What did my husband die for?

The Cupcake Bunny

Unfortunately, nothing to be extremely proud of. This is the worst time to be in the army, especially since you know that the person who decides what you'll do has no more brains than a goldfish.

Besides, what point is there in these wars anyway? All it is, is innocent people killing other innocent people. Soldiers of one country, killing those of another. This is ridiculous. Instead of these billions of dollars going in to fund the war, we should be trying to find new ways of powering our cars, without the need for petrolium. In fact, there already are, for example with corn, but there arent enough "corn stations"(at least that's what I'll call them) for it to be practical. We should be thinking of other ways to solve countries' problems than with stupid wars.

I am deeply sorry for your loss, and hope that this doesn't happen to any others of your loved ones. I know your husband was fighting to defend his country, but there really is nothing to defend. We weren't just attacked. America is the country that started the whole war. I really hope you feel better. The war will hopefully be over soon.

KCBA

You have my sympathy and my heartfelt prayers for you and your family. I feared that nothing but tragedy would come from this war. I would suggest that you get into contact with Gold Star Families For Peace. People there have gone through what you are going through, and feel the same way you do.

http://www.gsfp.org

succubus

Your husband died to support Bush's push into the Middle East to secure oil for Americans to buy and drive SUV to make big business bigger and richer, to use up the world's resources as much as they want with no care as to shortages and damage to the earth.

prole1984

Sorry about your husband. Bush lied and people died . ID LOVE TO BE ABLE TO GIVE YOU A GOOD REASON , BUT I CANT

cantcu

You ask a good question, and one that many have asked since Iraq had nothing to do with 9/11 or terrorists!

He was doing his duty, and unfortunately, people in the military don't get a say into their deployment, right or wrong, and there has been a lot of wrong lately!

I don't know what you feel, but as a medic in Vietnam, I have a sense that most on these boards don't have as they have never been in combat!

Sorry for your loss and the good that will come out of it hopefully, we will never go down that road again! Unfortunately, we didn't seem to have learned that lesson from Vietnam!

What you can do is to make sure he did not die for nothing!

Mahatma Coat

This woman is a lying troll. She is Brazilian and probably isn't 25 years old, let alone been married to a serviceman for 25 years.

Gardenfoot

There is nothing we can say to alleviate your grief and would not want to minimize your loss. Your husband is a national treasure as well as a national tragedy.
The Nation called, and he answered that call. His selfless and courageous actions have kept many people safe, not only the Iraqi citizens, but citizens of this world.
As for why for he died, while other soldiers lived, we may never know in this life time.

J D

omg i am so sorry for your lose, i cant comprehend what it must feel like, you'll be in my prayers, once again im sorry

Griever

Deepest sympathies to you, ma'am.

First, in regards to your question, you're right in that we have no business in the Middle East and that it's certainly not doing any good to be there. This war was begun in the interests of control, pure and simple, and was planned long before we had anything close to a valid reason to be there.

There are a plethora of details to be researched on this topic, and I'll not turn your question here into a call to activism, but I do highly suggest that you educate yourself on these topics, as one who now has the same terrible understanding that thousands of families before you have been made aware of.

http://dailystrength.org/support/Death_Dying/Widows_Widowers/

http://www.militarywidows.org/

The first link above is a support center for widows and widowers with no real political bias, their only interest is guiding you through the things you'll be feeling.

The second link, militarywidows.org, is obviously aimed specifically at the spouses of soldiers, and may be of help to you also.

Finally, if you want to look deeper into the dark underside of our government's reasoning, these two links may be of some help:

www.antiwar.org
www.infowars.com

Again, deepest condolences to you ma'am, and I wish you well.

Curt

He died for you, me and everyone else in America. You might not realize it but winning this war could greatly change the course of history for the better. Losing could mean World War III. He also died for the men he was fighting with him. I am sorry for your loss and hope that you will one day understand.

Katrina-Saying you support our troops but want them home is an oxymoron. You can not support them if you will not let them do their job. You obviously don't know what is going on over there.

MommyDonni

Your husband died so you could ask this very question. Your husband was in the ARMY to serve his Country. He died a hero. I'm very sorry for your loss. I think you need to stand up for what your husband believed in and just be proud that he fought and died for the freedom of our great country.

My husband is in Iraq right now and I count my blessings after every phone call I get. I'm not sure that this war is a great thing but no war is. I do know however that our troops need support from home. They need appreciation for doing their duties.

BeachBum

I am ex-Army and feel your pain. I've had many old friends suffer from this war.

I can't answer your question though. All I can say is that he died doing his job with honor. He was a patriot and when he was called to duty, he went.

militarychild

I am sorry for your loss. I believe your husband died to keep you and this country safe. Again I am sorry for your loss; I cannot imagine how it would feel to lose someone I loved to this war. I hope you are well or will be well soon.

JAS

Juliana, he died cause he was a soldier.It could be happend in another situation, like a summer trip, skiing, riding, fishing, and so on.He did his job.He had a mission to do, in the name of his country and its policy.He was payed for fight against anothers foreign armies.Anyone can die in different ways.ThatÂ´s the way life goes, someone appears, takes our heart and breath away, we love him ou her, and, suddenly, we don't know the reason why, God calls him or her to His Arms.What can I do for you is to wish you best and, sooner or later, the appropriate comfort for your soul, will bright up.It's a matter of time.Best wishes.JosÃ© Roberto.

noonecanne

I am so sorry for your loss. I'm sure that he was a very brave man, and you must be a very brave woman to deal with this. I don't agree with this war either. I don't know how your husband felt, but no matter what, he died supporting the country that he loved. Again, I am so sorry for your loss.

Dan

I grieve with you for your loss. I am so sorry.

But you should note your husband did not die in vain. His service in the Middle East is protecting the freedom loving people of the world all over.

You must understand that it is hard to see the direct results of this war or the benefits for the American people or the world. But without it, the seeds of democracy would never have spread. Lebanon is now a free country, which situation this war was a catalyst. Saudi Arabia, too, now allows women to vote, again, an idea sparked by this war. These countries will continue to develop, and you must realize the region will become much more stable as they grow and people begin to realize that democracy is good.

An nation of one leader or party is at the whim of such, and that nation immediately is much less stable. Democracy allows all to be heard and have a say, which creates clear-minded throught and stability much more regularly.

Please understand it is an important mission and your husband was no doubt an integral part of it.

Very respectfully,

DAE

Rebecca V

I am so sorry, I can't say I know how you feel but I do fear it. My husband of 4 years is in the Canadian Military & is going overseas in '08. Sometimes I feel so sad about it, but at the same time I am proud of who my husband is. He is extremely compassionate & wants to really help people. He's a great dad & a beautiful husband, he is torn between leaving us and doing what he feels he should do fo the people of Afghanistan and if he should die there, I really don't know how I'll recover from it. All I can say is that I love him and I'm happy for the times we've had together. Please just remember who he was & that he loved you.

kelannde

Juliana:
How would your husband feel about you asking that question? Would he be proud to know that you thought his choice in life (to serve in the military) was all for nothing?
I know you must be tremendously sad, and I feel for you in your time of grief, but don't compound it by questioning something your husband chose to do. He obviously thought it was the right thing at one point, or he would not have joined the guard. Keep his memory alive, and don't doubt HIS convictions.
Good luck to you and your family.

Cristina W

Hello Juliana.
I am deeply sorry for your loss.
He died for your country.
Good Luck!!!

1st Buzie

As a Viet Nam Vet. 1st of all I can't tell you how sorry I am about your loss. I lost friends in Nam. I saw death of our troops. Your husband was protecting all of us back home. The war on terror right now is in Iraq and Afghanistan. We were attacked on 9/11. I'm sure your husband would rather have fought over there than in Chicago, Biloxi, or Los Angles. he was a brave man and I for 1 appreciate what he did and grieve your loss

jamie

Your husband died for our country, our freedom, our liberty. He went to war knowing that there was a chance for him to die... but he risked it anyways for you, me, and everyone else living in this country. I'm thankful for heroes like you husband and God Bless You

GuitarMan

I'm sorry, it is a tragedy. He died because the intelligent segment of the country is apathetic and refuses to act or at least vote. The rest have voted and elected a corrupt drunk illiterate and stupid liar who sent him, and 3100+ others, to death over his lies and personal business interests. Speak up, vote smartly and give support to the intelligent efforts to truly support the troops and bring them home instead of the use and abuse the republican malice, stupidity and greed have exposed them to.

Nationalist

You are a liar. Your husband didn't die in Iraq. I know because I read the rest of your Q's and A's. Get a life.

Jana Q

All I can say is YES he did die for his country, and I thank him for it. His country includes me, and I am in debt.

Christopher M

First off i cant begin to describe how sorry i am for your loss.your husband was more than brave to fight in such a war and you both have my upmost respect for all you have done not only for this country but iraq.i write to you as not only a friend but a fellow service member.Im a Marine and have been to iraq 2 times already,just getting state side for the most recent last week.as soon as i read your post i had to reply as soon as possible.there are no words that will ever make the pain go away nor subside all the hate you have for this war right now.i write to you not only in hopes of giving comfort but in an attempt to tell you what your husband layed down his life for.the war is something no american will understand unless they are fighting it.Its another world than what CNN shows it to be,a powerless nation that we strive to make a better place daily.while on patrol once a mother of 2 little girls stopped me and gave me flowers for my kevlar.in broken english they told me thank you for comming from so far to help in all that is going on.even though the people vary from certain parts of the country,most of the ones i see want us there.the children would jump up and down and "america good",give us thumbs up and shake our hands as we would pass thru on regular foot patrols.to make a long story short,your husband put down his life for millions of people who needed him,who look to them for safety and hope.please contact me if you ever have anymore questions about anything.when you pray to your husband tonight,tell him a fellow service member and marine says thank you

sjsosullivan

He died to help others be able to have a life like ours. And, in a roundabout sort of way, to ensure our safety, by helping to bring stability to a region that seems to always be balanced on the edge of a sword.

I'm sorry. I wish it could have been me, instead. Then you two could have had your wonderful marriage. I am moved to tears at the loss of every soldier I read about. Mainly, I guess, because I didn't feel like I was done with my service to the country yet, when I was medically discharged.

Combat, and fighting, is a scary, angry, and just plain horrible creature. The worst part is that there was no defined battlefield, with the armies of an opposing nation there to fight. Instead, there was peace, then violence and death, followed by stunned quiet... It's no way for a soldier to go. A soldier fights an enemy, face to face, while assassins use obfuscation to strike those who are unaware, like a coward with no dignity or honor...

I wish you could know just how sorry I am, for every soldier out there, who dies in service to their country, defending others. Please accept my deepest, and sincerest regards and respects. I salute your husband's memory, as well as your fortitude to vocalize.

Phil M

War is War, and it is Hell for all who are involved. It is sad that you do not support the troops though, because Your Husband DID, and He Died for what He believed in; you do not have to believe in the politics of war; but Believe in your Husband, He knew what he was doing when he enlisted; and He loved His fellow men and His Country, just as he loves you. and in many ways the commitment to country is the same.

armywifes3lb

Well I'm sorry to hear about this

whathappentothisnation

I am sorry for your loss, war is never good for any nation. But why don't you take a look at what you are NOT GOING to hear or read from our nations "news sources".

By saying that you "do not support this war", you are also saying that; "you don't support all the good things that my husband and others like him have done in Iraq".

"Truth be known, there are a lot of good things happening in Iraq. Consider the following:

* 47 countries have re-established embassies in Iraq.

* The Iraqi government currently employs 1.2 million Iraqi citizens.

* In their school systems, 3,100 schools have been renovated, 364 are undergoing rehabilitation, 263 are now under construction and 38 new schools have been opened.

* In higher education, they have 20 universities, 46 institutes or colleges and four research centers currently operating.

* In January 2005, 25 Iraqi students were the first to come to U.S. under the Fulbright scholarship program.

* The Iraqi Navy is operational and has five 100-foot patrol crafts, 34 smaller vessels and a naval infantry regiment.

* The Iraqi Air Force consists of three operational squadrons, which include nine reconnaissance aircraft, three C-130 transport aircraft and will soon add 16 UH-1 (Huey) and four Bell Jet Ranger helicopters.

* The Iraqi police have more than 55,000 fully trained and equipped police officers and, through the five operating police academies, they produce more than 3,500 new officers each eight weeks.

* 96 percent of the Iraqi children under the age of 5 have received the first two polio vaccinations.

* 4.3 million Iraqi children were enrolled in primary school by last October.

* There are 1,100 ongoing building projects, which include 364 schools, 67 public clinics, 15 hospitals, 83 railroad stations, 22 oil facilities, 93 water facilities and 69 electrical facilities.

* There are 1,192,000 cell phone subscribers in Iraq, and telephones use has increased by 158 percent.

* The current Iraqi media consists of 75 radio stations, 180 newspapers and 10 television stations.

* The Baghdad Stock Exchange has been operating for almost three years.

* Two candidates in the recent Iraqi presidential election debated openly on Iraqi television."

** "Meanwhile, slum-dwellers utterly neglected by Saddam Hussein's regime are getting running water and sewage systems for the first time. The Baathist regime left the country in a desolate state while Saddam built palaces."

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