops. I can only guess that he is not the only one having these insecurities.

Evan B

What are you, 18? My dear, you are doubtless so naive about everything that to answer your question would be rather purposeless. Trust comes from power. Weak people cannot trust. It sounds like your "bf" is young, naive and naturally weak like you, although you seem somewhat less so than he.

You need to spend as much effort as possible developing a substantive identity. Work and learn and become someone. The sure-fire route to an unhappy life is to spend a lot of time wondering what other people are thinking about you.

Delilah

Hate to break it to you, but chances are that he is questioning you about about something that he himself is guilty of. Go with your gut instinct; by asking this question on Yahoo Answers means that you already know the answer to your question......

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