What if you parents dont want you to join army?

Perro De Lava

Explain to them your more likely to get hurt or killed going to school..

So should you drop out of school and live in a bunker till hell freezes over??

patriotic italienneâ„¢ v1.01

If you're 18, they don't have a choice. I told my son not to do it, he did anyway. He's in AIT, I couldn't be prouder.

Drew

Listen, if you're over eighteen, man up and just say, "Mom, Dad, I love you, but this is my life and my decision." They won't like it, but they'll accept it eventually.

Heh, I like the army career office bit, I had to walk four miles to get to the Marine Recruiters office when I was seventeen because my parents wouldn't give me a ride.

frangipani2124

Listen to your parents!

I â™¥ my Irishman!

If it's really what you want, try to persuade them. If you're 18 or older, just go ahead and enlist...they can't stop you really

BDZot

Yeah, once you're 18, then you make your own choices.

LIFE is unsafe. You could get run over by a bus tomorrow, and that's as likely as getting shot while in the military.

Brian

If those are the only reasons that they have for trying to keep you out of the service then they need to come up with something better. Hell its unsafe driving back and forth to work,school etc etc. You could get shot at the bank, at school, etc etc. Try sitting down with them and talking about why you want to join the service.

dottie42

If you are old enough to sign the dotted line your Mom can do nothing However if your underage she does have the right to say no. I feel for your mom She must be scared to Death. But I am Extremely Proud that you are willing to join the military in these scary times you should be commended for your spirit and attitude. Give your mom some understanding and also try and let her know why you want this and how much it means to you. As a mom we hear and see everyday of young soldiers who go to basic training and are sent overseas to fight and they are not ready. My personal views would cloud this answer so I will not express them here. Just know it is your mothers love for her son not her wanting to control you. No mother wants to ever bury their Child But dont Let that stop you just be prepared to grow up real fast be scared silly and fight for your Country with HONOR you parents will come around and if not know even though they do not want you to do this they are VERY PROUD of you

Twilight

Your parents speak from years and years of experience when they tell you their true feelings it comes from the heart.

Yes, if you are 18 years old you have the right to do whatever you want to do EXCEPTION DRINK.

I have just learned two days ago that my ex-son-in-laws son is on life support and there is no hope of him recovering. He's 18 years old. Then yesterday I heard that his father's health isn't doing well with all the pain and loss that he is feeling knowing that he is about to lose his son and that there is nothing he can do to stop it.

His son made a silly mistake and thought that he knew what was best for him but unfortunately he should have listened to others and he would still be smiling and laughing and joking around. I really loved that kid!!!

My dad loved my mom so much that when she had a massive heart attack my father had one as well. That's what the loss of a loved one can do to a loved one and at the very least it just makes them hurt for years and years and years at losing someone they love.

Please check out everything and make sure the recruiters are not lying to you about anything at all before you make this decision.

UPDATE: They removed the life support machines.

well once you're 18 they don't have any responsibility over you and you can pretty much do whatever you want

opus dei

once youre 18 they have no say so in what you do. if you want to join the army then go for it. it's a great choice and you don't need your parents blessing to serve your country.

good luck

crop13b

If you really want to join and your at least 18 than do it, if your not 18 then wait until you are join. If you feel its what you want to do than you should.

Amy S

Once you turn 18, the decision is in your hands, not your parents' hands.

If, at that point, you still want to enlist, have the following conversation with your parents. Hopefully it will help. "Mom, I have made a decision for my life that I know you won't be happy about. But it's my decision to make. This will be the most difficult thing I've ever done, and I really need your support. I'm going through boot camp and training, and then, yes, I may be deployed to a dangerous place. I can do that with your love and support, or I can do it with your love but no support. I'd like to know that I have your support for my life, even when you don't agree with my decisions, and I can't imagine going through all this without it. I will if I have to, but I don't want to spend 4 years alienated from you because of this decision."

Most parents will come around, if you let them know how important the decision is to you, and how much you need their unconditional support.

Rob

Hey man, I'm in the same boat as you, My parents don't want me to join the army either. But I really don't care what they think. Next year when I graduate I'm joining weather they want me to or not. I mean I love my parents, I love 'em to death. But I've wanted to do this since I was 5 years old. It's all I've really wanted to do. And I'm not going to let them talk me out of it. And don't let anybody talk you out of doing something you want to do. Because say we don't join. I don't know about you, but If I was to say "Ok mom, I'll be a good son and do what you tell me" I'll regret it for the rest of my life, Its all I've wanted to do. So good luck man.

collinbarnette

My 17 year old Daughter is asking me to sign the papers to allow her to enlist in the Army. She sees all the good reasons (pay, training, adventure) and says that she understands the risks (war, the middle east and other places they hate Americans).

The Military job is to protect our freedoms, sometimes by putting people in harms way. My mind comes back to the fact that our military is involved in this no win bottomless pit of the middle east. This is what your parents are feeling.

I am proud of my daughter and you and support the drive to start life with good foundation. But for myself I am terrified. I would feel better if she could find what she wants in the Navy thinking it safer but really who can say.

I'm just saying that I can see both sides of your situation because I am living it right now. If the Army is what you truly want, who can in good conscience tell you no. Stay sharp, pay attention and make the most of it. We have the strongest, best trained and equipped military in the world but that doesn't really comfort those who have lost loved ones.

Eric P

If you are 18 then it does not matter, they can't run your life forever. Make your own choices your a man now

fight obama's lies

Driving a city bus can get you killed so can sitting in a college classroom.

If you're 18, go on down. If you have access to a car and your friends will cover for you, go with that - though I hate the idea of deceiving my parents. If you feel that you have to be furtive about it, so be it.

I would examine how much control that they believe that they have over you. Get all the paperwork done and if you feel comfortable with being a soldier and enlist, you can write them a note from MEPS telling them that you are safe and see you in a few months.
Don't forget, "I love you MOM"

My parents hated that I was going into the Marines but they supported my aims and commitment.

Man, Go with it.
HOOORAH!

Hillary J

First of all it is your choice if you sign on that line or not if your over 18, they can't stop you.

Now my suggestion would be to go talk to the recruiters (try a few different branches to see what is the best fit). Why do you need your mom's permission to go talk to the recruiter? Research MOS's (military occupational specialties) and find out what ones will interest you. After you've talked to the recruiters, picked out a few MOS's and get your ASVAB and everything done sit down and have an adult conversation about it with your parents. Tell them why you want to do this, what the upsides are and honestly discuss the negatives. Let them voice their concerns and respect them. Let the recruiter come and talk to your parents, it's part of his job to answer their questions.
Remember the decision to serve is yours and yours alone. If this is something you truely want you you may have to stand up to your parents and do what is right for you even if it goes against their wishes. There'll will be harder things to face in the military. But I think if you show your parents that you have researched and thought this through it'll help a lot in making it easier to accept for them.

MissMP

Ultimately, you are the person who has to wake up and live the entire day walking in your own shoes, not your parents. Whether you walk in those shoes proud of the decisions you have made, or full of regret toward the decisions you wish you would or could have made is up to you.

There are many jobs in this world that are unsafe, full of danger, and full of stress. These include the Army, being a police officer, driving a taxi (that could get car jacked), working in a gas station (that could get robbed), etc. Get the picture?

The big difference between these jobs here is that some jobs give you a weapon to protect yourself in return, great benefits financially and educationally, and you are actually bettering yourself and the world around you.

Just remember that no matter what anyone tells you, living each day hiding in a shell is no way to live at all. Go for your dreams and live an adventure... why not?

Tell your parents if they want you to be happy, then they will at least explore the Army option with you... you don't have to make any decisions yet. Just check it out together. This way they can talk to the recruiter with you and see how it all works with out it seeming like a big secret behind their backs. A recruiter will even come to your house or meet you out somewhere. Good luck.

Josh

if your near a recuriter stations (basically if you live in city/suburb) they will come to you and drive you to the recruiting office, then drive you back

and this idea that you're in extreme danger because your in the army is just wrong.

do you have any idea how LOW casualties are? You want casualties, look at a war that took place in say, early twentieth century or mid twentieth century.

Our casualties are almost non-existant compared to other wars.

And yeah, look at the navy/air force too.

Ex Air Force/Navy

They love you and don't want you to be killed. They most likely want you to go to college and have a nice future. If one goes into the Army and drives a tank for four years what kind of a job can one get?

subwm4bush

Jeb Bush does not have any of his sons serving, if you don't have to economically, don't! Go to college or just get a decent job!

Untamed Rose

compromise and join the air force or navy....
or just do what you wish to do your 18...parents tend to get over such things.

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