My husband wants to go in the national guards. What should i do?

Dumpy Poofus

I don't know anything for sure about the National Guard.......but...

One of my good friends from high school joined the army reserves a couple years after graduation, and he was called up, and sent to Iraq.

Luckily, he was never harmed in Iraq because he was an MP.

I think it is cool that he wants to join the National Guard to go to school, but could he maybe find a job that would pay for his schooling?

Even if it is an entry level position in the field he wants to pursue, there are a lot of employers who will pay for schooling for their employees.

BITE ME

At first I was going to say support his decision...but then I read the last part...He really really wants to go.(4 school)...then changed my mind. If that is the reason he wants to Join, then I hope to god he doesn't! I sure don't want someone like that having my DH's back Downrange or any other place for that matter!

Chainsaw

It is his choice.

yuba

If he really wants to join the national gaurd then let him, however he is naive, because he could very well be sent to Iraq. If this happens pray a lot and support his decision. and write him every day, send lots of packages, and pictures. Let him know how great he is, how proud you are, how much you love and support him.

knight35966

Don't hold him back eventualy he will resent you. I've seen it happen before no mater what the wife says. Your husband might not get deployed its hard to say. I don't know what state you are in but in Alabama they have a 2 year non deployment period if you are in school. You go to basic and then to school. averaging it out he would be done in the year 2009. That said they are estimating us being in Iraq till 2010. There is always a chance but if this is what he wants to do let him.

Starry Eyes

MY bf is in the national guard also. if your husband wants to do it then let him do it. he will be ok. and the government can pay for his college which would really help you i'm sure. my man is being sent overseas soon, i know he is going to come back to me safe, just tell him to work as hard as he can (if he goes over) to get back to you. support him in his decisions. it's the best thing you can do.

Margie

I'm sure your husband knows the possibility of being sent overseas is there -- it's part of the job description, and if he was in before he should know that. And my understanding is that they have already recalled some people who had gotten out, and that is also a possibility that you must consider.

He should have some GI Bill eligibility already. If he really wants to do this, support him. If he gets sent overseas, support him. Be there for him. Write to him. Pray for him. But support him. You said this has been going on for 5 years. You did not say how long he was in the army for. He may miss the structure of military life.

I don't have any answers for you, but if this is truly what he wants to do, and with you arguing about it for 5 years, it seems to be, support him 110%.

Make sure he looks into all possibilities before he makes that step. Foremost, support your husband in whatever he chooses. I know you are worried and it is completely understandable but stick by his side. Good Luck to you and yours.

dagumpster

There are many in the National Guard who never thought they would end up in a War Zone. The Education opportunities are great. The question is does he show the same enthusiasm for furthering his education and what are his plans in this regard. I think it sounds like he wants to get back to the camaraderie of the military. Some guys are really into this aspect.

Answergirl

If, as you say, your husband was in the military prior to marrying you he knows the pros and cons of joining a military unit. I say that you calmly and clearly express yourself. Try not to get emotional, but put forth facts that support what you want. Then listen to him and his side of the situation. If he decides to join;support him fully. If he decides not to, than be prepared to pay high tuition costs or live on less salary because of less education. In either case, be strong, calm, don't fight and whine or you will lose a husband who sounds like a pretty good guy.

DOOM

I didn't think I'd go anywhere, either, but here I sit, in a warzone.

vashnok

he should already be applicable for the G.I. Bill, which will pay for his school. Tell him to research that before re-enlisting. Also, if he has his mind made up, you can't really change it. Hopefully he already qualifies and as such, doesn't really need to re-enlist.

jr90292

If he doesnt think he will be sent anywhere, I suggest he turn on a TV. This is the most risky time to join the military, for any reason. I'd be interested in his ideology in thinking he will not be called upon to serve this country. There are programs, grants, and loans for school tuition.

The Boot

SUPPORT the troops!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...

V L

He is qualified for GI Bill as discharged member of U.S. military. If he was dishonorobaly discharged its a different story... but as of your story goes he is qualified... Now he probably wants to go back to earn full retirement ( I don't know his age ) and national guard could be sent other places as well... its military not your personal choice where you want to be

This is harder than it looks?

my best friend thought the same thing and he is overs seas now. so your husband will be sent some were and it is only going to get worse.

Edward K

Break his knees while he is asleep tonight!

Bryon K

If he feels that deep inside his heart he wants to do this then you support him in making the choice. You need him to to feel his goals are complete

kill 'em

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