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BJJ Chick
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OK so I think everyone agrees, - You need to support his decision to join.
However I disagree with everyone else on the marriage issue. It is between the two of you and no one else. When you know you know. My husband and I were engaged within 2 wks of meeting and married within 6 mo of our first date. We've been married over 6 years, and while marriage is never a cake walk, I absolutely love it and would never want anything else. My husband is a truly wonderful man who loves and adores me and I in turn honor and respect him. This has been my experience. If you don't know, you don't know, but that is something you need to talk out with your b/f not a buncha strangers on y q/a. |
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sugarlum_honeybunch
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Let him go.. |
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MadMaxx
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OK darlin... this is coming from 44 year old eyes and I HAVE been in the same position you're in when I was 19.
You have to let him go... it's his dream. Let him know you will there for him when he gets back or you go for a visit and honestly... to the bottom of my heart PLEASE do not get married!
There is no rush, no timetable and certainly no manual that says you need to be married by a certain age. Play it out, see how it goes with him being away and accept the fact that maybe it isn't meant to be.
After everything I went through including going to Iraq from 2004-05... I didn't get married my first time until I was 42... and I can still keep up with those 22 year olds in Fallujah, lol... well, almost... 3/4 Marines QRF rocks! |
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lordzdiamond
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You have to decide if you can life your life married with him not always being there and not knowing if he's safe or not, but at the same time this has been his dream for ever u have to let him do it and dont give him a hard time or hell regret it for ever, i say just let him go and be his fiance but dont get married till he comes back...
how come guys always wanna get married right before they go off the war? wtf1!! |
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italienne
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Three months of dating isn't enough, but I know people that do it and make it successful. If you aren't ready, wait. |
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LPett
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Let him get through basic and AIT. If you can survive all of that and still be together there is hope. But with your relationship so new I would not marry before he leaves. |
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King Emu
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Don't marry him, it's way too early.
However, you should support his decision if you love him. Stay together and see how it works out. You'll see how difficult a long distance relationship is. If you happen to stay together over the next couple of years, then possibly consider marriage. |
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slawsayssss
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This is a hard decision for you. Living on an Army base is not all that exciting. Your access to the rest of the world is more limited, you could easily be moving frequently, and could quite possibly not be able to pursue a lot of things that you may like to.
As well joining the Army is not all that it's cracked up to be. My friend in the Army came home yesterday black and blue from training. Will he be able to deal with that? will you be able to deal with him that way?
You also will have to take into account if you will be able to deal with any of the mental changes he may undergo from this choice.
Or if you will be able to handle him being away from home for a long period of time (we are not getting out of war that fast, nor the next one.)
Marriage is a great sign of dedication and only you can decide what is right to do but if he really REALLY wishes to persue this then perhaps it may be a beter idea to wait until he returns. |
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DOOM
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He needs to not get married until he's completed his first assignment.
If you two get married before that, you'll probably end up divorced. |
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rchyill
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im might sound a bit bias however once people join the army when they come back there going to be a completely different person i mean i agree with everybody else that its to early so you should stay with your current relationship until it feels right |
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ms.jackson...
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if you are strong enough to handle him being away... i say go for it!... It isn't like you just met him. that would be different. ultimately it is between you and him... no one here can tell you what you are ready for. but if you are having second thoughts and it isn't what you want to do don't do it... try to get through boot camp first.... but realize after AIT he could spend years in another country, the military will only pay for you to come too if you guys are married. |
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mevadus
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I think it is to early for you to be married, especially if you are under the age of 25. Your boyfriend will not be home often, even if the conflict overseas ends. The best way to cope with being a military wife is to except the lifestyle your husband has chosen. There are going to be good days and bad days. There will be days and even months when you haven't heard from him. You must remain proud of what he has chosen to do, or move on from the relationship. |
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Tangy C
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Hello,if it has been a dream of his to join the Army,the best thing you can do is support him.I understand how you feel with wanting him to stay however by not leeting him go you never know what could have been.My name is Carlis,I'm using my wife's yahoo to answer you.I'm also in the Army after having been out of the Marines since 1993.Being married to someone who is in the military takes alot of patience and alot of understanding.I'm with a special ops unit here in Dallas Tx. I just came back from a 3 day field op and will be leaving again for 27 days next Mon.Not to mention I just came back from Iraq back in Nov 07' and will be leaving again in August.If he wants marry you,whats the hold up do it.By being married to him you'll get to go too places that you will never get to in a lifetime.If you are worried about the length of time you have been togther,then wait until he's done with his basic traning and his school.***Warning*** you have also need to be prepared for the possibility that he may end-up in Iraq so that's something else the two of you need to think about.Again what could have been??If it feels right between the two of you go for it. If you have any questions for me,I'll be more than happy to answer them.You can contact me at IIMEFIIMARDIV@EXCITE.COM Carlis |
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NAZGUL
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Drive him to the recruiters office.
Vet-USAF / College student
@dded : youtube is not an accepted site for TRUTHFUL information, at any Academic Institution. |
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Spana .
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Tell him not to. Tell him not to be such a conformist and challenge the lies of the army. Why do you think few politicians ever fight? |
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tell him one thing that they don't,when he is through his medical help will probably be lousy.I know of two different people that were diagnosed with cancer after its to late to treat it,because VA doctors sent them home telling one of them it was a wart and the otjher one he had a bad pimple ,after 6 months later they finaly decided it was cancer but it was to late he died,the very same thing hapened to this other person ,,he went last may and was told he had a wart behind his ear,he went back because it got worse but they dragged him around for 6 months and now he is going to a private doctor and only has a 10% chance.there medical help isnt much |
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pokerfaces55
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well. its a job..
one that u can almost never be fired from
pays your rent.. food and total heath care
gives you free education
and after u do your contract.. they will pay u a bonus to sign a new one
so whats the problem |
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Nina G
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I love our military and support our troops both of my grandfathers faught for this country.
If you love your bf have him watch videos about Iraq veterans before he joins.
Here is a link on youtube for one example.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D0mCydl8KP0 |
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Tsunami
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if you love him go. he can take care of you and they learn alot and you would be then his dependent. its ok and its hard at frist but maybe you can work part tiem or job also and then you will be fine its time to grow up and grow together. it would be nice but its long way from big money but it comes eventaully. |
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Dr. Helper
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so join with him |
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Cristina Scabbia's bodyguard
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Tell him that if he cares about his future (wife and kids) he shouldn't go cause it'll ruin it. If he doesnt get killed, he'll loose his limbs or be paralyzed or something. It's not worth it. The army has ruined thousands of soldiers and their families' lives. (making it millions)
also its not fun at all.... |
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