Should my husband get out of the Army?

Jolly1

The military is an excellent career for many people. Are there dangers and risks? Sure, but patriots accept this risk to defend us.

I put in my time, as did my father and uncles. My younger sister is a Colonel in the Air Force (she's taking a posting in Iraq in a few months). I have a brother-in-law in the Guard, just back from Iraq, and his eldest son just went off to basic.

Remember, folks, freedom isn't free. Whatever you husband's decision, I want you to personally know that I thank him for his service.

cam1princess

www.emilitary.org

The Military Family Network is a resource for military and their families,they are not the military and are able to assist you finding any information you need. They are free to register to their site and help ALOt of families.

Tell them Colleen sent you.

Goodluck~Peace,Love,Health & Happiness~Extended to you and your family

NONAME

xadralix

Fisrt of all that should be his choice not yours. If you are depressed you are not in the best position to ask him to leave the military. If he cant deployed, that would actually be great because hegats to stay with you and since you have a new baby and are depressed you need him around. If you guys can come unp with a better plan as far as housing, healthcare and a job then go ahead and leave the military. But to leave without any garanteed job or money for house, food and healthcare its not the best choice especially now with the baby.
You should get counseling, and i hope everything turns out good for you and your family. Theres a lot of resources for you on post that youre not going to get if you guys decide to leave. Just think it over. if that was me i would stay. Iv e been trough a lot of S@%$** with my husband being in the military but when I wigh in the options and what our lives would be like if gets out i pick the military in a heartbeat.

just4now

As an ex soldier I have to say if he isn't deploy able and there is a way for him to stay in. HAVE HIM STAY IN..the money is alot better then out here and THE MEDICAL BENEFITS CAN'T BE BEAT.

All and all though leave the decision up to your husband, you don't want to push him either way its his career choice!!!

This is very rare for me to state but I am compelled:

How shallow, how selfish, how one-sided, how ignorant (more thoughts are here, but you get the point.)

What about him? This is all YOU YOU YOU...

Maybe he'll wise up and divorce you.

PS:
I just read your questions... you are doing community service due to legal difficulties.

You also state you are depressed.

Then your additional comments here state he wants out.

YOU need guidance and counseling. (If what you state is TRUE so does HE.)

NO ONE should live with their mother after marriage unless it is extreme hardship. Freeloaders can be found anywhere.

PETERK - there was nothing wrong with her question. Many people in the military go through stage when they are trying to decide to stay in or get out. Heck most people go through it every reenlistment.

Now as for the answer to you question.

Honestly I think you and you husband have some real issuses that need to be worked out. You for your depression which is understandable and for your husband the fact that he is stupid....

Why would you want to join with the intent of trying to die. He went through a whole lot of paper work and trying just so he could go to Iraq and try to die. Why didnt he just go to the local pawn shop and buy a gun or pop some pills or something. As far as I am concerned yes you need to get out of the military. Not for you sake but for the sake of all the men that will be working around him. I know I would hate to know he was watching my back. So for the militarys sake please get out and go live back home with mom.

Sidoney

If it were me I'd say get the h ell out and now! But just really look at the situation from his side as well, if he really wants to get out, then I don't even see why you're asking? You want him home, he wants to be home, he's going to get an honorable discharge? Game over, please let him stay! I want our honored soldiers to have great lives

momsapplepeye

Sounds like he may well choose to leave,but being in the army is steady too. You must live on base it helps as they are not paid exactly but have comfortable decent lives there from what my friends tell me. Wanting to be near familiar places and people is quite natural so I wish both of you my best. Look through Yahoo groups there may be something there about ex and present army wives. Would be lots of great advice there. I will say a prayer for wisdom as you consider some big changes, take care.

LokoLobo

You need to figure out your priorities.. then decide what to do..

phwar68

What a spineless question. What does your husband want?
Actually, your question has more spine than some of the spineless answers you got.

Fat Kids Are Hard To Kidnap

Who care's about work...wouldn't you rather have your hubby home? don't miss the chance while you have it

curiositykillsthecat

Well, welcome to the real world!

oneakmusic

if you don't want him to go to war - get him out of there. Its coming.

breenie

yes

What I Say

I agree with the "get out now" answers, but you made a serious mistake to post this question on Yahoo answers and questions (especially in the military category) because the message boards are SWARMING with military recruiters and military personnel (just read what "joe m" wrote) who can and will try to track you and possibly even punish you for having made it look like it's a desireable thing for your husband to "get out" of the army. And you can't even delete your question because Yahoo keeps a record of all posts.

Good luck (and may God have mercy for your husband's sake).

Happy

It's a scary time in the military. If your husband is in deed not able to be deployed because of medical problems, then I wouldn't be to worried about him staying in the military. I'm a former military spouse and I do miss Tricare Healthcare, the Commissary, the Outdoor Adventure Program and the BX. I do not miss the hassles of military life.

mel

If he kills a human being fighting in a war then he will be the one with depression. He would be a changed person by the time he comes home. Life would never be the same again. Look into the future and see what could happen if he stays there.

smokingstonersweetheart

army is not the safest place for your man.. get out while u can!!

TonyB

So, You don't want to work - but you're willing to send your husband off to be killed so that you can sit at home and be a "homemaker".

There's a term for that. It's called Selfish.

Lady Luck

yes

armywifeAshley

ask yourself this will your hubby be happy out of the military? We are stationed in germany it is great here, yea i miss my family and friends, but i wouldnt pass up this opportunity for the world.....find out what he really wants to do! if you need more suport join my group!!!!!

www.myspace.com/militarywifelife

if he stays in the Army he might have trouble getting promoted because of his issues so i think you should consider him getting out. He might be able to get some sort of civilian job related to his Army work?

Dr Christian Troy

tell him to come up with some illness and they'll let him go.

that's what i'd do.

Simple Minded

I feel there is no right or wrong answer.
It is the conviction of your husband.
Is the Iraq war justified, as perceived by your husband?
What are your convictions and his convictions?
Can your marriage withstand the hopefully, short, separation?
There are a lot of issues to consider.
Does your husband believe that US interests should come before the individuals' rights?

I really do not know. Hope that it works out fine for you.

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