Should i stay with my boyfriend since hes joining the military?

alfred C

It really depends on how much you care for him. He is soon to step into one of the most difficult times that he will face in life, and he will really need a companion on the outside to reach to for support and happiness - that's you, if you want it to be. He will be gone, months at a time for training, and when he needs to serve a tour, he'll be gone for as much as 18 months. That is a difficult relationship to maintain, but the soldier will need it. It will be a blessing every time you hear from him, and it will be torture worrying about him every day. If you care about him enough to be with him in such times, then I applaud you. But, on the other hand, if you do not feel that you could handle such a strained relationship, and would be happier living life with him as a friend - then that is also a good choice. It all depends on how much he means to you.

But one thing is certain, if you do decide to try a relationship with him while he serves our nation, do not cheat on him. Not just soldiers, but anyone, would much rather be broken up with, than be cheated on. And I know from speaking to relatives, that one of the worst feelings imaginable, is that you come home from months of fighting, only to learn that your lover has forgotten about you. Please spare him such pain.

This is between you and him. If you love him then stay with him and don't worry about what other people say. If your relationship is strong you and him will stay together regardless of your time apart. If it is weak it won't matter if you are apart a year or a week, it won't work out. I've seen strong couples stay loyal while apart for year-long deployments and I've seen weak couples cheat after being gone for a few hours.

Buck Ofama

keep him

Mike

If you both care for each other, then why don't you at least give it a shot.

Jermaine J

Well communication is the key... What does your heart tell you? That is something that the two of you will have to work out on your own. You can't listen to what other people say. John Q Public will tell you anything. But if you really care for him and he cares for you, then yall can make it work.

Improper Bostonian

I think you should stick by him. He will need you in his life more than ever now. I hope you think long and hard about that before making a hasty decision.
Best of luck to you both.

scubasniper

It's your heart, not your friends. Follow it.

*EDIT* Thanks Amanda!! lol

bob j

Dont cheat on him!

snl

if you are really committed to him, you should give it a try. my sister's boyfriend will be gone 6 years in the military, but she is trying to work it out. if you aren't serious about staying with, end it, but if you really have something with him, it should be worth the wait.
hope i helped!

jamie s

The obvious answer is YES... Of course..

But then again.. If you've been together for TWO years...?? And you still don't know if you love him?? Then I don't know.... 2 years is a long time.. If you don't know by now.. Maybe he's not the right one...

Nevada Pokerqueen

Not just your heart USE YOUR HEAD TOO.

If you know that you would never be happy dating or marrying a military man end it now. It will save you grief later. Not everyone can be with a military man and be happy with them working all the time, long hours, and being gone a lot or even going to war.

I don't care how much you thing you care for him it may not work. Search your heart and soul for the answer. True love will always wait and be patient. But infatuation will never do so.

My Army son married a girl who planned to join the Army but she failed the officer testing. So she was out in the free world not the confined world of the Army. During my sons first tour (12 mos) to Iraq she moved on to a job in Florida and gave him a "dear john letter".
He was devistated and it cost him pain and suffering when he was in a danger zone (not good). He could do nothing so far away....he was helpless and she had all the freedom to do whatever.

Sure they thought they loved each other but with 12 months (or even 15 mos) abscence it did not hold up. Thank God no kids. But she told him she did not want to be married to a soldier. Plain and Simple.

Make sure you learn all you can and that it is the life for you. If not move on. The end result of dating should be marriage.

siddika d

I think u should stay with him he probley needs u and wat if u break up with him then he has a hard time in mlitery school.

tkdxdancer

If you care about him stay with him. My boyfriend just got back from USMC boot camp, and he's about to head off on Tuesday for more training *he graduated boot last Wednesday* for about 3 months. What branch is he going into? I know Army and Air Force *I don't know about the Navy* get to take their cell phones to basic with them. But seriously, don't listen to your friends, they sound immature. Big deal, you won't see him all the time. Women *and men* go through deployments all the time and they stick with their spouse.

Alysha

i think thats a personal question thats up to you and how you feel... me personally i would

also im joining the marines and starting a new relationship im scared to see what he does.

but good luck and stay strong no matter what

Valerie M

If you are sercior stay with him whatis the diffent between collage and militry

Mogollon Dude

Keep the friend ship . But the separation may/will cause the relationship to crumble .

chilebreath

Dump the boy and get on with your life. As a US military man in uniform he's going to be busy taking care of a lot of willing ladies while he's away from home. Deal with it!

Open your eyes

He will die, you will cry and that will be that. What's the point? Find someone that will be by your side. You will need it during the next few years because America is about to sink beneath the waves. You are about to become a nation that resembles the third world.

tears

My boyfriend just joined the army,part time as a Biochemical tester, and we have been together for 2 years and seven months. he is leaving for boot camp for 11 weeks, which of course is the summer before I go to college. Its not that big of a deal because the college I am going to is close to home and he will be going to community college. I love him to death, but I dunno if I can stand the thoughts of not seeing him for a whole summer. Plus to add on to that, question for everyone here : if you are part time as say, a biochemical tester in the army do you HAVE to shave your head? Is that just for boot camp purposes or is that all the time??

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