Should i get married to a girl who cheated on me cause i joind the airforce?

DAR

No.

LizzieDawn

No, if she cheated on you once because you JOINED, imagine when you have to leave for extended periods! What if you get a field job where you're on the job 4 and off 3? Is she going to cheat on you while you are in the field? What about if you have to go to any type of leadership training? Chances are that she would have cheated on you anyway, but you joining the AF is her way on pinning it on you. Making you the guity party somehow, for "leaving her". I would say stay away!

its a girl! aka chan chan

Nopers. Don't do it. She'll just cheat on you again,and again and again.

nickipettis

No. If her reason for cheating on you is really that you joined the Air Force, she is manipulative and/or petty. She wants to punish you - to control or hurt you - to get her way.

She might never cheat again, but she is still going to be willing to manipulate you, to hurt you, and/or to make you jealous to get her way.

that would be a VERY painful marriage. She has demonstrated that she is neither mature nor trustworthy.

tromboneman327

The real question is:

#1 - Do you love her and she loves you

#2 - Is she sorry for what she did and willing to committ 100% to you.

#3 - Do you forgive her?

If all of these are "YES" then I would say yes, if that is what you want.

I hope this helps. Good luck.

beachbaby

No if she cheated on you one time she will do it again and if her only reason was that you joined the air force then she is just looking for an excuse to break up with you. I am sorry for your loss but there are better out there don't ever forget that.

spyguy

Normally I would say no. But you are the only person that can make this decision. I say go with your heart, but use your head.

Rod B

If she can't respect the relationship enough to keep her legs closed when you do something to further yourself, what makes you think she'll respect it when you're doing nothing at all? I say NO

calraisin_98

Take this from an Air Force wife the military life is hard it is even harder on the military wife if she could not handle it with you joining trust me she will not be able to handle it while you are gone to basic and tech school which will be a long time of her being by herself. Then you have the TDY's and possible deployments and the PCS moves all the time, you need a wife that supports you 100%

freak of nature

no,she will probably do it again and she cheated on you for a retarded reason,I think it is hot when a guy joins the airforce!

addicted2stamping

not unless you WANT to marry someone who minipulates you and controls you to meet just her needs.

Jay

No. Once a chaeter always a cheater. Do you really want to marry someone with a lack of moral fiber and have her raise your childeren?

thislifeisnotforme

Not unless you want to forfeit half your pay and allowances when she divorces you for a higher ranking platoon-mate.

dragonfire

why would you do a dumb thing like that?

nwtobe

She cheated on you because you gave yourself to defend the freedom of this country? Think about that -- what's her next excuse? Can she murder you because you had to leave early for a base exercise? It's just as twisted as cheating on you because you joined the forces.

The decision is yours of course, but I certainly would be as far away from that girl as geography could put me. Sounds like she needs to do some growing up.

Lucky

Are you nuts

wwefan76

No way, you deserve better than that. Once a person cheats on the person they love, the trust between the two people has been broken. Who knows, she could break your heart again by doing the same thing all over again. Keep up the good work in serving our country.

zipman10

No. it will just be a repeat

mochasister

Unless you like dealing with immature and childish women I would say no. That is not the way to handle situations that upset you. Cheating doesn't help anything; discussing the situation and trying to rectify it together is a more responsible and mature response. What happens the next time you do something she doesn't like? Will she do something even more outrageous? I think you better think about this very carefully before you marry this person.

Bobbi J

this is not a real question right??????

mikki

no. if she cheated on you once, she's bound to do it again.

But_Ugly

Go ahead and marry her and raise other mens children.

If she slept with another man because you joined the Air Force, what is her next excuse. Maybe cause you put the roll of toilet paper so it goes over the top of the roll instead of underneath. How about leaving the toilet seat up?

Look man, she is a selfish, self centered little tramp that will make up excuses to sleep with other men. Then every time she gets pregnant you'll have to do DNA tests.

If you don't and decide to divorce her a few years and kids later, guess who gets to pay the child support? It won't be their biological fathers. If the judge desides the children think your their father, then you are and get to pay the child support. The guys she slept with get to keep their money and sleep with other mens wives.

So go ahead and do what you want to do. If you didn't want to do it, you would not have asked this question.

Years down the road, you will remember this answer, when the judge says "It doesn't matter the DNA doesn't match, the kids think you are their father and so I declare you are. Your child support will be $800.00 per month per child for a total of $2400.00 a month. The due date for payment is the 1st day of every month with a ten day grace period". Oh yeah! The Supreme Court has said the Judges can do this, so forget appealing to a higher court.

jhaiop

She would have cheated on you regardless of your employment. Take a hint...what you see at the beginning is what it is...if she cheats now...I am sure it is not the first time. Once you do it, it becomes easier.

djack

no! it doesn't matter why she did it. If you are deployed overseas for months on end, are you going to be able to do your job with other people depending on you with their lives, or are you going to be distracted & worried by what she may or may not be doing back home. NO! NO! NO! The military aspect shouldn't even matter. If someone cheats on you before you're married, leave them right that second. If after you're married, you have to decide if you're working it out or leaving, but you NEVER get married with that already in their past, NEVER!!!

Speedfreak

Red Rocks

nope

Texan Raised

thom

i am sure she has changed......so i say go for it.

i don't think she would think of cheating on you while you are on long deployments, sometimes 8000 miles away from home for 6 to 12 months.

i am sure it was an isolated incident and she will be a good girl from now on. i mean if she moved in to the community where i live no one would take advantage of her because of her age or any lack of real attachment she has for you.

it will be a lot of fun (for her) and a learning experience (for you).

heavenlyhotchild

no ,no ,no!! if she couldnt handle the separation before, she wont be able to handle it day to day, drop her before she screws half your platoon.

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