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Jay B
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Damn you joined the Armed Forces?..I'm sorry man!
Listen...I know your recruiter didn't tell you this but......you're most likely to deploy somewhere for a year or more.
It's true..the recruiter NEVER tells you that....
But hey...do what you gotta do...that's all I gotta say! |
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zion
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If you have not 'signed the papers' or given an oath, you are not in the military yet- this could be a good thing because that gives you time to actually discuss this with your family. I understand this is your decision, but sometimes, no matter how old we are, we don't have as much knowledge as we think we do. I would say talk it over with them before you sign any type of paperwork; if this is truly what you want, they will see that, and hopefully advice you and hope that you have a safe trip to bootcamp. I admire your passion for wanting to serve your country and I wish you the very best. |
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Tom C
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tell them before you leave. but make sure you try to leave on good terms with them. and good for you |
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Jerri B
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now would be a good time =) |
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lilcheer
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i would say sit them down or at dinner. tell them calmly and tell them that youll b allright and you will send them a ton of letters. they will be a bit freaked out at first, but im sure thell be proud of you for your courage! |
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madi
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Just tell them that you are happy with what you are doing and you have your own life....Tell them sooner not later |
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Why does everyone hate me?
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Be a man and do what you want to do with your life! |
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Dr Joe Raw
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I was 19 when I joined and I wouldn't trade that experience for the world. I wanted to be a soldier from the time I was in kindergarten. If I hadn't ever enlisted I would have wondered and been filled full of regret the rest of my days. I have two stepsons that have been raised by their Father and Grandmother not to serve their country either but let others do it for them. They are selfish, cowards too. Do what you want and to hell with what everybody else thinks. The military is a family unto itself. That's all any real man or woman needs.
I agree that you need to wait until the day you leave so, they can't talk you out of it. |
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bryanna s
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im happy you chose to join, its brave. good luck. tell them asap, they are your fam. you've made your decision, live it out. |
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shelley1975
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You are right, you ARE an adult now, and you should tell them as soon as possible. Most parents tell their children things they'd rather them do/not do and at the end of the day, they could possibly be even happy for you, since you do know what you want to do with your life.
Tell them exactly what you have written in your question here. You have made your own decision and you are doing what you think is best for YOU. |
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celtic_princess
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I would tell them this is what you want to do. And that you really want their support even if they are unhappy. You are an adult and know what you want for yourself.
And tell them that once you sign the contract, it is too late and you have to go. |
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OCONUS
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i think you should tell them, if your close to ur family and they support your choices, and remember after you join you cant go back cause them you will be AWOL (absent with out authorized leave)
But if they hate the armed forces join then tell em. |
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Sick Of Your Ish
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You are your own man....and you can do what you want...it makes me proud that you want to serve your country.....your parents will be scared...shi****s...but that is what parents do. You should tell them, just so they can prepare themselves for what is at hand. You are not throwing your life away...you are making a commitment to your country....and in the end they will respect what you are doing even if they are scared. Bush has to pull out eventually, (hopefully very soon with elections coming up). But, when they can realize the long term benefits of what you have chosen to do, they will be so grateful/proud of the decision that you made! |
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Justice35
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It isnt about being a man I understand how you feel to a degree tell them when your ready, I have not told my mother in law I have decided to go Active duty nor do I plan to until I am ready... my husband and children support me stand with me on this right now for me I dont need any negative comments about my decision . You need to be in the right frame of mind while your away and if you think you will be stressed because of how they feel or what they may say then dont tell them. At the same time I understand your proud of what you have done as I am proud of you, it is a big step to join the military especially during war time and you want your family to support you , they may be upset and even say things that will hurt your feelings but in the end they may come around. My dad was upset I joined because of my children he worried for them, but when I got his letter in BCT I cried he said he had never been more proud of me in his life , my mother in law was told last right before I left for BCT and all she had to say was I hope you dont expect me to stop working to take care of those children, in which it hurt me they were never thought of when my husband and I had to do our Family Care Plan.. it hurt because its ok for my husband to be in the Army but not me...I have learned you have to do what you feel is best for you , explain to them your reasons why you joined and let them know that no matter what your still going in but want them to support you, it wont be easy but in time it will get better.
Happy New Year!
Armywife & Soldier |
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forgivebutdonotforget911
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If you can not face the "friendly fire" of your family, what makes you think you can face the unfriendly fire of an enemy?
Figure out which branch you want to join. After you have done that, tell them you are 19, you are an adult and you have decided to join the (Army/Navy/Air Force/Marines.)
By having a firm plan in your mind, you will be better able to handle their comments. And good luck... |
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Bleed the Freak
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If you are an adult like you say you shouldn't be afraid to tell your parents anything. That and your parents have different beliefs than you. You need to respect that. I am active duty right now I wish I would have never done it. I know that won't change your mind. I remember how I was so I won't waste my breath. Trust me recruiters are liars and when you sign those papers your not signing for the bonuses you signing to get screwed. The college money you can get grants that work out way better. but as I said Its a waste to explain anymore I know how you feel but what I have said will set in with you the first day of basic. Good luck.. |
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alaskamusher2
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You are a member of the US Armed Forces (or will be). Walk right up to the family matriarch or patriarch and say "I have joined the U.S. _ _ _ _ _ _! Or are you afraid of your mommy and daddy? |
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ArmyWifey
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You should call a family meeting and then inform everyone in a calm, adult fashion about your decision and why you made that decision. That you would like their blessing and support but you plan to continue this course with or without it. If you do it now rather than the day before they will not see YOU as a coward who can't face his own family. (Not saying you are just that that's what they could say).
Blessings on your choice and you new course in life. While it will never be easy it will be rewarding! |
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mike patton
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Can I recommend you watch the movie "starship Troopers"? The situation you are having is the same exact situation the main character in the movie had.. watch and see what happened to him :P lol I have a feeling u'll enjoy it. |
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out2lunch4now2
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Write the following letter from basic training/boot camp-
"All is well. The food is great. I love my new clothes. Having a great time. By the way, I'm in the (insert service branch here). I hope to be back after I make the world safe for apple pie, grits and little babies." |
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Hi Y'all!
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Be a man and tell them now. If you're too afraid to do that...you DO NOT even need to be joining the military! |
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Kirk Neel
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If your old enough to join then your old enough to make your own decisions. So why it matter what they say....... |
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Core
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Do it the Day before your ready to go to boot camp...cause then they can't stop you and they won't have much time to give you hell if your already gone. |
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star
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Tell them once you're there |
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pplz1st
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OMG that is going to be a major hurt,don't sign HOW COULD YOU?! |
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