Should I give him a letter before he leaves for basic?

My boyfriend signed up to be a Marine a while ago. He wasn't supposed to leave for basic until September. I just got the shocking news he might be leaving as soon as Monday. I want to write him a letter that tells him how I feel but don't know whether or not I should do it? He's excited but nervous too. He has this training made up to be something nerve wracking and scary. He says some people don't make it through. He's been trying to distance himself from me now because he knows he's not going to get to see me or hear from me while he's away. I guess like practice? So would writing the letter be a good or bad idea? Any of you have a similar Marine experience?
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We've known eachother for 6 years. I've always been there for him. I would NEVER cheat on him. So to assume I will when you don't know me is not fair. Neither is it fair to say it won't work. I know it's going to be hell. I know it going to change him.....but me giving up on him because he comes back with a different point of view... It's not in the books. I'm very faithful to him. He knows that. It's been proven. I have every faith in him and I know he's making it bigger than it is. I'm so proud of him to start with to even sign up to serve our country.

I love him very much. I already miss him and can't wait for this to turn into what it should be. Thanks for the advice. =)

Mary Jo's Ghost

If he is playing games, leave him to play alone, but, be nice about it. He will see the error in his ways very quickly.
As far as the training goes, it isn't that big a deal. The only people that don't make it are the retards and the Burger King Warriors. Over 99% of all who try make it though Marine Boot Camp. The stories are bunk.

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Please do...he'll appreciate it and have it to read when he's lonely. I went into the Air Force in 1991 when I was 18 and that would've been special to have, even tho' he's a guy, I think he'd like it. He's got a lot on his mind right now and you need to back off and let him worry about his future...the Marines is hard and he has a lot to think of, so don't take it bad or anything. Just support him and don't pressure him.

fang58000

I would definitely write him a letter. I bet he would read it a few times after an extremely rough day, and in the Marines, there are gonna be lots of those days.

~*Absolutley Ordinary*~

I would do it. Tell him how much you care about him, how proud you are of him, that you know he can do it, you already miss him, and you can't wait to see him again (assuming all those things would be true). It is going to be a rough time for him and it will give him something positive to think about when it gets tough. I would write him a letter every couple days or so as well. He won't get them if he's in basic, but he'll get them all when he gets out and then he'll know how much you thought about him :-)

Good luck to both of you!

Did You Get That Memo?

Are you going to fool around on him after he leaves? Then no, no letter. If you are not, then yes.

wilandhil

i think it depends on what kind of letter you are going to write him. If you are showing your support then yes. If it is a letter that is going to make him feel worse about leaving then i would say no. it is a hard disicion for anyone to join the service. they know that there will be changes while they are gone. i hope that you are supporting him in this.

good luck to both of you

edit: i am so glad yo love him . my brother was in the army and i pen paled for several of the guys who did not get letters. i also sent care packages in boot camp and while they were sent over seas. he was in Gulf. they loved getting litle things that we take for granted. hint though don't send chocolate to hot places. i sent gum, toothpaste and soap.. and they needed skin so soft by avon. helped with the sand fleas. :)

dancroxmysox@sbcglobal.net

i would write him a letter because when he is gone and not able to talk to you he can bring that letter with him and your feelings will always be with him. so i would do it = )

Lestat

Yes write him the letter

where is everybody?

sure, just make sure it doesn't start: dear John,
don't feel it's your fault that it won't last either. just a heads up. i don't know where you get your numbers from: brain damage, etc.

Moments!

GREAT IDEA!!!!! but make it fun write hey babe or something silly he can smile at when things are rough! wish him luck!!!!!! make it fun don't just write about the marines!!!! put your own twist on it!!!!!

â™¥ Heaven â™¥ Lee â™¥

I would definitely consider putting a letter among his belongings so that when he finds it he has something to really embrace and hold on to.

DaisyDuke99

do it then whenever hes lonely or scared he can read it and think of you....tell him not to open it til he needs it though/

Jane F

Why not just write him a letter telling him what a great guy he is and how proud you are of him for electing to serve our country. Tell him that you'll always be there for him. And after he leaves, continue to write him on a steady basis. That means alot to hear from someone that you love.

kyml35

BY ALL MEANS YES WHILE HE IS IN TRAINING HE CANT RECIEVE MAIL I PROMISE U HE WILL READ IT EVERY NITE MINE DID WHEN HE GOT BACK IT WAS SO WORN I COULDNT READ IT HE WILL LOVE GIVES HIM SOMETHING TO LOOK FORWARD TO COME BACK TO... ALSO U TELL HIM BE SAFE AND I SUPPORT ALL OF THEM WHAT THEY DO FOR US WHAT A MAN U HAVE DONT LET THAT ONE GET AWAY... MY BROTHER IN LAW IS IN THE ARMY IN IRAQ NOW MISS HIM SO MUCH THEY DO GOOD BY US .......... ONE THING DONT CRY WHEN HE GOES BE STRONG.....SEMPER FI

George P

Unless you are going to break up with him in that letter, then write the letter. My gf wrote me a letter and gave it to me to read o nthe long bus ride to my final MEPS. It was a good letter to have with me, and to reread over and over. It was a touch of home. Also, write him often when he gets to basic training. He might not get to reply, but to know you are thinking about him and love him and you are proud of what he is doing might make a terrible day a little better.
Also, when he graduates, if you can, go see him graduate. It would mean so much to him having you there.

When I went to my Air Force basic training, I was nervous, but excited. Mine wasn't as rough as he will go through, but the feels are pretty much the same. He will be fine. Just keep in touch with him, but don't expect him to write you a lot or call you. Its an adjustment for him, but its also an adjustment for you.

snowlover792

si or yes

LousyBeatnik

I say yes, I had a girlfriend who wrote me one and it really helped me out during basic. I recommend it

USMC WIFE

Ok, maybe I'm just in a bad mood, but he's going to BOOT CAP, not WAR. It's really not all that shocking, and when he says some "don't make it through", it means they aren't good enough for the Corps, not that he will friggin die. I wrote my husband a letter to read on his way to his 3rd COMBAT tour in IRAQ, and it served it's purpose... but if you ask me if you write your boyfriend a letter before boot camp it will all seem really stupid when he goes into actual danger. Just tell him you love him and wait until he's actually in boot camp to write him.

Karina

He has a one in five chance of coming home with permanent brain injury. If I were you I'd elope with him somewhere. Otherwise you are going to have to really love him. Could you still love him if he killed someone? How about if he arrested someone and they were tortured in prison? Could you love him with PTS? How about if he took a gun and shot an old person? Or a child? What if he broke down someone's door and terrorized a family in their living room? Could you ever look at him again?

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